In more recent years I have found myself enjoying sensual massages much more than trying to go the full nine yards (wonder where that expression came from?).  For those of you in that same category, what have you found to be especially satisfying in how it is done?  Techniques obviously vary including those who go slow and easy with a lot of teasing, to those that include prostrate stimulation, to those that pound away, to those that like to act it out a bit with moans and allowing touching, to those that like to bring you to the edge and then back off.  So, let's have a discussion on what is appealing and what brings you back for more.

While receiving I like a good slow deep pressure massage, but the gal has to know what she is doing or she could cause damage to the spine.  (You never press down on the spine, only on the sides.)

I love variations like Thai and Lomi-lomi that involve manipulating the limbs, and of course tantra that involves bringing the guy to the edge of release and then backing off.  I also love face, scalp, feet, and hands to be massaged.

One nice thing about AMPs is that they often do an excellent job at massage, but sometimes you have to ask and insist on it.  Most guys are not that much into it, apparently.

The whole nine yards:

There are two theories at least on the origin of the term:

The first posits that it refers to how much concrete you want to buy from the cement mixer truck.  For a small job, you might need only a few yards of concrete, but if you have a major job, you buy "the whole nine yards".  Problem with that theory is that most cement trucks carry 12 or more yards of concrete, and the saying predates the existence of cement trucks.

A more likely origin has to do with the tailoring of a suit.  An average size suit uses 3 yards of fabric for the coat and 3 for the pants.  In days of old, it was a popular option to buy a suit with two pairs of pants as the pants would wear out faster than the coat.  So, if you wanted your tailor to make you a suit with two pairs of pants, you'd ask for the "whole nine yards".

I'm sure there are other theories behind the saying.  There are good books out there on the market with the origins of common sayings if you want to research further

LOL, reading your post made me all flush with excitement because it all sounds good!

Not a guy- but I do like to tease, back off and tease. Sometimes you just have to catch it in the moment, and sometimes, leisurely laying around with soft strokes, little spanks and caressing is glorious.

he New York Times on Dec. 26, 2012, published a long piece about the phrase. It'll tell you all you want to know. Google it.

amazing responses to my initial post.  Rather than focussing on the key question, people seem to be more interested in the phrase: the whole nine yards?  Wow.  That's not where my mind is....how about a further discussion on the kinds of approaches that providers take when doing a FBSM and what is good.  Egad, you guys are not having enough fun.....

I'm not sure why it is, but as I age, the mystery of words, phrases, and their origins intrigues more and more.

And I don't think it is just I.  (Which is the proper pronoun case, by the way.)

I still enjoy my deep pressure massage though.

By the way, there can be too much pressure.  I once entered an Asian place in Times Square expecting the usual and instead got some 90 lb demon who had me in tears in pain (and no happy ending!), and after that I had flu-like symptoms for a week on account of the poisons released into my blood stream by the uber-pressure she exerted on my muscle tissue.

... because FBSM has so many facets, and I like just about all of them!  I have experienced a variety of techniques from different ladies. They range from a light touch with fingertips/fingernails, nipples, lips, tongue, and hair, to B2B with breasts, bum, pussy, and full-scale body slides, to light S&M with holds and butt slaps (by the lady on me; I'm old fashioned in that I don't believe there is any good way to strike a lady, even if she asks me to), to CMT-quality deep tissue massage that sometimes includes prostate massage... and everything in between.  I enjoyed all of them, except on a couple of occasions when the lady seemed to be just going through the motions.  I do love it when the lady teases me, and brings me to the edge again and again, then backs off, since at my age I am one-and-done unless it's an especially long date.

I have never done nuru massage but would love to do that someday. I had something close to nuru with a provider who used a special lubricant and had me smear it all over myself and then do a full-body B2B massage on her.  And she did the same with me.  I'll remember THAT date for a LONG time!  

And I love giving massage to a woman, almost more than I enjoy receiving it. I think it helps the provider have more fun (I've been told I give a decent sensual massage, even therapeutic massage, for an amateur), and when she's enjoying herself, I enjoy myself more.  Of course, the act of massaging a beautiful, sexy, naked woman who's moaning with delight is an incredible turn-on for me!  I've also found that giving the lady a massage is a good way to understand her boundaries, if they were not clear going in.  I've had some pleasant surprises where some boundaries that were stated up front disappeared when I demonstrated through my massage that she could count on me to act like a gentleman, and thus could relax and enjoy mutual pleasing via massage etc.

Everyone is different.  I truly enjoy erotic fun teasing with feathers, and tie you up gently while I seduce you.  Taking it slow & easy with sweet affectionate touch.  The limits are endless.  I enjoy having my body massaged as well.
Some enjoy lots of prostate kneading, and even strap-on, or toy play for the more advanced players.  I have had several fellas just want to please me.  The majority of the time massage is the least service wanted during tge time together.  Now a days guys want everything under the sun minus fs.  Back in the day when I 1st started a massage was simply body to body rubdown with a happy ending that usually consisted of a hj.  A provider posted this ? on my local board & the responses from the men were incredible.

FBSM
DFK
Body Slides
DATY
BBBJ
Prostate Care
Toy Play
Shower

All for a super low rate, which appears to mean higher STD risks with lower compensation.

My massage is quite unusual, it starts getting you relaxed then gets you hot and next if you desire we move on to gfe/pse.  I have a lot of 10's in performance come and find out why.

that gives me the feeling as if I;m floating on a cloud, followed by a woman who LOVES giving head, and Loves bringing me close to a climax, backs of for a split second, starts, sense I'm getting close stops, starts, does this nine or ten times before she slowely and steadly brings me to the final climax--INTENSE!! Have to spend 5 mins or so catching my breath and coming back down to Earth.

Deprived

I can attest to his massage technics.! You're the best Mr. Fisher!

Pleasure is always the best when it's mutually shared.

Hugs,
Anneke

END OF MESSAGE

Back in the late 70's in San Diego, there was a period of time when massage parlors kind of got a little out of control and started popping up all over town. One thing they all had in common was the talcum (or baby) powder, fingertip massage. 15 minutes on you stomach would make you verrry uncomfortable, then you would turn over and the teasing would just drive you up the wall, finally finishing with a bj that, by that time, would be over very quickly. All of that with some incredibly sexy girl for just $40. I've told this story to some provider friends; got an appointment at the girl's apt. one day. Showed up and she was kind of attractive, but verrrry overweight. What the hell, let's do it. Her fingertip massage was so good that I just exploded without her ever touching my you-know-what.  Still miss those days and that technique.

I love giving sensual massages to providers and through practice and online instruction have gotten pretty decent at it.  My regular extends my time OTC so I can give her a one-hour massage that she has come to nearly insist on.  A young FBSM girl that I occasionally see had never gotten a real massage before I gave her one.  Made her wear a blindfold, no talk, no music, Swedish style, feathers, sensate focus, ten minutes quiet time afterwards, the whole nine yards.  (Which comes from the length of an ammunition belt for a .50 caliber Browning machine gun as used in WW2 fighters.)   She couldn't believe it.  She fell in love with me and calls me to come over now.  That's nice to hear for an old fart.

Giving pleasure is every bit as rewarding as receiving.

I love it all and prefer FBSM over the whole nine yards! I like it slow, i like the prostate massaged and I like mutual massage.  
As with all of the above every provider has their own touch. In general most are too fast and need to slow down. Certainly the slow tease can be great. I think anyone who gives a HJ should see some of the Fabi Jaya videos for what can make a HJ great. If you can reach a meditative state multiple orgasms are possible as well as some of the most intense orgasms ever. What I found is with "regular" sex there is just too many distractions to allow you to focus on YOUR orgasm