and with one of my favorites.....I didn't finish.  I just want to cry.  God Bless her she gave it her best shot and worked it as much as she could...I held off self-pleasure yesterday in anticipation and still nothing...she's coming back next week so how long should I hold off...starting now?  Ageing is a bitch and  BB is not an option either of us will consider. Damn....

You allowed only one day between spanking your monkey and getting in on with a gal ?    

Become "master of your own domain" and don't relieve yourself at all. Watch a bunch of porn beforehand, replay the succesful times with her in your memory to let it all build up  And mostly - don't sweat it!   Anxiety about performing will probably just make it worse.  

Sometimes it's just not in the cards for me at all, and sometimes it's relatively easy. I've changed my reason for being with the lady. Sometimes I get embarrassed but most of the time I realize I had a great time regardless. It takes the pressure off.  
I tried not jacking it for a few weeks. It didn't help me because my reason for the problem is physical and a chemical problem. But, everyone is different.  
The suggestions by the previous guys are all good to try.  

As long as the hydraulics still work, don't sweat it too much.

Drink plenty of water, cool it on the booze.

No kidding. I can't "finish" fairly often these days and it just does not boher me one bit. I enjoy everything about the encounter with little emphasis on a final orgasm.

And consider what another poster mentioned, try an FC.  

If you took Viagra you and waited too long to have sex, you might have Viagra Dick.  The little blue pill has a reputation for desensitizing your rod after a certain point in its effective cycle.  Happened to me several times.  Now I just take it right before the session starts.  Twenty minutes and foreplay...off to the races.

I smiled at your one day abstinence. Sounds like it should be longer. I'm up to a week when there's a date on the horizon. But it's more than that, as we're from a very different generation coming into our 60s and beyond. We have been so inundated with sex (not a bad thing until now), that we've become callous to getting turned on. That's one reason the drug companies are making billions off of us.  

Don't be tired before appointments.    No alcohol.     Try early appointments, empty stomach,  50 mg V 30 min. before appointment.   She will want you to get a divorce and marry her.          Lol.

My best most memorable sex ever, I didn't finish.  That's like only the last few seconds of the fun.  It's such a small part of the whole experience.

Could not agree more!!

Where it is almost impossible to ejaculate.  I was on a medicine that had this side effect where if I was with a partner or by myself I could not ejaculate.  This went on for about a month.  I scheduled an appointment with my doc, after I did a lot of on-line research on that drug and discovered that it had a very strong correlation with sexual side effects and more importantly I did research on finding a drug that treated the same symptoms but did not have the sexual side effects.  I discussed all this with my doc and she made the change and within a week I was fine.  I made a few trial runs by myself and then had a session with a gal who is an UTR mostly retired mature escort.  First time I got off twice in several years.  

I use Female Condoms often when men have issues when they put on condoms.  The provide protection without cutting off your blood supply!  I don't know where you can buy them in stores, but I am always able to find good deals online.