Yes, Haley I do reread the OP to be sure it said what I thought it said. I also reread and edit my reply before submitting it. I try to be aware that others here can't see my facial expressions, body language, and tone of voice in order to interpret what I'm saying. I always start with the premise that a poster is not an ass nor trying to be an ass. Obviously over time personalities come out and then it may be that he/she is an ass. (so far none here!) Even then I will still try to make my response useful and not attacking. I have often started to respond to a post and then cancelled. Deciding that my response would only inflame. I may go back later and give a more attenuated response. I also proof read to be sure I have communicated what I intended in a clear and concise way. If I don't understand where a poster is coming from I will ask for clarification.  I like this board and enjoy what goes on here. Thanks for your contribution.

Part two. Posting about the Photo thread. I'm used to not posting in the thread as that's the way the Atlanta board mod wanted it when the themed photo threads were done. I just got used to that. Habits go away reluctantly I guess. I noticed some of the guys did show their appreciation in the thread.  I did think that a thank you was appropriate. I'll take care of that right away. Thanks.

But I am usually not offended when someone's post does not mimick mine or reflects the same opion as mine.  Honestly, that's part of he enjoyment of particiation here.  We all get to view a large variety of opinions.  And sometimes those opinions open our minds to something new.  And that's a good thing.

Funny thing is when I read the headline to this thread I thought you might be referring to me.  I am guilty of taking things personally and posting cynical and/or clinical type responses. I think we all are guilty of this from time to time.  One piece of advice...never drink and post! LOL

I have posted apologies when I was out of line.  I have sent pm's to apologize for my posts when I felt I went too far or was rude.  I think the beauty of this board is knowing it is a kinder/gentler board, we try to post along those lines while still expressing our individual opinions.

I enjoyed yesterdays photo thread! Thanks Haley!    

Best, Betty xoxo

Not only have I enjoyed the content of the various posts on this board but also the mutual respect and thoughtfulness of the various ladies and men who post their views and responses. Most of us seem to have a feeling for a version of the golden rule: not saying to someone else what whould be offensive if it were said to us. I reread carefully before I post to make sure that I have not said something that might be offensive and  yes Betty, every once in a while where I have inadvertandly offended, have send a PM to apologize.
This is a great board!

If I make a mistake , or mis-word something I always send a PM . Sometimes you might not get an answer
but I did what was right .

Good grief yes maam.

And it is hard to judge the tone of voice.  

For example, I recieved an email the other day and the lady wrote about an event and said  'did you  .............?  Be still my heart".  I read it and reread it.  Think about it,  it could be taken at least more than one way.  Sarcasm is one way, or she could mean that she was impressed.  So being the romantic I am ......  I asked.  lol.  She meant it the good way.  

There are times I think the tone is light hearted and then realize later they are serious. And then also visa versa.  I may repost my reply, or PM the individual with my apolgy.  And then I find that sometimes I was right the first time but then there was a hidden truth that was brought out by someone else that I failed to see.  Can be confusing.  

If anyone ever feels that I was attepting to offend them, please be reassured, if I am not cursing then that wasnt my attention.  Just remember sometimes you gotta hit ol Roadie between the eyes with a 2x4.  

TTFN

Yep I have hurt a feeling or two. In the best scenario, it was all worked out in back channel PM and emails.
but Sometimes when it happens to me. I just no longer follow the thread.  Some times the best action or thing to say is nothing. If many cases a phone call is the best thing. Personally making love is my favorite but many ruffled feathers do not take me seriously when I make the suggestion.