It’s only when we truly know and understand that we have a limited time on earth, and that we have no way of knowing when our time is up, that we will begin to live each day to the fullest, as if it {were} the only one we had. Realize deeply that the present moment is all you ever have.
A beautiful face in youth is the result of fortune; a beautiful face in old age is earned by kindness and wisdom.
Predators feast on their prey like there is no tomorrow. Make love like there is no tomorrow, live life like there is no tomorrow...!! Kiss like you've never been kissed before...!!
Life is, what it is...!!
Posted By: azvictoria
As Frank sang it best....but I did it my way.......as the New Year rapidly approaches I often find myself reflecting on not only the last year but the that decade or more.....I wonder about the what ifs.....should I of went a more traditional way ? Married ? Had a family ? Well there is really no point in looking back the past is the past the future is unknown and today is the present or as I see it a "gift" right now I still have my parents alive and heathly and mom and dad are still my favorite People on the planet....I do get worried about losing them more so as time marches by....even anxious if I think about it ......so I really need to start spending more quality time with them .....I do not want my biggest regret to be I was not there enough .....so this year I will work hard save more and get my ducks in order to be able to slowly but surely fade away into my future role as a loving daughter... I told them long ago They would never have to worry about anything as long as I walked this earth ....so as far as regrets go I really do not think I would of changed anything the hobby has been a blessing for the most part it can be hard at times and anybody that tours as I do and thinks its easy to leave home is crazy no matter how nice the hotel or city..... there really is no place like home and family close by...ok enough from me I would like to hear from you now ......best wishes to all of you so happy I found this board a place where I can share without feeling scared of being attacked or belittled it helps sometimes just to write as I really have no one to talk with about the hobby outside of you guys.
My mom is in her 90s, but still sharp as a tack. I lost my dad, however some years ago.
I'm making up the time now with her.
I wish I had started much earlier.
I'd have been much better off to have hobbied...
than being seduced & getting into a relationship with a married woman...
than my first marriage...
than the early sexless years of the curent marriage (before the kids moved out) & little more since...
Is it Sweden where the nursing homes can call providers for the residents? The nurses are less harrassed by horny-out-of-their-minds old farts. (Like me).
H
....I think a guy could call anyone as long as they had a private room....LOL This is so funny....because I was supposed to have seen the guy next door to him instead, ending up seeing and doing a guy that never called me. After the first time, he called me back every month....and the other guy did too....the grass never got high on the way to that nursing home in Florida....!!!
Posted By: harbor_view
I'd have been much better off to have hobbied...
than being seduced & getting into a relationship with a married woman...
than my first marriage...
than the early sexless years of the curent marriage (before the kids moved out) & little more since...
Is it Sweden where the nursing homes can call providers for the residents? The nurses are less harrassed by horny-out-of-their-minds old farts. (Like me).
H
I knew a provider about 10 years ago that had an 82-year old client she saw in Leisure World. Before long, she had three clients in Leisure World. Those old guys weren't too good with a computer, but they sure knew a good thing when they saw it!
Some things never change- no matter how old a man gets, it's always a thrill to spend time with a pretty woman. It's great you can still bring a little joy into their lives. You probably have no idea how important that time was to them.
So when I go to a nursing home, there's still a chance!!!!!! Woo Hoo!!!!!
Of course, we all do it- it's just human nature. But the "what ifs" can paralyze you and drive you crazy, while doing absolutely nothing to either change what happened, or improve what might happen tomorrow.
I think it's a variation on how we process loss. It's like Monday Morning quaterbacking because we can't accept a particular outcome so we replay it over and over again, until we can begin to accept the reality. Sometimes that process can take years- I once spent (wasted?) 5 years mourning a lost love. Maybe it's necessary, maybe it's wasted time, but we all seem to do it to varying degrees.
I've come to realize that for the most part, I am where I am today because of the net sum of my strengths and weaknesses as a person. Luck has played a role too, a few really bad breaks derailed my career, for example. But for the most part, I can look in the mirror and see the cause of everything good or bad about my life. That's a sobering thought that many people can't bear, so they create external excuses for their problems. But I now realize most of what happened to me was because of me.
In my case, all my regrets concern social relationships- the area I've always struggled with the most. I've had great women in my life, including my wife, and many GFs that wanted to get married. I love women and always assumed I'd remarry, but now they're all gone and I've been alone for the last decade. Like I said, it's easy to regret the way things turn out, but that's only because you don't know what might have happened had you taken the other fork in the road.
Would one of those GFs that I could have married, for example, make me happy or miserable? I have no way of knowing. That makes it easy to regret the fact that I'm alone, because it conveniently leaves out a scenario that could have been much worse. This is the trap of regrets. We can never know what might have been, so we compare what actually happened with what we wanted to have happen. Is it any surprise that reality comes up short in the comparison? I try to remember this so I don't fall into the regret trap worrying about what might have been.
There's only was, is, and will be, in life. Might have been doesn't exist.
Dear Victoria:
I noticed that you really said that you can't be frank with anybody except us with the hobby. I was wondering do you have a lot of friends who might have an inkling but are somewhat afraid to discuss certain things regarding you entertaining men for a living? Although you have taken a non traditional route in life, would you say that it has taken you certain places and you have met certain people throughout life that you would have not otherwise encountered? Although you do not really volunteer any information regarding this world to you friends in the mainstream world, what is the one thing that you think they would want to know about the hobby? Also I am sure that you have met a lot of resourceful people who have given you good advice on how to position yourself for your post hobby activity. However, something still tells me you might be moderately active even in retirement because I know that you like people.
well first off everyone who knows me in my civie life including family knows what I do .....I am somewhat of an open book and could never lead a double life.....all my lifelong friends stuck by me when I became a provider they knew me and respected my life choices in fact I did not lose one friendship male or female......You are right they have been curious about the hobby but know, for myself, it has been mostly a postive step.....and again your right about thae fact their are certain men I have become great friends with that I will still see long after the website comes down plus I love the company and often worry that without the hobby I will become lonely but I do understand you have to know when its time to leave the game ......
Well, I still to this day regret not making up with my father before he suddenly passed three years ago the 2nd week in Dec & not being as close with my mom as I would have liked before she passed 1.5 years ago. But you learn from your mistakes, and realize that tomorrow is NEVER promised to you. My father passing allowed me and my mom to make up and start rebuilding our strained relationship... just wish we'd had more time. LOL, and so many years wasted with my ex-husband, but will never regret the two beautiful children that I was blessed with
Every day is an adventure, make the most out of it while you can!
my only regret is that I did not enter this wonderful world until I retired. Being in the public education world, I was worried about losing my job, not to mention my pension, if I got busted with a provider. But since I began hobbying, I have met some really amazing ladies, and even met some good guy pals.
Swim
