but like Nicole said there is a line, Pretty Woman was just a movie after all. Did I connect with my last provider,I'd like to think so, but I'd rather see her as a friend that I can vent my frustrations onto. I guess what I'm trying to say is be realistic. If you have a small crush it's fine just make sure it doesn't explode into anything beyond that.
that the LG, who used to moderate the EH board had, "help I've fallen for a provider and can't get up" Remember this isn't match.com I'd recommend that you not repeat with a provider at this stage. You'll probably get smitten with the next one, and the next one, and the next one. When you can compartmentalize your feelings, then maybe circle back and see a fav.
and then I "fall for" the next one. I Fall For my Favs over & over, in turn. I don't repeat date with my Favs anymore. You must not cross boundaries. Keep your heart on a short leash. But it's ok to have feelings. Welcome to being human.
Most ofthe "Falling For" is hormonal... useful for protecting offspring in the age of dino's! As long as you can control it, you're good. If you cross boundaries, expect her to refuse future appointments. A provider can not permit a clingy client to become a stalker.
we meet a great provider..we are temporarily smitten..we think she really likes me..i really like her..then reality bites..it always does..bottom line this is a business..crushes are good for high school kids..certainly not for hobbyists..the feeling always eventually passes..it has to..for your sake and hers..
you get a feeling of "I want to rescue this lady and treat her like the queen she is" but then reality sets in and you realize it is a business for the provider and a playtime for you. It is sometimes said we pay providers to leave when the time is up.
It probably didn't completely come across this way now that I think about it, but I was speaking more hypothetically--considering contigencies--planning for the possible. Being a new newbie and all, I'm just making this up as I go.