Newbies should see well reviewed providers. Read the self help section by the life saver & read back on this board several pages until you can answer every question without looking.
Anytime you give a provider money... even if it's an advance or a loan... best to figure you'll not get it back. Some guys have been lucky (and been repaid) but the boards are littered with the guys who thought it was going to be worked off & the gal was suddenly unavailable. This is not to say I'm a heartless b@stard... if a Fav lady needs money, I do my bit by scheduling an appointment at my convenience... which I would have done anyway.
I hope you didn't get taken for too much. Write it off, learn the lesson. I remember the first time I got bucked off a horse... I said "That didn't work" Learned my lesson & did things differently from then on.