I know how to change my car's oil, but prefer to have my mechanic do it.

Pros exist for a reason

I would love to have an s/o let me know they approve of my playtimes with their partner! Just the fact that I could leave a good red bottom behind without fear of discovery would make me a happy Mistress

K

Lots of folks hang out there.

Some of the couples I see (I am an escort as well as a ProDomme)are in the exact same situation and they found out that having a professional in their play time really took the burden out of the not so comfortable partner and made the BDSM lover very happy. I even showed some simple techniques/play practices  to ladies that were afraid of hurting their partners and now they are happily exploring more and more every play time.  
I don't know which part of the country (or world) you are, but look for a reputable professional that is couple friendly and have a great time.
Sweet Kisses or hard spanking...
Sofi