But you have to do what makes you comfortable.

But it's a limitation to some, and will reduce your pool of possible clients. In my opinion, I'd much rather a gal be in her comfort zone when she's with me but, even though I buy into the fact that covered may be safer, I admit that it's a data point that I consider when I'm window shopping. It's a step away from that PSE and even GFE fantasy.

Still, I know some really great gals, Tasha and McKayla come to mind, who don't BB and it doesn't reduce the evening one bit. They make up for it with personality, enthusiasm and... I don't know - an emotional/mental GFE???

If you're not comfortable, sweetheart, don't do it. Make sure you have your profile changed, though, so there are no unhappy misunderstandings.


AS

I like mines covered, the safer, the better. Guys should respect your decision.

I for one like BB I happen to be a very oral person giving and recieving. I have in the past, and will in the futher see some ladies that only do covered. If the lady is extra special in personality it makes up for it. And yes the same vegas ladies come to mind. If that is your comfort zone then stay there.

I put a premium value on BBBJ. 400 or more an hour without a bbbj is pretty much a rule out for me. I've had a lot of good times with CBJ girls, it is just one piece of the overall experience.

This is a great thread that should be transferred over to the national board.  Everyone has their own level of comfort.  In many areas of North America a GFE offering bbbj is considered unsafe.  There are many medical white paper to prove otherwise, however, if you have sensitive gum's I would highly consider taking the safer path.

Life is too short for regrets.  There are plenty of hobbyists looking for an entire experience not just a bj.

Stick to your guns the business will come.

Warmly,
Reagan Levy

The most important thing for my GFE experience is DFK.  When looking for a provider, those that offer BBBJ actually raise concerns.  Sort of a variation the the old line "Do you kiss your mother with that thing?"  Do I want to be swapping spit with someone that has had so many "protein shakes?"

I wouldn't skip a provider that I really wanted to see because she offers BBBJ - it's just a preference to be with someone safer when there is a choice.  

Definitely stay within your comfort factors.  I wouldn't enjoy time with a provider that is uncomfortable.

...when I look at a lady's review and see 'BJ - Yes with condom' I move on, the rest of the review does not matter.  
Every lady is entitled to set her own limits and every man looking has a right to keep on looking.
MVR

Personally I don't enjoy them.  I have never done them and won't change my "menu" to suit anyone but myself.  I have seen many guys who only prefer bbbj and later wrote me a steller reviews.

I also know, a lot of men I see wouldn't see me if I was a bbbj provider.  The thought of kissing a lady who maybe didn't brush or gargle after her last shake, doesn't appeal to them for some reason.  SNOWBALL

We all just have to do what we feel is right or that is comfortable for us.  

If you frequently get gum sores you should just play it safe, and protect yourself.  You can always be sure your clean, but how can you really know that a client is, if all he will accept is a bbbj??  There are a lot of diseases you can catch when you have open sores, wheather in your mouth or on your hands.  I think that as long as you give your best and the gentleman is feeling like its part of a play by play than you'll be fine.  

CBJ only will turn some away.  But I agree that you should do only what you're comfy with and there are several very successful providers who only do CBJ.

As far as the GFE, it has long been debated that BBBJ is a standard in GFE and I agree with that.  As a GFE the gent's I see who are GFE enthusiasts are looking for DFK and BBBJ as a number 1a and 1b.  It is my opinion that those two attributes are the part of a menu that makes GFE a GFE.

Now I know a lot of folks debate this endlessly and I respect their opinions, their work and work ethic.  There are a ton of girls who really know what they are doing and can make a man feel sensational regardless.  Yet, bbbj is a checklist item on GFE IMO, and therefore CBJ is not GFE in my mind.

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Re: How Do You Feel About No BBBJ?

Your message saddens me girl!  I am also a fellow provider and I have never done BBBJ because of my personal knowledge of STD's, AIDS, & HIV.  I have never had a guy who complained about my BJ... most think I do such a good job it feels just as good!  I personally think you need to educate yourself on STD's.  I know I am a safe girl but I still have a lot of freakin fun with my guys.  I could not imagine feeling like I would need to go to the clinic the next day all because I did a BBBJ.  If you are giving BBBJ you might as well do it raw everywhere else and get birth control.  It is the same difference.  You can get chlamydia from oral and everything else!  Read up girl... it ain't about your gums hurting.  STD's live in your throat too!  As a Provider, even if you are safe you are high risk for AIDS, HIV, and STD's.  I can't even count the guys I've been with nor keep record... so why would I want to chance it.... that's a hell of a big percentage higher than the average married couple's chances.   Hobbiest may complain... but if you believe everything you will fall for anything girl!  Yeah they complain up until I'm in action... all I hear is moaning and deeper and faster!  LMAO! I'm not trying to be mean sweet heart and I'm glad your culture results came back clean!  I just personally like to have clean & safe kinky fun!