There is somebody who consistantly gives reviews that are several points below ladies averages. He talks so much crap about the ladies he has seen I want to warn people not to see him.
You really need to be careful about this. Blacklists are to protect providers from dangerous, violent, or theiving clients. They are NOT to be used as a way to get back at someone who gave you a grade lower than you think you deserved. That's what a Do Not See list is for. Numerical grades are a weak point of the TER review system and there are different philosophies about how to grade. There can be a legitimate one- or two-point difference just based on that. It is not a reason to blackliist anybody.
of each reviewer.
I think it is a must, if you give any credence to the scores, to first see what that reviewer's histroy is.
If they are a very tough scorer, then a low score from them will be taken in that context, and no harm should accrue to the provider, especially if she has many good reviews as well.
Black lists should be reserved for those who are either dangerous, rip-off artists or LE.
By the way, there are no black lists on TER.
just like olympic judges, i throw out the highest and lowest score for a lady. then i take the average of whats left, and always keep in mind ymmv.
if their reviews are consistently low i assume they are not easily pleased so i won't waste my time bending over backward for them just so they can knock me on a review (even if the review was accurate, why put myself in a position where its a lose-lose: the person won't repeat and i'll get a lower ranked review? i think not).
this is a good example of doing homework on OUR side (ladies) before booking with a friend. i for one check who else a gent has seen to make sure they haven't seen anyone who is known to be unsafe and to see what type of services they normally book for. for me, if a gent has only reviewed FS ladies i will message him to ensure he knows my limits. also, if he has posted poor reviews for ladies who are known to be highly regarded i will likely not see that person as they either have their expectations too high when meeting ladies or they are not easily pleased. either situation is not one i wish to be part of. i, for one, also am not inclined to see someone who hands out 10's like candy. its called "one in a lifetime" not "a handful per lifetime".
You are absolutely right. I get busy and don't always check. Even if I did I probably thought he'd still give me a 7 or 8 at least and didn't worry too much. This person actually didn't say anything too bad about me, it was just a low number. But when I starte looking into his other reviews I saw that he was really hard on everybody.
The truth is, even though there are places-I know of a few, I don't take the time to check everything out. Someone who passes my verification process I will see. I've made happy customers out of hard to please ones in the past. But this one guy really is a jerk-saying really nasty things to me and about all providers in general in pms.
They are out there.
Thanks for not giving me crap about my question. I really am just as offended on behalf of the other providers he bad-mouthed as I am for my own low-numbers but nice comments.
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the gent was all smiles and stuff leaving then the review was a lower performance.
i told him that if there were things he didn't like or would have liked differently he needed to speak up. i am not a mind reader and if a guy is smiling and kissing and having a good time, what would i change? nothing thats what.
anyway.
HUG lady
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It should be on the General Discussion board, but when I went to move it, I could not put it there. Sorry folks.
Swim
Hi Freya,
If this person is a safety threat to our community, then there is nothing wrong with getting the word out. If using the "official" grapevine like this TER discussion board doesn't work, there's always the "unofficial" grapevine. What person doesn't have a smart phone or e-mail? Word of mouth still works. But if this person is a rather harsh judge of both character and services, then find out the reasoning behind the reviews. If you can't figure this person out, then avoid him. You have enough positive reviews to counter balance any negative ones. You have a lot of happy fans so don't let this one person get you down.
XOXOXO
J.APPLESEED
If he is constantly giving bad reviews and talking trash it usually stands out if your reivews are consistent. It sucks (figurative) but...
You can blacklist away but from my perspective I discount negative reviews as you've described. When I've researched before and I find someone with solid scores and a stand out bad review - I'll read the bad review first. 99 times out of 100 the guy can't put a coherent sentence together or has no grasp of the English language, and it becomes immediately clear that his bad experience was his issue, not hers. I also look at other reviews he's written and if they're similar it's just more evidence he's the problem. It doesnt take much detective work to figure out that a young woman who has high scores but changed the menu on a guy who rated her much lower did so because he had no concept of grooming, etiquette or basic civility. Nevertheless if you feel the need to get the word out feel free ...
dude or dudette, as the case may be, your post is well crafted and to the point so why the alias? I just don't get this alias crap. Understand that some may know you from a meet and greet but this post is to the point so why hide? Wish they would just not allow the alias stuff. But its perhaps simply a biz decision since they will clearly get more posts and more activity when they allow the alias posts on boards. But I really don't get the alias review. Have any providers been hammered yet by an alias review and how do you go about getting it removed if its just some clown playing games?
if the post was so well crafted, why would you care if it was alias or not? perhaps I dont care to have my observations associated with me and the ladies I see, for whatever reason. and in fact, aren't all our posts in essence aliases? or would you like my ssn and checking account number? there's a lot of reasons to start a rant on these boards, but seriously?
Well said my alias friend!
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C'mon. REALLY? Seriously? Let me see if I have this right. This person is giving his account of what happened - right? First - What do you care? Do we now HAVE to give a lady a review that is high or else be threatened with blacklisted? There is a place for a blacklist as was pointed out but rest assured if you or any other provider delivers sub-par service I am not going to kiss your royal ass so that I am not put on a blacklist. Maybe, just maybe the review in-question is true and the provider has become complacent - then what? This is a similar argument to references where some providers REQUIRE current references. If you as a provider believe that hobbyists can change over time then why can't we believe that providers performances may change also? To me Freya, it seems like you and other providers try to hold us hostage - thats why I am hiding behind an alias - because if you knew who I was you would blacklist me. And seriously Mila ... you only see guys who give good reviews - I think your post puts EVERYTHING in perspective for hobbyists. Lesson learned for me - if I am going to be honest then I cant review without retribution. What a JOKE!
If u read my reply u would see I won't see people who give out a ton of 10's nor will I see someone who writes punitive reviews. Did u even read my reply or just skim it? Seriously. And are u really worried about being blacklisted by someone who you said yourself holds people hostage with reviews so why the alias? Ur entire reply seems contradictory.
hey everybody,
when I first posted this I could tell I was getting a lot of responses from my email notifications, and I felt pretty sure it would be a million people telling me that the guy has a right to his opinion.
Okay, I know that. I really do. But the truth is, I was as offended by the awful things he said about almost everybody else as anything else. I believe in this review system. I know that different people like different things and not everybody will like me. And actually this person said all nice things about me. Just gave me a really low number for appearance. But with the other ladies...it's like he tries to think of every bad thing he can say about them and then blurts it out on TER.
I have read enough of the boards to know that there are a lot of guys here that I hope I will never see! There are some anygry guys who apparantly don't like women, or providers at least, at all.
I've been around for two years. I haven't done much with the boards here, but I know about a few blacklists and what they are for. And trust me, this guy, after some of the things he's said to me, should be on some. I'm always completely honest when I put someone on the blacklist that I use. That way, if somebody else thinks they would still see the person, they can. I just want people to knwo about my negative experience with this person. Just like with the reviews, if he has ladies who will give him a positive recommendation along with my negative report, escorts who consider seeing him in the future will be able to have a more complete picture of this person and make their own decision.
What I really came here to say today, is THANKS! i want to thank all of the people who were nice enough to consider that I might have a valid point and not just tell me I'm being overly sensitive. I was actuallly surprised because I really did expect everybody to give me a hard time about not just accepting a negative review. So thanks for the support.
Hi Freya,
See, you do have a lot of support and love from the community.
XOXOX
John