She owes you a cancellation fee.  Your time and effort are worth money, too -- same as if you had arrived, taken a look-see, said no-thanks, and left...

being Independant makes you too independant and inconsiderate of anyone else feelings because youre so independant. I have known girls that do not see black men. I know black men that will not see a black provider and visa versa to alla that.
I am with you though that she should have stated in her ad that she sees only white gents. She would not be the first to do that. I also find what she did stoopid because now you know where she is and some of you that get or got turned away will not be as classy as you and just post here. So she takes her chances independently. Im sorry this happened to you.
tyvm,P.T.

The hobby is personal and sometimes it sucks.

I do not pretend to know how you feel.  This hobby is full of raw emotion, both good and bad.
To be turned down on race, something we don't choose, has got to hurt.  What is the answer?  If she advertised that she doesn't see this group or that group, would she be vilified for that?  Even though, as has been stated, that would be the honest approach.

She may have very valid reasons for her prejudice, but they are her reasons.  She may have had a negative experience or two with african american men and being petite may not want to take a risk. Assholes come in every shape size and color.  

Bottom line is, you are entitled to compensation for your time as she is entitled to select who she sees.  No winners here.

Very tactfully written.

However, this is old news. Caucasian providers have been refusing to see black customers since the beginning days of this hobby. I have had the same experience, gotten pissed off, called the woman a bunch of names (some of which they deserved), and vowed to get even. I even scheduled additional appointments (even in the same day) knowing she would refuse service again and again, just to waste BOTH of our time. I was much younger and had much more free time then...

Bottom line, there are 2.5 billion "hair pies" in this world -- that is just one that neither of us will ever lay hands on, so let's just move on.

So many asses left, so little time.

Yes it may suck, HOWEVER..it's not wrong for 2 reasons:
1) she's an independent contractor so speaking from a business standpoint - she's not working for a public company that MUST provide for all - she can pick and choose.  If I own a store and want only hot busty blondes working there, I can do that, although of course I wouldn't advertise that but just only hire those who fit my criteria.
2) Put yourself in her position.  As a guy, I'm sure there's plenty of women you see walking down the street who you say "I wouldn't touch her with a ten foot pole!" Well if you were a male-escort, and one of those women showed up at your door, I bet you'd be thinking about not answering too.
Personally, I prefer white women, but would go to bed with a black woman if I were attracted to her.  Asian women? Not for me - I know some guys love'em, but I don't find ANY attraction to them, so if one showed up on my door, I'd have to not answer too - same goes for toothless women, badbreathed women, etc -
As guys we often think these girls will simply do it all for the fee, but remember they're human beings - they're attracted to some of their clients of course, and are repulsed by others.
It's their CHOICE if they want to see you or not.  I'm sorry you were snubbed, buddy, but just move on.
I was turned away by a hot blonded provider (white, as am I) in LA a few years back, took it personally and was upset, and even badmouthed her on the boards.  Then I calmed down, moved on and have had many amazing experiences with women from all over the country.
Just move on and maybe take this lesson away - describe yourself fully to your future providers (i.e. tell them you're black) so you know it's not a problem!!

Unfortunately there are many providers out there who feel this way. Personally I'd love to hear from one of them as to their exact reasoning behind denying service based on ethnicity. Though it would be entertaining to read, I seriously doubt that they could come up with any sort of answer that would not make them sound like a total dumb ass.
I encountered this subject shortly after getting into the biz. The whole concept was dumbfounding to me. Especially since many of the girls who had this 'policy' actually dated black men.!!!???!!!??? I have to say that I disagree with those who say "...maybe it's because that provider had a negative experience with someone of that race...". In my opinion it's based entirely on racial stereotypes in regards to all aspects of sexual performance. Quite frankly the rational is that an older primarily white clientele base is 'easier', requires less 'work', and can be turned faster. .... sad, but prejudice and ethnocentrism are nothing new.
As for this specific provider, why can a review not be written??? I know that reviews are not allowed for no-shows, but this really was not a no show, both provider and hobbyist were there at the incall location at the agreed time.

Ladies can see who they please. The only thing I ask don't let me get to the door and you turn me away. Don't waste my time because I would never waste your, tell me up front you won't see me. Some ladies are worried about their reputation if people find out they don't see African American men.. I have never "out" a lady because they wouldn't see me. Just respect my time and let me know up front. It's their lost and money..lol

~First, may I tell you I sympathize (*Not that I have ever been denied service but I did arrange a meeting with another provider for a gentleman and she canceled at the last minute... After requesting a picture of the guy !!!*)

You made some very good points and I hope some of the providers take it to heart. I personally feel honored when a gentleman is willing to arrange his schedule around a meeting with me.

I however, do not set appointments to meet with every individual that contacts me. I think by clearly stating: "I must establish a comfort level that both parties are confident with" is the most effective form of ensuring everyone involved will be content and there will be no surprises.

I have posted in the past but I will remind some who haven't been around as long as others. (*In this specific case I am sure that this point is mute but I offer it none-the-less*)

I have, in the past... suggested that certain "African American Men" meet me at a Property other than my permanent incall location. ...  ~I've also made the same arrangement with other high profile or "recognizable" clients~  I didn't refuse to see them, I simply made arrangements other than my incall.

The logic is simple in that case, the presence of the individual at my location would cause unnecessary attention to my location and to the individual. In that case it is merely a matter of common sense and protection of everyone involved.

I understand that standing in the hallway would ... in this case, make it even more of a "situation" than merely sliding in and possibly getting noticed.

Just one suggestion to other similar situations, not necessarily this one but along the same lines.

If you are professional and would not be "banging"... "blinking".. stylin or other descriptive words to indicate a presence other than "average" I can't imagine a "professional" having a problem with seeing you.

I think to communicate that I am located in an upper middle class professional complex usually implies I would be expecting your presence to be in line with the surrounding. (*Prior to my permanent location, there was a time I suggested a dress code for guests when they met with me... the idea is the same, to avoid additional attention being directed our way*)

Best wishes in your future choices kisses... ~Tori

I'm a Black Men and I have spoken with some providers on the customer race issue. And some of them have had bad experiences with Black Men, however the experiences they explained to me.  Isn't a race issue, yet a class issue that anyone could have. I think providers who discriminate, miss out on a lot Not just money!  Sorry, that happened to you plsr-skr.  I think providers should post in their Ads, if they only see one race!  I hope this never happens to me!