Re: Your SO's view of the hobby

How did she find out about your extra-curricular activities?
I don't have an S/O,,,so no worries here!

Not the answer to your question.  However, your wife's beliefs shows the news media have no idea about the hobby as it exists here on TER.

This isn't a criticism, but I hope your marraige is rewarding on other levels...

because between your lack of a sex life and of a partner who is remotely tuned into you, you would seem to have a pretty limited relationship.  Again, not a criticism...I am just sorry to hear people talk about relationships like this, and I sincerely hope you both are happy with other aspects of your lives.

And your wife's attitude is not surprising. Very little is more threatening to women who are not sexually/emotionally enlightened than women who are sexually enlightened and who are willing to use it to their advantage in the world. That is just one reason this profession has been so vilified through the ages.  Many women today, in spite of all of our "enlightenment" as a society, still feel the way your wife does...or worse.

Fear is the mind killer.

If I was her, I would love them as they are responsible for her being an independently wealthy and free individual right now.  (With a little help from probate court.)

My SO worked as a provider for a couple of years back before I met her. (In her case, she should not have done so as it exacerbated pre-existing damage) BTW, I did not know this (or about all the other crap and damage) before we married. Anyhoo ...

She is a highly intelligent woman. She knows better than to say "all providers are X" and understands each one should be seen as an individual. Thus she says that sex with some providers is safe, and with others it is not.

She is the one who recommended I see providers, subject to a whole bunch of rules and that she not find out, until such time as she can fully resume her marital role.

She doesn't see the hobby as positive, but rather as a lesser of evils.

SO has totally bought into all Providers are Whores controled by Pimps, Trafficers & Abused.  She, herself, has always had a non-existant sex drive...  though she enjoys it once she's warmed up (a whole bunch of kissing, foreplay, etc).  She does not understand that a guy has a sex drive...  
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Wifey lives with her head in the sand.  Street walking hookers is about as far as her knowledge goes.(they don't show escorts on TV dramas)  Since she refused to ever learn how to use a computer, this part of the hobby would be totally unbelievable.  Computers are used for occasional shopping, uploading pictures to Walgreens, and buying airline tickets, and that's about it!

On the bright side....I have no fear about sitting on the computer writing this stuff.  And should I ever be so unfortunate as to acquire an STD....I feel better in knowing that not only could I get it treated without detection...but I could NEVER pass it on to her!