BDSM

Limits and technique
Sexylittlesubkat See my TER Reviews 4921 reads
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Limits - anything the provider will not engage in

Knowledge of and good technique for various BDSM activities

DiscussionBoardAdmin8013 reads

OK.. We are working on the next version of the site and want to create a review specifically for BDSM.

What needs to be contained in this review type??

Thanks for the help!

DiscussionBoardAdmin7212 reads

It will be a whole new review form so all new rules.

What things should be on the actual form????

scoed5966 reads

Whether she receives the activity like spankings or gives them or both on each.

Some things that should be and there need to :

bondage: none, light, heavy

corporal: none, spanking only, light, heavy

electric play: yes, no

sex: yes, no

golden showers: yes, no

sensory deprivation: yes, no

Role playing: yes, no, light

Humiliation play: public, private only, light, none

strap on/anal play: yes no

anal: yes no

animal play: yes, no

Bondassage: yes , no, massage only

temperature play: yes, no

just a suggestion.

scoed6480 reads

You may also want to add body worship, tickle play and, foot fetish on the list.

Did I tell you I am exited? I am. TER is by far the best site for reviews but BDSM at this time are a poor fit for the currant format. Thanks for looking at addressing this issue!

scoed6296 reads

You need a box on whether you are allowed to cum or not as some BDSM do not allow you to climax.

Don't forget tit torture and race play ...

submissively your's,
rose

klumberg6696 reads

Body worship, Ass worship, Foot worship, yes or no should also be on this list.

perfectstorm8535 reads

should have "gives," "receives," or "both." And that may be what he meant. He mentioned it with spankings on the top, and he may have meant it for his entire list. All of it should include giving or receiving. While you are at it, in the current review profiles, "rimming" should have a gives/receives/both section instead of just yes or no, as it is now. You don't know if the provider does rimming or receives rimming in the current format.

Posted By: scoed
Whether she receives the activity like spankings or gives them or both on each.

Some things that should be and there need to :

bondage: none, light, heavy

corporal: none, spanking only, light, heavy

electric play: yes, no

sex: yes, no

golden showers: yes, no

sensory deprivation: yes, no

Role playing: yes, no, light

Humiliation play: public, private only, light, none

strap on/anal play: yes no

anal: yes no

animal play: yes, no

Bondassage: yes , no, massage only

temperature play: yes, no

just a suggestion.

scoed5886 reads

I meant on all and I think the drop down menus should have  "gives," "receives," or "both" for all activities that have a drop down menu. After all the transsexuals have dicks, some clients are women like hotplants or my wife who sometimes sees escorts with me.

robsul20047735 reads

There should be a means to indicate:
1) level of reciprocal touch she allows in a variety of activities, and whether she is clothed or nude when permitting it (e.g. are activities like ass worship, pussy worship done with her clothed or nude; does she allow you to give her an orgasm;
2) whether or not sessions end with a release, and if it is self release; release but via toy/tool/implement; or release via her bare hand or other bare skin portion of her body;
3) since many are more reluctant than providers to offer their full menu to a new client or to have it advertised, an indication of whether sessions improve with repeat visits.

robsul20046051 reads

Agreed, I feel teribble to only be able to give a 7 for tremendous experiences

sudzny5278 reads

I would like to see a field for Dom/sub/switch.  The current "S&M" field is too broad for searching.

Looking forward to BDSM specific reviews!

Pollenbroker6141 reads

Need a field or two for setting and equipment.  Does she work out of a dungeon?  Is it well equipped?  How well?  If outcall, does she supply equipment or do you need to provide (e.g., paddles, restraints, etc.)  IMHO, this is all as important as services provided.  

Also - does she do role play, and if so, what?  Is she good at it?  

Finally, you need to have fields for safety and hygiene.  This is an an area where people can get seriously hurt if the players don't know what they are doing.  Also - does she practice good hygiene -- e.g., putting condoms on dildos.

deuce25355962 reads

One thing I would like to see would be a tag next to each review on the provider's profile indicating what services that session entailed, ie gfe, pse, bdsm, escort, massage etc.  It gets kind of annoying if you do a search for say 's&m' providers and you get a list of tons that say that is one of the services they provide.  Then you have to read through a bunch of reviews looking for an s&m session, only to sometimes not even find any at all.

So would this go under my regular reviews for example? I offer BDSM services on their sites under the name Goddess Sidney Starr. I don't even mention anything about it on here since I am a provider. I think this is a great idea! I just don't want o scare anyone away if they are looking for one or the other. Want people to know what I offer.

deuce25357069 reads

Well I'm thinking that it would be on your profile page.  Down at the bottom where the reviews are, it lists them with collumns of date, reviewer, online status, appearance/performance.  I would like to see a collumn that would list service provided for that review.

jack3027289 reads

Need to add full toilet play aka brown showers.

Also public humiliation, verbal humiliation, CBT, I guess cuckold?

Works with other Dommes?

Of course if the provider is into a sensual, or heavy type of session.

etc.

Thank you so much for doing this! Your site is great, but trying to fit square peg into round hole with standard providers just doesn't "fit".

To each their own!

Ishootcraps6491 reads

Also; SENSUAL DOMINATION, ORGASM CONTROL, FORCED ORGASM, POST ORGASM TORTURE,

The list would be quite extensive and have many options, for example under ruined orgasm there are several types, ABANDONED, SQUELCHED, THUMBING, MILKING, BLEEDING (no blood, it's a metaphor).

Having an Orgasm and how you have one will be very important, it is the single biggest reason I have not pursue BDSM, most DOM sites say sexual contact is off the table, and that having an orgasm is not guaranteed or permitted.  In addition to the BDSM services I need to know what form of orgasm is on the menu; will you force me to have sex with you, keeping in role throughout, or will you tie me down and have your way with me, or do you drop out of rope and we finish as a normal session, do you give me permission or order me come on demand, do you punish me for coming early, some DOMs allow you to come only if you swallow it yourself ( something I would not like and scares me), can we discuss this in detail before the session.

There needs to be a section on outfits, types of equipment, do you have a dungeon , do you have portable restraints, bed restraints, door restraints, how about strap on play, face harness, outfits for me, medical play, enemas; also do you debrief, (apparently a very important aspect to avoid "sub drop"), what type of training have you received .  You should have a site area that describes thing for newbies, also that list reputable training service that

The review  could have multiple sections such as

How did she discuss your desired session and activities?
How did she dress?
Did she offer a safe word, did you use it ?
What type of bondage did she employ?
What was her dungeon like?
Did she let you come? How did she let you come?
Did she debrief you at the end?
Was she any good with a whip?
Did she respect you boundaries? Did she push you boundaries

kismet936299 reads

How about facesitting? And if yes, is it covered(boo) or uncovered?
And what about spitting? Agressive on the face or slow and sensual in the mouth?

jack3026977 reads

If the there is any period play, panty worship, and YES covered vs uncovered ass/pussy worship, face sitting

Limits - anything the provider will not engage in

Knowledge of and good technique for various BDSM activities

how about forced rape (not actually forced) by bringing in another male or by strap on or other toy.

Does she see Cross dressers? will she force you to cross dress?

In my opinion, there needs to be some way to communicate

How connected did you experience the session?

How satisfying was the session?  

Did you actually have fun Play time?  

Did you experience your submission or being Dominant?

If a submissive, did the Dom(me) take control?

If Dom, did the submissive obey within agreed limits?

If an educational session, was the material presented in an organized, easy to follow, interesting way?

If an educational session, did you leave knowing more than when you arrived?


Where you allowed to take still images or video?

How much?  was there an additional cost?


Was the session held in a private or semi private dungeon? hotel room? Play space?

Was there a full bathroom at the facility?  Where you invited to use it after?

Did you feel safe?  respected?  honored?





enigma8786584 reads

This is great and it appears you have enough solid input already.

LukeAppling7079 reads

It's too hard to find the reviews for BDSM providers.  Anytime I try to search for someone and I check the "S&M provided" option, I get just get the hundreds of providers who list bondage as an option but in reality it's something that they rarely do.  

If you can't limit this category to providers who exclusively specialize in bondage, then make it easier for me to filter the reviews for bondage related activity.  Again, when I check on the "S&M" category for actual services provided, I get tons of providers, but I have to read all of their reviews to try to find the one that bondage related.  So annoying.

jack3026104 reads

I agree completely!  Checking the S&M offered box gets many, many, reviews that immediately speak of BBBJ's. Not really a typical BDSM thang!  Even though checking the drop down for "Heavy" under S&M provides a bit better info, it is still often for providers that generally do something else as their MAIN interest.

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