At the time, I didn't see anything amiss with asking a simple question about a lady that I used to see frequently, but hadn't heard from in several months. I had made a point of telling her once that if she ever didn't want to see me again to please let me know. Because others had made the same type of request from time to time, I had no idea that I was violating some type of protocol, crossing a line, or breaking an unwritten rule. Evidently I was mistaken. By the way, I got no responses to my query.

A great many of those 411 posts are for ladies who, for the many reasons you listed, are not taking new clients for a period of time.  For example, there are a couple that I was interested in seeing that I subsequently learned are only entertaining regular clients.  However, their web site and TER contact info appears to still solicit new client inquiries via contact forms or emails.  It would seem to be very simple to enable an autoreply on email to that effect and/or to disable the contact link on the site.  That would seem to simplify life for the lady and to create some pretty good potential client goodwill.

As for the ladies who have dropped from the radar, I know of a couple of 411 posts and responses by innocent and well-intended gentlemen that could have done the lady considerable harm, given what I know of their situation.  The last couple of sentences of Erica's post are spot on.

So - ladies, if you change agencies and also identities, a lot of 411s would disappear if your new agency just posted that (some seem to and some not.)  And if you don't want to entertain new clients for a while, do something simple to let us poor guys know that.  And if you are dropping out for a while, tell your regulars goodbye.  Guys - it ain't personal.  If she's not answering, then there is a reason and it almost certainly has nothing to do with you (and if it does, then you are really screwed.)

Just my .02

Well ....

I have had a few gents contact me and ask " you please have ......contact me? she wont return my calls or emails"  
I am sorry but this puts me in a position and I dont mind helping anyone out but if a provider wont return your calls and/or emails then there is a reason. I dont feel comfortable being the "middle man" and I know I am friends with a lot of ladies but that doesnt mean I can force any of them to see or contact someone they dont wish to. One guy even got mad as hell at ME because the lady wouldnt respond to him and he knew we were friends.  
I say if a lady doesnt respond then respect her privacy and wishes. I am sure there is a very good reason Some ladies are in school, some have families and life outside of here, some only wish to see a select few, some have other jobs, etc... so its all good to want to show the world how much you miss them or would love to meet them but it is obviously not what the lady wants and her friends definitely dont want to have guys putting the friend as a middle person to relay messeges then only to get mad at the friend.
I agree an auto response would be good but we really cant control how another lady handles her business
If a lady will not repond then move on to the next beautiful lady that catches your eye To many fabulous ladies here to have fun with
Hugs and kisses
TL

Great Post.

I have had this issue and I choose not to see such persons as it violates my personal requests of true discretion and therefore makes them a danger to my safety and personal life. I have even had guys harass my assistant and email other board members so as to try and band together and bully a response or overthrow my assistant as she was believed to be cock blocking them.  

Fortunately, I am simply in the position to ignore and add to my DNS list.
It is disturbing really. The times have changed. We may have to start 'paying them to go away.' There's a thought....'here, keep this $20 and don't email me everyday or post on the forums, thanks!'  

As you stated, some of us do have very full personal lives with careers and families such as the gentlemen so why are we not deserving of the same standards of respect, discretion, and personal space. Mindboggling.

In the meantime, I simply contact the poster directly and request they remove their posting and they usually do. As far as emails, if no assistant, filter addresses and content if you can via your email host OR eat a light breakfast, have a brown bag on hand, dust that Delete button off, and sift through it simply deleting and ignoring anything that makes you uncomfortable in any way. We are still human beings, maybe raging sexpots as well, that are deserving of common decency and personal comfort nonetheless.

Good Luck

Came the loss of anonymity. That to me was the worst part of the biz going viral. I do understand why sites such as this began as the men were at a disadvantage with bait and switch and robs, so on and so forth.  
This site was built by a hobbyist that had many bad experiences and he wanted a way to help other men avoid those problems. Understood and good idea. The flip side of that though is that it took the Power Out Of The Pussy completely and gave the Men the edge, Instead of it being 50/50 as it should be now we women are backed into a corner.
When I first started almost 2 decades ago, There was no BBBJ nor DFK nor CIM until you became a repeat client. There was Anal but with an extra fee dependent on the package you possess.
Now its like Domino's all the barriers fell, anonymity lost and dangerous practices have become the norm.
ISO's are a natural progression and just another one of the Domino's. IF a man is seeing a gal repeatedly over a period of time, then she just goes invisible for any one of your stated reasons, either auto response or an email letting them know that youre taking a breather would be wise. You have no need to explain but, you must expect that in a business full of emotion, You will be looked for by those clients and ISO's are to be expected. Unfortunetly.

 
tyvm,P.T.

....this is like the 2nd or 3rd most 'liked' post i've seen on TER lol.