Minnesota
Very enjoyable post Ms. Jennie Kennedy...
You're definitely on my list now
And if I happened to "shit" (or fart) during a session, I'd hope the provider, once she and I stopped laughing our asses off, would clean me up just like when I make other kinds of "eruptions" from my body, no? One last thing...in countries all over the world, certain things are accepted and others are not. I'll give one example of 'nose' since I already mentioned. Blowing our nose in the US is fine whereas in others it is frowned upon and rarely done. Millions of cultural examples for another post..."scratching my butt" now... Thanks for keeping it so real! For my part, it's a natural body process and I wouldn't freak out if I were with someone and a gaseous explosion occurred. We all have our moments when we blow it up so there's no reason why anyone should judge! Although, if a man farts in a forest and no one hears, did it really happen? haha
On the flip side, I've had this happen to me(embarrassed to admit it!). I'd hold that ish in if it kills me! I've always thought that women are expected to maintain a sweet, flowery composure, and letting one rip def doesn't fit in any subsets of sweet and flowery! This reminds me of the "poo pouri" commercial posted this past week. It's refreshing to hear that you would laugh and move forward. More people should be like this! No one wants a shifty stare of disgust shot in their direction.
Your post made me realize that most of the embarrassment of bodily functions is the fear of people's conditioned reactions. Uncertainty is so uncomfortable! It seems if you are comfortable with yourself and don't make a big deal about it neither will a girl. In my experience, this is true in other aspects of life. Some people can shamelessly do things that would leave me mortified with heat climbing up my neck simply because they dare to try. Most individuals are so caught up in their own impression management that they forget any incidents that aren't about themselves.
Your post raised a further question in my mind. Why does society play the shame game for certain behaviors and how did these actions originally become stigmatized? In the case of gas, there's nothing offensive other than an odor and silly sound. Who told us, whether implicitly or explicitly, that certain body processes have no place in polite society? Why do we perpetuate the belief? (This line of thought can be applied elsewhere *hint* *hint*)
Finally, I respect your openness to ask this question! Don't abscond to the shower if gas occurs! If someone is rude or makes you feel "less than" for something as trivial as gas, then they don't deserve the pleasure of your company. A negative reaction says more about that person than you. Enjoy the company of people who will give you the respect you deserve.
-Jennie Kennedy
"Conformity is the jailer of freedom and the enemy of growth." -JFK
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On the flip side, I've had this happen to me(embarrassed to admit it!). I'd hold that ish in if it kills me! I've always thought that women are expected to maintain a sweet, flowery composure, and letting one rip def doesn't fit in any subsets of sweet and flowery! This reminds me of the "poo pouri" commercial posted this past week. It's refreshing to hear that you would laugh and move forward. More people should be like this! No one wants a shifty stare of disgust shot in their direction.
Your post made me realize that most of the embarrassment of bodily functions is the fear of people's conditioned reactions. Uncertainty is so uncomfortable! It seems if you are comfortable with yourself and don't make a big deal about it neither will a girl. In my experience, this is true in other aspects of life. Some people can shamelessly do things that would leave me mortified with heat climbing up my neck simply because they dare to try. Most individuals are so caught up in their own impression management that they forget any incidents that aren't about themselves.
Your post raised a further question in my mind. Why does society play the shame game for certain behaviors and how did these actions originally become stigmatized? In the case of gas, there's nothing offensive other than an odor and silly sound. Who told us, whether implicitly or explicitly, that certain body processes have no place in polite society? Why do we perpetuate the belief? (This line of thought can be applied elsewhere *hint* *hint*)
Finally, I respect your openness to ask this question! Don't abscond to the shower if gas occurs! If someone is rude or makes you feel "less than" for something as trivial as gas, then they don't deserve the pleasure of your company. A negative reaction says more about that person than you. Enjoy the company of people who will give you the respect you deserve.
-Jennie Kennedy
"Conformity is the jailer of freedom and the enemy of growth." -JFK
Scat's a funny one, bigdell
I had a lady fart in my face once. Didn't seem to bother her greatly, although she did apologize. I just told her I took it as a complement on my DATY ability was so good that she lost control. We then had a good laugh and she told me if I was really good maybe she would poop for me.
Personally, none of the things you described would not alarm me, most of them might make me smile or laugh. I'd hope that to be treated the same way - with humor and respect - if I accidentally did something embarrassing in front of a partner. No one deserves to feel bad for being human. And if a someone does make you feel bad, move on to someone who treats you better
