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That the provider is corresponding/flirting/building a rapport with many simultaneously.  You are only corresponding with her.

Most providers expect to spend a reasonable amount of time communicating with their clients before meeting.  Reasonable is the key word.

The girlfriend experience is just a fantasy-- you should keep that in mind.  Your real girlfriend/romantic interest would have all the time in the world to get to know you and flirt back and forth, but a providers time is split in so many directions....  Once you meet her in person, you WILL get her undivided attention.

hysmyth1492 reads

It seems like all the women I want to see want to have meeting "professional" men.

So I try and set meetings and flirt a little by e-mail beforehand, try and get to know them and they know me so our time together isn't a cold, "one sided" meeting.

But it seems like I'm contacting them too early or something and my communication is more bothersome rather than getting acquainted.

I am a professional and have a busy schedule when I travel, so I try and line up all my schedule ahead of time - not just this hobby.

It also isn't like I'm shelling out a few hundred dollars either. I'm spending some money.

Am I out of line and need a reality check or looking in the wrong place for my entertainment?

BK57354 reads

You've got to relax about this. You've made a date with a girl you've never met. She's just being a little cautious. When you book weeks in advance the girl has other things on her mind besides you. You're spending too much time anticipating the Big Event. Cool the emails, relax, and enjoy! You'll get to know her at the right time.

hysmyth1374 reads

Fine. It isn't that big of event.

understand your wanting to comunicate prior. It makes sense. However, I think that most ladies are used to phone comunication so its just what one is accustomed to . Also, I think preople prefer to keep as much out of wriiting as possible. As long as you dont get "specific" in delicate details and arent emailing mulitple times a day every day. I think its fine. Better in fact.

The short answer is no for some, and yes for others.  
Each lady has, or should have her own booking procedure in place for you to follow.  

..."So I try and set meetings and flirt a little by e-mail beforehand"...

This part of your post lost me.  Just so I am clear.  Are you trying to establish a connection via email before a commitment has been made or an actual request has been confirmed?  

If so, that may or may not (depending on her style), have something to do with the "bothersome" replies.  If you were contacting them too early, I don't see why they wouldn't just let you know this.  

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samanthaj169 reads

As a provider who prefers bookings in advance, I usually don't have a problem with this. Most of my dates travel for business and can tell me weeks in advance when they will be in town.

But as BiCoastalBeauty said, some feel the need to chat weeks in advance and either don't book or have other intentions. It becomes bothersome as some take advantage of the "getting to know you period" to just "shoot the shit" so the speak or just waste time.

Posted By: BiCoastalBeauty
The short answer is no for some, and yes for others.  
Each lady has, or should have her own booking procedure in place for you to follow.  

..."So I try and set meetings and flirt a little by e-mail beforehand"...

This part of your post lost me.  Just so I am clear.  Are you trying to establish a connection via email before a commitment has been made or an actual request has been confirmed?  

If so, that may or may not (depending on her style), have something to do with the "bothersome" replies.  If you were contacting them too early, I don't see why they wouldn't just let you know this.  

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....I couldn't be any sweeter but sending too many email cuts into a lot of time.  You really want to get to know her or get more deeply acquainted PLEASE SAVE SOMETHING for the actual date.  You're not paying her to be your pen pal. A few emails here and there is understandable....I enjoy some of the back and forth but again you really want to save as much as possible for the real thing,

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there's a huge difference between "flirting a little" and being incredibly overbearing.  sometimes, it can be hard to know where to draw the line -- some ladies have more free time than others -- but, IMO, for most women, it's unreasonable to expect daily contact for three solid weeks prior to a date.  many of us have other responsibilities -- other e-mails that may be more time-sensitive, clients to assure and references to provide, travels to embark upon, families and friends to give our attention to, etc.

there's nothing wrong with setting up a date far in advance -- believe me, most of us really appreciate it.  however, you also must learn where to draw the line, and how much contact is too much.  this will vary from provider to provider.

anyone who's spoken with me can attest that correspondence is absolutely my weakest point.  i am naturally introverted, so balancing my social life and my work life has always been a struggle for me.  if i am dealing with something stressful at home (for example, caring for my dog as he is dying of lymphoma -- i must take him to the vet tomorrow to release him from this mortal coil as his suffering has begun to outweigh his joy), i will be even worse.  it doesn't mean that i don't care about them, it doesn't mean that i don't think about them, and it absolutely DOES NOT mean that i'm canceling on them or forgetting about our date; it just means i'm BUSY.  i'm very grateful to my suitors for understanding that i have this weakness and making me a part of their lives in spite of it.

you're not out of line, per se, but it's important to ALWAYS remember that providers have lives outside of their vocation.

hysmyth1252 reads

Very good points. Thank you.

Posted By: butterflydust
there's a huge difference between "flirting a little" and being incredibly overbearing.  sometimes, it can be hard to know where to draw the line -- some ladies have more free time than others -- but, IMO, for most women, it's unreasonable to expect daily contact for three solid weeks prior to a date.  many of us have other responsibilities -- other e-mails that may be more time-sensitive, clients to assure and references to provide, travels to embark upon, families and friends to give our attention to, etc.

there's nothing wrong with setting up a date far in advance -- believe me, most of us really appreciate it.  however, you also must learn where to draw the line, and how much contact is too much.  this will vary from provider to provider.

anyone who's spoken with me can attest that correspondence is absolutely my weakest point.  i am naturally introverted, so balancing my social life and my work life has always been a struggle for me.  if i am dealing with something stressful at home (for example, caring for my dog as he is dying of lymphoma -- i must take him to the vet tomorrow to release him from this mortal coil as his suffering has begun to outweigh his joy), i will be even worse.  it doesn't mean that i don't care about them, it doesn't mean that i don't think about them, and it absolutely DOES NOT mean that i'm canceling on them or forgetting about our date; it just means i'm BUSY.  i'm very grateful to my suitors for understanding that i have this weakness and making me a part of their lives in spite of it.

you're not out of line, per se, but it's important to ALWAYS remember that providers have lives outside of their vocation.

I prefer to do 99% of my communication by email, and pre-bookings in advance always get a thumbs up for me. I'm a bit organization-obsessed so knowing plans ahead of time is great in my books - not that I don't enjoy more spontaneous dates too, but things in my calendar ahead of time are always nice to have. I too enjoy feeling like I know the gentleman a little beforehand, so it would depend what you mean by "flirting a little". A few, non-detailed emails ahead of time would probably put me more at ease in fact, and lets me know what kind of connection we'll have and lets us "click" a little. However, I would agree with previous ladies that sending a great deal of emails can start to turn things the other way and make a woman wary. Not to mention that there should always be some excitement of the unknown left, a little mystery and surprise is sexy!

KSM46284 reads

Mackenzie. It was a real pleasure getting to know you via emails before our date. Your are a delightful woman.

That the provider is corresponding/flirting/building a rapport with many simultaneously.  You are only corresponding with her.

Most providers expect to spend a reasonable amount of time communicating with their clients before meeting.  Reasonable is the key word.

The girlfriend experience is just a fantasy-- you should keep that in mind.  Your real girlfriend/romantic interest would have all the time in the world to get to know you and flirt back and forth, but a providers time is split in so many directions....  Once you meet her in person, you WILL get her undivided attention.

If every single guy wanted to trade back and forth flirtatious banter for weeks ahead of time, how much time that would take out of our schedules?  I know a lot of guys think we lay around in lingerie eating bonbons all day but I don't know a single provider who doesn't have an incredibly full plate with family, friends, other jobs/careers/ travel and actual booking/screening emails.

"I am a professional and have a busy schedule when I travel, so I try and line up all my schedule ahead of time - not just this hobby. "  Yeah sweetheart, you're not the only one.

PhilAsheo205 reads


Funny ... you're never TOO busy with family, friends, other jobs, travel to take hundreds of dollars
from us though!

You'll find out that with that attitude that you're not the only one either.

I turn down appointments all the time because I'm too busy with all of those previously mentioned things.  My job is to be a companion for the time contracted for and usual back and forth about wardrobe requests and refreshment options. Three weeks of flirty emails is a bit much when I have other clients needing my attention as well.  Ask all your questions at once, get all your responses at once.  An occasional email over the three week period letting the lady know you're looking forward to the meeting is plenty.

Ask any woman in this business and she'll tell you that this very behavior often ends in a cancellation.  So then all those hours of "flirtatious banter" were wasted.  You learn after a while to figure out who is serious and who isn't.  In general guys that do this seem to be timewasters.

If I am in process of setting up an extended engagement with someone 3 weeks from now (and no, it is not too much in advance, I have dates scheduled months ahead) I most likely will engage in flirtatious banter.


I am going to spend anywhere from 4 hours to 4 days with a person, i want to get to know the other person a little better before meeting them.

If, on another hand, one hour appointment being arranged for some future date, you can pretty much expect communication to be limited to screening, scheduling and confirmation.

I know it sucks, but VIP clients and red carpet treatment are part of every industry and escorting is no different.

Lina

RocketMan36218 reads

I plan most of my dates months in advance, and the ladies generally like the advance notice....

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