Posted By: butterflydust
there's a huge difference between "flirting a little" and being incredibly overbearing.  sometimes, it can be hard to know where to draw the line -- some ladies have more free time than others -- but, IMO, for most women, it's unreasonable to expect daily contact for three solid weeks prior to a date.  many of us have other responsibilities -- other e-mails that may be more time-sensitive, clients to assure and references to provide, travels to embark upon, families and friends to give our attention to, etc.

there's nothing wrong with setting up a date far in advance -- believe me, most of us really appreciate it.  however, you also must learn where to draw the line, and how much contact is too much.  this will vary from provider to provider.

anyone who's spoken with me can attest that correspondence is absolutely my weakest point.  i am naturally introverted, so balancing my social life and my work life has always been a struggle for me.  if i am dealing with something stressful at home (for example, caring for my dog as he is dying of lymphoma -- i must take him to the vet tomorrow to release him from this mortal coil as his suffering has begun to outweigh his joy), i will be even worse.  it doesn't mean that i don't care about them, it doesn't mean that i don't think about them, and it absolutely DOES NOT mean that i'm canceling on them or forgetting about our date; it just means i'm BUSY.  i'm very grateful to my suitors for understanding that i have this weakness and making me a part of their lives in spite of it.

you're not out of line, per se, but it's important to ALWAYS remember that providers have lives outside of their vocation.