Someone tries to bring some humanity to the hobby, and someone else, hiding behind an alias, has to throw stones.

Well said Tori!!!

Love and respect, to all of the lovely ladies I've met before, and hope to meet in the future!!!

jazz32

"You mean to tell me that your hubby can't identify you just because of a blurred face"

(Scene: at a provider's house)

SO: "Hey!!! I just saw a picture on an escort web site, and I think it's you!!  What the hell is going on?!!!"

Provider, option A: "What the hell are you doing looking at escort web sites???  You're screwing escorts?!?!?!?"

Provider, option B: "Oh god. (sniffle)  Honey, when I was younger, I let my boyfriend take some....suggestive pictures of me.  When I dumped him, he posted them online to get revenge on me.  It looks like this escort is using them in her ad.  I'm so embarassed. (sob)"

Provider, option C: "That's not me, honey.  I've got bigger tits.  And a tatoo."  (Tatoo was also blured out in the picture).

Provider, option C1: "What do you mean I don't have bigger tits??!!!  Are you saying I'm ugly?!?!"

And so on, and so on, and so on.  You need some more experience arguing with a woman.

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~I understand it is impossible to believe that there are men in the world who do not access porn sites, or adult sites... ever

In regards to what you decided to  AssUme ....  the term S/O actually is thought to represent a significant other, not necessarily a "hubby" - to use your word. It is sad that individuals just make AssUmptions that can lead to thoughts of their own that are far removed from reality.

Not that I feel any validation is necessary but since you did take the time to post, I will reply. (*sorry it wasn't immediate, I was away for the weekend*)  My S/O does not surf adult sites, EVER.... It also helps that every computer with my S/O's utilization, even his home desk top... is under close watch and just a hit (~from any desk top, lap top or any other computer authorized by him to use~)  to an adult site, would result in a very serious investigation into the incident.

.....And much to the disbelief of many Newbies, I don't walk the street in 7 inch stilettos with a short skirt. I have a very professional look and my mannerisms are not what most would envision as a hooker. So the very thought of linking the "hobby" to me doesn't usually present itself.

As my post was trying to suggest.... not all providers are uneducated, illiterate druggies who are merely looking for their next BJ to support their crack addition. When you examine the real facts, a woman in this business, with any effort.... can be the sole proprietor of a small business. A small business in which she does her own marketing, communicating and overseeing the advertising. She is also in control of the growth of her business. When you consider the statics of small business ventures it would be hard to find a small business that can profit close to a quarter of a million dollars in the first year operating.

Thank you for reminding me why I made the post to begin with and for illustrating the lack of thought put forth in some of the statements made to providers. Believe it or not there are providers who have "thought the process through" and who have taken the precautions and steps necessary to try to safe guard their involvement. It is just unfortunate that many hobbyist do not do the same. Thus, I have to sift through literally hundreds of emails to weed out the careless, thought less ones that can jeopardize my safety and lifestyle. And..... as harsh as it might sound, this is all to avoid careless, thoughtless men who think that the color of their donation out weighs any other concerns in my life.

If you were running your own small business and you did not pay attention to the details..... would you stay in business? ... neither would I

There are providers that are truly indeed professionals and cater to discretion and privacy....  thus offering a truly safe "walk on the wild side" .... In my opinion, that separates the hobbyists from the johns who frequent street walkers.

If you are involved in the hobby, in my opinion, you have already decided that you are willing to compensate a lady for her awareness and safety and the implied guarantee that you will walk away with no ramifications. The mere fact that my "blurr" face might be on the internet isn't proof of anything in my life or lifestyle. No more so than your post under a screen name on this board. (*But I appreciate the insight into your train of thought*)

Happy Hobbying, thank you for your thoughts (*and know your providers reputation*).....  kisses ~Tori

-That someone was still reading my thoughts.

I understand there are some who think I am a bit insane, but I follow my own heart and my own path. Thank you again for the comment  kisses ~Tori

-- Modified on 9/12/2007 9:00:29 PM