Here's a problem I'm struggling with:

Clients typically say that they want to please their provider, but in my experience they do not want any instruction, no matter how politely or sweetly put, on how to give sexual pleasure.  

I am very sensitive "down there," but any time I've gently tried to encourage a softer approach, I get a lot of pouting or even anger.  The same goes for, ouch, I'm not a yogi, my body can't bend that way without breaking, or, YEOW, when you stick your dry finger with sharp fingernails in my butt it really hurts!  

It seems to me that the majority of clients want validation for their sexual performance exactly the way they do it - in other words, they don't want to change anything about their sexual methods, but they want you to like it just the way they do, and NOT the way you do.  My provider girlfriends and I agree - the only way to get through a session much of the time is to pretend we're enjoying ourselves, since giving hints just doesn't seem to work.

So, gentleman, what are your opinions?  How you reconcile the complaints we hear often enough in reviews about provider unenthusiasm (or obviously fake enthusiam) with a total unwillingness to learn what it takes to please an individual woman?  Are you paying for a performance from your provider, or do you actually want to please her?