Typical newbie bind, you're building a history without wanting to give up anything about yourself.
The commonly seen "Newbie Friendly" seems to mean she is open to new clients rather than her being ok with minimal to no prior references or ID.
There's a good chance she'll be a rip-off or LE, especially if she has little or no review history
You just have to find the 'newbie friendly' provider that doesn't want your name, rank, and serial number, so to speak. As far as the verification sites are concerned, my thought it that is better to give them personal info than to providers. Their servers are outside the U.S., where what we do is legal, so less chance of losing your info to LE.
Some guys are very protective of their identities, either due to marital status, or job status. It really depends on how much you are willing to offer to get the service you want.
LLAP,
Swim
I think the easiest way is likely to find a DIY massage provider who has very little to no up front screening and is willing to give a reference to a massage provider has a broader menu, and then on from there.
Are all references the same though (that could be the problem). Maybe an escort only takes other escort references, and so on.
The funny thing, I'm not even seeing a provider offering "the whole enchilada"