The LA board is fatigued with this issue (see link), but I feel that something important has to be pointed out, so I'm posting it here instead to give them a rest on it. Besides, I believe the larger community should consider this.
Guys please consider this next time you want to complain about screening.
If trysters have to lower their screening practices, this hobby would become something close to hell. Women would be bitter, afraid, stressed out, which would take a physical toll on them, and they'd take it out on their clients, who in turn, would respect them much less, and may get abusive. In other words, the hobby would be pushed to SW level.
Trysters careers would also be much shorter and far worse. It would be harder for clients to make a connection with trysters, I know this hobby wouldn't be worth it to me if ladies couldn't screen for their safety.
Yes, some practices may just give women more of a feeling than give them actual safety. But, like that isn't important to making encounters good?
Please respect them about this guys, and get to understand how stressful it is even with screening for them to see any of us for the first time.
PS-- I'm gone for the weekend. I'll read the answers when I'm back.
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and quite honestly I could care less what screening initiatives they have in place because if I don't like them I move on to the next one. I dont need to complain, I dont need to tell the provider she's unreasonable, all I need to do is take my money elsewhere and enjoy myself.
There are very good arguments on both sides and we all need to make our choices. You go where you want and Im going where I want.
I dont really see that many guys complaining about it at all and if one does why do you feel you should be the self appointed guardian of the providers screening processes. I've seen you carrying this cross so many times I'm starting to wonder why? Now before someone even posts a complaint on either side you feel the need to start it up again? why? At this point, where in the world are you trying to go with this?
oh and please drop that ridiculous SW argument there are just too many great providers that dont have the need for the intrusive screening for you to be comaparing them that way.
You are right. This subject is tired. My advice for the avid hobbyists is to ask their best ladies for recommendations for "when they are not available." For one, it solves the issue of not being known, but it also allows you to spend less time searching for great ladies, because almost no one is going to recommend you to a dud. This even works for the traveling guys if they plan ahead. If you are a stand-up guy, your next date will be a breeze. When screening goes past, place of employment, name, DL screening, and references, it's very annoying and a turn off. It's unfortunate that so many people vote with their dicks than the old wallet. If I don't like where a provider is coming from during initial contact. I just say next. It's better all around when you land in the arms of "joy" than a woman who is pissed off about her life.
Im out for the weekend as well
Have a great weekend all !!!
I wish that those who complain about screening would be able have the opportunity i had a few months ago.
I met 2 of my "friends" in the business for lunch.
They had not met before and the lunch was spent with me listening to them talk about their experiences .
It was an eye opener in that there was alot of discussion how even careful screening doesn't get all the "weirdos" and how many times they had very bad experiences with a client who screened ok.
This is a very tough business for these ladies.
I totally respect what they do and what they have to go through to do it.
Guys, just try to understand that all the guys are not as nice as you might be and she needs to feel safe and confidant before she can give you the experience you want.
And for any of you who think I'm a shill for, and kissing up to, the ladies, I've never had any problems getting a date with anyone I've wanted. I screen just fine.
Think about it.
Just my opinion...
B
Is it no wonder LA is tired of it. I am a complete SHILL for the ladies. They need to protect themselves in any way, shape or form that meets their needs. If it does not meet yours, move on.
I have never had to jump through that many hoops in getting a date. In fact even with the very first a couple years ago, I have never been declined EVER. That said, I could still get in the door and start tripping on the lady and be an asshole.
This is a rough career they have chose, and they need to be safe.
GIVE IT UP, it's not going to change. Might it be that you change?
Or bore yourself with more of the LA board here:
http://www.theeroticreview.com/discussion_boards/viewmsg.asp?MessageID=152703&boardID=1&page=1
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...does anyone know how to repair a screen door? My damn dog shredded it last year.
you're gonna need a roll of screen, arzor blade, some spline, and a splining tool.
First remove the old screen and spline.
Then roll our enough screen to cover, with some overhang the opening in the door you are re-screening.
take the spline and with the splining tool, work the screen into the edges of the opening, the splining tool will force the spline in and hold the screen in place.
Doot this around the entire opening, and when finished cut away any excess screen that sticks out from the splining with a razor blade.
Re-hang the door and all should be well until the damn dog gets at it again. *grin*
Don't forget to lube the door with da Judy Jucie.
I loves da webbie............xoxoxoxo!
Judy
I'll check out Home Depot for the appropriate gear.
Dog won't do it again -- ol' Nigel checked out last year. 15 years, a decent run for his sort.