No you're right Dazed.  Anyways "Am I gay if I like transsexuals?"  Beats the crap out of me.  Don't care anyway.  Nothing's more fun than treating a transsexual girl nice.

Referring to one of the previous emails, I don't like labels, but they are hard to avoid, especially among Trans folk. For me, it was a great relief to find, through the Internet, that I was not alone and my sexuality is not unusual. I am a TG and Bi.  Still, there are variations on sexuality since for my entire life I kept to the Straight side of the street and kept my fantasis for fun. Those were often about sex with a man.  From what I have learned I am not the only "straight" guy who finds himself thinking about how hot it would be to get one of those big things in his mouth, just like the women are able to do. With our current society busy respressing sexuality, it is no wonder men and women think outside the box as a result.  So for myself, the labels TG, TV, CD, Bi all had something for me. At least I could sort of identify myself as to sexual preferences.  

At this time I am questioning my sexuality and it is complcating my life even after decades of mixed up sexuality.

Well, those of us who've been at this awhile may feel that it's deja vu all over again in summer reruns brought to us by the Redundancy Dept of Redundancy, but for those just venturing into these waters, it's a new and valid question. A great many guys are strongly attracted to Tgirls yet deathly afraid of discovering that they are gay, hence the conflict. So long as society defines orientation purely on whether you and your partner(s) have the same genitals or not, this will persist (never mind the intersexed!), but we know things aren't that simple.

To recap: there's a definite distinction between gender identification (e.g., do you--regardless of your birth sex--identify as male or female?) and sexual orientation (e.g., are you sexually and emotionally oriented to the opposite sex or the same sex or both?). A pre-op M2F transsexual may be sexually oriented towards men while identifying as a woman; if you as a man make love with that woman, the physical aspect of the sexual encounter (the fact that you and she both have a penis) is not, in my eyes, the qualifing factor; her gender identification is.

Fortunately, I never asked myself this question, as I discovered that I'm bisexual (or pansexual) over 30 years ago. That was a little shocking at first: I wasn't attracted to guys--never have been--but I discovered that sex with a guy can be incredibly exciting. Fast forward to several years ago and my first TS experience, and I discovered a vastly more exciting way to enjoy those physical pleasures (giving head, being bottom--since getting head and being top are not dependent on your partner's genitalia) since they can be combined with a beautiful, sexy, smooth-skinned, feminine woman. Needless to say, I have no interest in guys now!

So to answer your question: unless you're attracted to men, you're probably not gay. You may be bisexual (pansexual), or you may be straight--only attracted to women--but open enough about your sexuality to not let a woman's genitals define the nature of your relations.

Or, in simple terms: If it feels good, do it; if it doesn't, move on.

I am not gay I am a freek. men do not do it for me however a feminine TS with a stick is one hot MF. I have no problem admitting it if I was but the truth is I am not. Sorry to disappoint all you armchair shrinks. I is a form of personal identification. Most TS don't think they are gay either. What a concept.