Don't send a PM, send an appointment request, or a pre-screening request, which will be sent directly to her e-mail. Many times, the one's who send PM's are not serious about scheduling an appointment, and the lady will take you more seriously if you request a pre-screening or an actual appointment. The last 10 PM's I received on P411 were from gentlemen no where in my area, just commenting on my pics & asking if I'd ever be visiting their area, lol.