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Re: Here is a simple suggestion that may put you at peace.
veronicaphillips
posted
1 / 20
Intrigued*
posted
2 / 20
veronicaphillips
posted
7 / 20
veronicaphillips
posted
8 / 20
veronicaphillips
posted
9 / 20
lumbermanxxx
posted
12 / 20
did nothing wrong, things happen if life beyond our control. It sounds like you have a very good connection with him, maybe offer him a little extra sometime at no charge..lol. Don't make it something you dwell on, neither of you will appreciate it. Have fun and move on 
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A few weeks ago, a very special friend scheduled an extended visit.
So of course, I set aside a few hours for he and I to share.
At the last minute, due to a genuine family emergency, he was forced to cancel.
He did so in the most gracious way. In fact, he offered to compensate me for my time. At the time, I accepted the offer.
And therein lies my dilemma. I was conflicted then, and I'm still conflicted today.
(just so you know, I never asked to be compensated)
Besides, after he informed me of why we couldn't meet, compensation was the furthest thing from my mind.
I've actually shared some time alone with the gentleman since then. He doesn't feel as if I've done anything wrong.
If fact, he insists that it would have been wrong for him not to offer. And insulting for me not to accept.
My question isn't really whether it should be protocol to compensate a lady in some way if you have to cancel at the last minute. It sometimes takes us hours to prepare to meet you. There are often costs involved in that preparation as well.
But in this case, the reason for the cancellation was close personal loss.
And I knew it.
Was I wrong to accept?
-- Modified on 8/27/2015 9:06:03 PM
So of course, I set aside a few hours for he and I to share.
At the last minute, due to a genuine family emergency, he was forced to cancel.
He did so in the most gracious way. In fact, he offered to compensate me for my time. At the time, I accepted the offer.
And therein lies my dilemma. I was conflicted then, and I'm still conflicted today.
(just so you know, I never asked to be compensated)
Besides, after he informed me of why we couldn't meet, compensation was the furthest thing from my mind.
I've actually shared some time alone with the gentleman since then. He doesn't feel as if I've done anything wrong.
If fact, he insists that it would have been wrong for him not to offer. And insulting for me not to accept.
My question isn't really whether it should be protocol to compensate a lady in some way if you have to cancel at the last minute. It sometimes takes us hours to prepare to meet you. There are often costs involved in that preparation as well.
But in this case, the reason for the cancellation was close personal loss.
And I knew it.
Was I wrong to accept?
-- Modified on 8/27/2015 9:06:03 PM
If he wants you to have it, but it's bothering you that you accepted it.. donate some of it! How did he lose his loved one? If there is a charitable cause for it, that's your answer.
If not, pick one near and dear to the both of you. He will survive without the money, so will you.
You will both be happy.
And most importantly, you'll be paying it forward and helping others!
How did he lose his loved one? If there is a charitable cause for it, that's your answer. If not, pick one near and dear to the both of you. He will survive without the money, so will you.
You will both be happy.
And most importantly, you'll be paying it forward and helping others!
veronicaphillips
posted
16 / 20
veronicaphillips
posted
17 / 20
if they feel like doing it ..obviously never asking/demanding it because it would seem greedy...however any gentleman willing to care so much about my time is for sure the right and most gracious kind of client. He's a keeper hun
Cancelations suck no matter what however when they are sincere and let you know ahead of time it is much appreciated
A few weeks ago, a very special friend scheduled an extended visit.
So of course, I set aside a few hours for he and I to share.
At the last minute, due to a genuine family emergency, he was forced to cancel.
He did so in the most gracious way. In fact, he offered to compensate me for my time. At the time, I accepted the offer.
And therein lies my dilemma. I was conflicted then, and I'm still conflicted today.
(just so you know, I never asked to be compensated)
Besides, after he informed me of why we couldn't meet, compensation was the furthest thing from my mind.
I've actually shared some time alone with the gentleman since then. He doesn't feel as if I've done anything wrong.
If fact, he insists that it would have been wrong for him not to offer. And insulting for me not to accept.
My question isn't really whether it should be protocol to compensate a lady in some way if you have to cancel at the last minute. It sometimes takes us hours to prepare to meet you. There are often costs involved in that preparation as well.
But in this case, the reason for the cancellation was close personal loss.
And I knew it.
Was I wrong to accept?
-- Modified on 8/27/2015 9:06:03 PM
So of course, I set aside a few hours for he and I to share.
At the last minute, due to a genuine family emergency, he was forced to cancel.
He did so in the most gracious way. In fact, he offered to compensate me for my time. At the time, I accepted the offer.
And therein lies my dilemma. I was conflicted then, and I'm still conflicted today.
(just so you know, I never asked to be compensated)
Besides, after he informed me of why we couldn't meet, compensation was the furthest thing from my mind.
I've actually shared some time alone with the gentleman since then. He doesn't feel as if I've done anything wrong.
If fact, he insists that it would have been wrong for him not to offer. And insulting for me not to accept.
My question isn't really whether it should be protocol to compensate a lady in some way if you have to cancel at the last minute. It sometimes takes us hours to prepare to meet you. There are often costs involved in that preparation as well.
But in this case, the reason for the cancellation was close personal loss.
And I knew it.
Was I wrong to accept?
-- Modified on 8/27/2015 9:06:03 PM
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greenie
posted
19 / 20