I have almost always brought a gift or left a tip besides the donation. Some of the things have been flowers, candy, perfume, wine, VS gift cards, and once jewelry and when I don't bring a gift I've left a tip and on occasions both. The ladies say they don't expect anything extra but I don't feel right if I don't. Some ladies have wish list but say they don't expect anything but the donation. IF I saw a k-girl I wouldn't know what to get. Am I alone in this feeling of having to do more than donation and are you ladies really disappointed without something extra

It's certainly a very sweet thing but not required at all.

Or buy gifts, but there have been exceptions.

One woman I used to see before she retired, said on her website that she likes to try beer from wherever she tours, so I'd get a 6 pack of something local whenever I saw her.

Another provider, who is my ATF, I've used as a reference 3-4 times this year, I put a Starbucks gift card in the donation cause her website says she likes Starbucks.

One provider that I'm seeing at the end of the month, she's doing an outcall, and her incall and outcall rates are the same, so I figure I'd get her an Olive Garden gift card since she likes Olive Garden

It's a kind gesture and really makes my day. Shows that someone put more care into my part of the session. Shows they really want to make me happy. Again I am happy when the guy keeps his appointment! A gift or a tip is just icing on the sex cake.

We have a history.
I have a regular who knows how I feel about thank you cards, and he always brings me one or two that are blank because I *always* use them. Then again, I am known by a bunch of my clients for making myself available to them when they need to talk, in person or over the phone. It's hard to not care for people who take the time to care for you.

Little things like a Victorias Secret or Amazon gift card are always appreciated, but if you're looking for advice on what to get for a k-girl,  

I would have to say ask her.  

Explain that it is a token of your appreciation that she is making herself available to you. Tell her that it could be anything from socks to her favorite food.
If she says that no gift is needed or required, pick out a cute postcard* & give her a little extra on the top.  

 
You are definitely not alone in this feeling, & while we always like chocolates & jewelry, we usually prefer to get them ourselves so they fit our own style.

*(It can be hard for us to keep all of the thank you cards, and having something that is easy to hang or put in a picture frame is much appreciated, & easier to explain to guests at home.)

I really must say that making memories happen is something to be cherished,

So you are a kind soul indeed to provide places & things as "tips". ❤

I have an amazing client in Tyson's Corner that I  see when touring that brings me the most amazing gifts. I have told him that it is not necessary but he loves to spoil me so......

on our first meeting and a blank thank you card with the exact donation. Glad you said that, I always sign my thank you cards. AND since you like something to hang on the wall, I'll go shoot a deer and have it mounted for our second visit. That will be a conversation piece for you. Just kidding of course. I won't shoot Bambi.

All my gifts are to show my appreciation for the ladies for making yourselves available to me and others

Some of you ladies really deserve to be spoiled and some of us really like to spoil you. If I wasn't retired I'd do much more spoiling.

But, after reading your post this morning I was out at the mall and saw a gift especially for you. So one day when we finally meet I'll be bring you something special. Something I've given to no other lady.

Aww thanks!

I'm quite fond of you, too. You've been on my list of people I want to book. One of these days when I am less busy, I'll send over screening info for a date.

Some people really love giving gifts. If you like it - do it. Nobody is going to get mad at you for giving extra.  

The wish lists are because there are some clients who have fun giving gifts, so those wish lists are for them. Not everybody. It's much easier to have a wish list up, and it makes people feel more comfortable that they're getting something the provider likes.  

I'd rather someone not bring a gift if they're doing it out of obligation. If they're doing it because they like to do it, then by all means.

If they pay the donation, that's all that matters. It's better to have someone coming back than avoiding because they feel they have to tip or give gifts in my opinion. In the end, it's more for the provider for you to gladly come back with enthusiasm, rather than stop booking or feel awkward because you're afraid they'll be disappointed if they don't get extra.

I attached a little test just for fun.

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Thank you all for your insightful and helpful remarks. I hope, ladies, that if we meet I can treat you the way you wish and hope you will not be disappointed. Some of you are really special.

I had one lady who loved Bed Bath and Beyond coupons, so I brought her bunches.

Also, water. A case of bottle water is heavy and ladies can always use them.