So, i set up a meet and greet with a 28 year old POT. I always suggest meeting over drinks, but give them the option of meeting for coffee, if that is what they prefer. On occassion, if there is a particularly good intial connection, and a restaurant i want to try, i will suggest dinner...but that is rare. Much easier to make our escape from drinks or coffee if my radar has let me down and i missed the mismatch. Anyway...back to my 28 yr old (i mention her age for a reason). She suggests coffee and, for me, that means Starbucks. She agrees, we decide on a time and location, and we are set. Then, i get "can i bring a girlfriend to our coffee date." Now, keep in mind, Coach loves a threesome....but i am also a realist. No way this is about a threesome. No talk whatsoever about anything sexual, and no hint that they are a package deal. So gentleman....why does a seemingly very normal 28 yr old want to bring a friend to a very public introductory meet at Starbucks? Interested in your thoughts
Ask her straight up..we're meeting at a public place. Why do you need a friend there? Her only response can be ..so I feel safe' .then say ,ok, no..leave your gf out in the car, and tell her a prearranged time you should come out or text her..at that dead line to say I'm ok. Need more time. If she's persistent that the friends at the meet..dude walk away!
I'd say that she is concerned for her safety, does not expect a meeting to be set up at this time, and wants the friend's input as to your trustworthiness.
But i suppose there could be other reasons.
Concerned for her safety is, i admit, the obvious answer. But at a Starbucks surrounded by soccer moms?
Thanks for the reply, but i am curious...why do you think i should tell her to keep her friend away and why do you think, if she insists, that i should walk away? I guess i should clarify...i posted this thread/question because i am the curious sort...not because it bothered me that the friend was coming.
If you just want to meet then a friend is fine. If its to discuss particulars then Id say its not ok.
OTOH. Maybe the friend is hotter and hornier and you could end up with them outbidding each other for the right to be your fucktoy!😁
Had been chatting with a POT Sb, set a time and place to meet for dinner, casual place, very public....30 minutes before our scheduled time she mentions her "friend" is with her, I simply asked if the friend was aware WHY we were meeting and if there was BCD time after was the friend participating, the resounding, Yes, was a nice surprise, no additional allowance was mentioned or given and it turned out to be a fantastic 2.5 hr threesome with her and her friend being very into each other.
What a jackpot! Now, if Lady Luck would shine on me that way
I asked her why she wanted to bring her friend and if it was a male or female. She said female and just to feel safe for first visit. I have no issue with that, it's not like the friend doesn't know the deal (or wouldn't otherwise) on what this dinner was about. Plus this POT SB was just 18, likely not that long before even, so I can understand. So I ended up meeting her and her friend for dinner, things went well and we ended up all 3 back at my place. Sadly, no threesome as her friend was super cute too, but I did end up seeing the POT SB for about 6 months.
My first thought is for security.
My second thought is that both are broke and want free coffee.
It's also possible that she wants another opinion. I would ask the POT why and does the GF know about her SB activities. If yes, then I'd say ok. If not, it will inhibit conversation and all you'll be able to do is assess looks, personality, and chemistry. You won't be able to talk about an arrangement.
she did tell me her friend was aware of the purpose of the meeting. It was a novel situation for me at the time so I enjoyed it. But no BCD time ensued from that meeting, let alone a hot threesome. One tactic I've used to try and put a newbie at her ease is to suggest that if she has a trusted friend who knows what she is up to she should tell the friend where and when to expect her and establish some sort of communication with her. That backfired in a humorous way one time. I met a POT SB for coffee who turned out to be much heavier than her pics and there was absolutely zero chemistry. During our coffee conversation she takes out her phone and sends a text, meant for her friend, but she sends it to me by accident. It says "Grandpa number 2 is ok".