I am new to SA and could not find a thread on this .....
Do you ever share your real name and occupation with a SB? Curious how others achieve discretion (beside the obvious burner phone) in conversations with a SB? I recently had a request from a SB to try and figure out if we worked in similar fields where our paths possibly could cross. I shied on the side of few to no details and kept on walking. Just not sure how others approach discretion. Once you meet do you use your real name? Just share industry or job but not employer? Or do you make something up randomly?I simply have no good reason to lie about who I am and what I do.
I have no reason to lie about my activities or withhold personal info about myself. My wife and I are both players and we both enjoy visiting lovers outside our marriage and then telling each other about our adventures. I do understand that most guys are in a different situation. But the girls are entitled to know enough info about you, and your real identity, to feel safe in dating you. I think exchanging photo IDs is a good idea, but that's clearly not ok with you. Without the screening procedures built in to the Hobby world such as White List, P411, Reviews, etc, this presents a real conundrum in the Sugar Bowl. How do you convince a shy young beauty that you are who you say you are, that you are not an axe murderer, kidnapper, or rapist, and that, in fact, virtually all your former lovers are still alive and well? She would want to know your real name and workplace for starters I would think. You might get her to meet you for coffee first without revealing any personal info, but taking it to the next level with total anonymity might be impossible. You just have to decide how much risk you are willing to take. And seriously, most of these SBs are just trying to stay safe. They have no intention of starting a life of crime as blackmailers. I think if you are honest with them and tell them how serious you need to be about keeping your personal info totally 100% safe and discreet, they will understand and honor your wishes. But there's always a risk. If you can't accept that, stay with th pros.
Everything else is spoken in generalities. Once trust is built then that's fine if other real life details sneak out... but I don't need any scorned BSC chicks finding out my real info and the trying to blow up my spot. No thanks.
Always err on the side of caution imo.
Me too, they get my real first name during chats and first meets. If she seems ok at the first meet for coffee I will put my credit card over the check so she may see the last name.
It's a smooth way to reveal imho.
I have told no sb where I live. I tell them the nature of my biz but never the name of my biz. I don't know if they researched and found more not, but nothing has come to bite me yet.