I did SA for almost a year 7+ years ago. I spent a lot of money with only one good outcome. My question is has anyone had good success as a married guy recently ? My time is limited and being retired clips my wings as far as dinners out or evening outings ? Because my time is limited I am not hot on paying a monthly fee. Anyone on this forum like me had any luck finding a kick ass provider ? My current go to is a 35 yo 115 lb spinner who gives a porn style BBBJ and BBFS is available even though I don't partake $350 per hour, I do pay $400 because she is worth it and I want her happy.
Thoughts for experienced SD welcome .
...unless escorting is their job. But even hookers can desire a sugar arrangement.
There is a lot of critical advice in past posts, and I encourage you to do several keyword searches here to get the full context of that advice. But I'll give you the top-level items here:
1. Stay away from monthly allowance. It never works out in the long run.
2. Allowance is paid for a date (ppm) and should never be an hourly rate.
3. SB's are not hookers/providers/escorts. Sugar Dating is DATING. If you want to fuck a hooker, hire a hooker.
4. I'm not married, so getting away from the SO is not my expertise. But there are many methods cited in past posts regarding things like:
- Burner phones
- Day use hotels (one member her sugars in his RV!)
- Anonymous payments, or at least payments your SO won't see
- Having a conversation with your wife about an open marriage/polyamorous lifestyle.
- Finding "legit" reasons to go out on your own for 4-8 hours or even 1-4 days.
Finally, I'd guess that at least 65% of the posters here are married or have a SO. So it can be done. Read up to find out how.
Life is good
The Cat
I'd argue I'm at my most successful point in sugaring. My time and openness are constrained but I am assiduous about privacy and discretion. My sugaring wouldn't work if I did not travel a great deal for work.
Two regulars (different cities) have been with me for almost a year. One is a late 20s Asian spinner stewardess. The other is an early 20s Indian climbing the restaurant management ladder. A third (also Indian), mid 20s, is with a global consulting company but her recent job change is making it hard to meet. (I lost a Caucasian law student when she moved.) All three of them offer me whatever I want sexually, and I mean whatever. They work real jobs but I can't remember the last time the two main ones couldn't make time for me. None of them have ever panic texted me for cash or anything else.
I allowed my allowances to rise after the lockdowns. My main babies are 500 and 400. I did recently snag a free agent on the east coast for 350, but that's rare. I pay the monthly fee for the site and I message a lot to keep a bullpen.
I don't keep careful records but the main change I sense in the last many months is that it's harder than it used to be to pull an 18 or 19yo who meets my standards. I'm not getting to the meeting stage as often as I used to. Some are telling me they easily get double the amount I offer. I also wonder if they are easily finding SDs willing to go that high, or they're raising income on OnlyFans, or whatever.
My advice is to develop some kind of bench or backup for when you lose your current SB. Because eventually we all lose them. Your current SB sounds like a peach, so keep her happy.