Would you?
a. What if they stopped asking for an allowance but accepted a token amount as "spending money", like $100 for an overnight? b. What if their visa was expiring? c. What if they were 20 years younger? d. What if a combination of some the above, a-cBut as for "a" why would "overnights" be compensated? Getting married kind of implies spending every night together.
As for "b" I have already had a LOT of women try to marry me for a green card. Next.
As for "c" I am 57, twenty years younger than me is still OLD. no thank you.
Any time I get the urge to get married, I simply spend two to three days non stop with the same woman, that usually does the trick for several years. I honestly can't see myself EVER getting married again, two to three days with the same woman is about my limit. Anything more than that and I need some "me time
GaGambler this is exactly what I expected you to say and more power to you dude! You are living your life the way you see fit, no compromises, which is more than a lot of guys can say.
But back to the OP, yeah I guess I might marry a SB or even a provider. I love being married! My wife and I will be celebrating our 45th anniversary this month. She's an amazing smart beautiful sexy mature woman and we are totally open and honest with each other. I am more of an introvert, so whenever I need some alone time I ship her off to her boyfriend's house and he can entertain her. And when I want some me time I go visit one of my SBs and get some young sweet pussy. Best of both worlds.
If I was going to start over with a SB I'd want someone about 40 to 50 years younger than me! I'd want someone with as near zero baggage as possible. I'd insist on a serious pre-nup so she would not be my partner financially. I'd insist on being free to screw whoever I wanted whenever I wanted. And she'd have to be drop dead gorgeous. Could happen, right??
what contest in Hell you won.
(Tip of the hat to Peter Boyle for that one.)
Seems from various comments I see on the boards, written by married men, that plenty of guys with civvies wives are wondering the same thing
Unfortunately I am just coming to the somewhat jaded conclusion that all women are BSC in some way or another. I can tell you for sure my civvie ex was.
I think savvy experts like yourself, fishele, are just more knowledgeable about how to read, understand, and deal with the craziness. But the craziness is still there.
So, if she's going to be crazy either way, I figure she might as well be hot! No?
These are the words of a man who hasn't had many hot girlfriends...
Trust me average BSC does not compare to "hot and knows it" BSC...
Trust the old calypso song... "From a logical point of view, always marry a woman uglier than you"
that TER is probably not the best place to get marriage advice, right?
Of course we all would love a REALLY HOT, trophy-wife-esque partner, but I think may want to rexamine your thinking/motivations if you are looking for wifey material on SA. Imo, you should be in a relationship and live with someone for a MINIMUM of 3 years before you even THINK about marrying them. A) after 2 years the novelty of fucking the same person (even if she's really hot) will likely wear off and you will have seen their true colors and personality in that period. B) SA is based on a very shallow conceit... i.e. - money for pussy. Not trying to pontificate here, but if you're looking for something deeper, SA is probably not the place, or at the very least may set you up for serious heartache and/or drain your bank account... UNLESS you're doing it in a very specific and targeted way (see below).
You've probably heard the saying, "You can't turn a ho into a housewife". Maybe you could turn an LTA from SA into wife material but the fact that you even met on SA would have me constantly wondering if she's fucking around on me... or I on her. If I had to do it again and was looking on SA, I would probably look for someone who's ok with an open marriage... a partner who's there for me during the tough times but who's also mature enough to understand that things might get a little stale in the bedroom at some point and is ok with letting you hook up with outside people when you both feel the need. Would take a great deal of emotional maturity on each person's part, but would also remove the jealousy, conflict and sneaking around aspect that most of us married guys in here have to deal with.
Just my $0.02.
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This is all good wisdom. I'm not just looking on SA. I'm on several dating apps and then I also do get out once in a while. I just figure that SA lends itself best to a certain type of honesty. Namely. That it's ok for her to be attracted to me in part because of my financial status.
I agree that if that's all there is, then it's a shallow conceit and a shallow relationship and definitely not marriage material. My hope is to find a relationship where it's not all there is, but is one important factor.
I see some profiles on SA of girls looking for real relationships. Maybe it's all bs, but it encourages me that if I continue to say that in my profile, a good match may come along.
And this is why I said this is my favorite soap opera. I get to read about other peoples delusions and realize my delusional logic isn't nearly as bad. LOL
I agree that if that's all there is, then it's a shallow conceit and a shallow relationship and definitely not marriage material. My hope is to find a relationship where it's not all there is, but is one important factor.
I see some profiles on SA of girls looking for real relationships. Maybe it's all bs, but it encourages me that if I continue to say that in my profile, a good match may come along.
I've heard anywhere from $20k-$40k is the going rate. That buys a lot of sugar time.
Sounds like you are really asking about a+b+c. Part b does require some effort, but a savvy lawyer can help get you through it. The commitment to see it through and trust that it won't go FUBAR because she's BSC is the tricky part.
Under the right circumstances, I'd do it.
and a broke dick who doesn't mind inviting the federal government to permanently camp out in your home, go for it.
I can piss off twenty grand in a weekend, it's not worth putting yourself under a microscope where the federal government can park themselves in you living room, your bed room and your office with impunity. Fuck That.
What kind of work you are in GaGa, many here would kill to have your life 
Not simply for any of the reasons you mentioned. But if the love was mutual, why wouldn't you? Just because you met via SA or some other method? Doesn't seem like a good reason not to get married to someone you fall in love with.
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If I wasn't already married and if my SB didn't want children once she finishes med school (I'm snipped so itnever going to happen); then I'd consider it - but with the 30+ difference in age; she'd be a practicing MD and I'd be retired so she'd be supporting me - guess that would be a role reversal.
a. What if they stopped asking for an allowance but accepted a token amount as "spending money", like $100 for an overnight?
b. What if their visa was expiring?
c. What if they were 20 years younger?
d. What if a combination of some the above, a-c