Traded a few messages then went to text. Then she called me. Had a nice chat and we got around to setting up a first meet. She said she just wanted to do something fun to start and suggested we go to the driving range. Sounds like fun. Then she says she wants 400 to go hit golf balls. I told her I don't pay to just meet. Wished her luck and conversation was over fast. Wtf.
For a non&sexual first date of dinner and drinks?
I get that a lot. I just block them
Don't you know her time is more valuable than your time!! 🙄 I can't believe you are so cheap!! You must be one of those Splenda Daddies!!! 🤣🤣🤣
I thought I did a good job not bursting out in laughter.🤣🤣🤣
There are always POT's who, for whatever reason, think their time is worth an astronomical amount. I've had to "talk her off the ledge" more than once...
Her: "My time is worth a lot. You need to pay me $400 to have dinner with you."
Me: "I understand. With my very successful and lucrative career, my time is also worth a lot. I generally charge $750-$1,000 per hour for my consulting services, which is how I am able to afford to be here."
Me: "If we are going to use this value-model, it's typical to have an initial pre-arrangement meeting to ensure our goals are aligned and that we will be compatible partners if we decide to move forward. I consider that 1-hour meeting as a critical investment of my time to ensure a successful and beneficial partnership. Does that work for you?
The underlying message is, hopefully, clear:
1. I have the money, and you have the pussy.
2. She has the power to say "yes," but
3. I have the power to say "no."
Note that this approach is crafted to:
1. Validate her feelings without agreeing to her bullshit terms.
2. Reinforce that my time actually has significant (and proven) value.
3. Subtly imply that I have many other opportunities, and I'm careful about where and how I invest my time.
In other words, she needs me more than I need her.
Finally, as in any negotiation, you must be willing to WALK AWAY at any time to pursue better opportunities.
Life is good
The Cat