I have been in the sugar bowl since 2015. This must be my worst BCD experience so far. I was in Chicago last week. I messaged several POTs on Seeking. Only a few responded which I expected since most SBs don't want just a one-time hookup. One of them was aggressive and asked me if I wanted to go BCD after M&G. Her pics look good; she looks cute and has a decent body (there was a somewhat revealing pic). We agreed on the gift and then decided when and where we would meet for a drink.
We met at a bar for a drink. She listed her age as 28 but she looked to be in her early 30s (maybe a difference of 4 or 5 years). I am usually OK with this as long as the difference is within 5 years. We then went back to my hotel. This is when it all went down hills. After she undressed, I noticed her right breast was much smaller than her left breast. I was turned off by this, but didn't think I could back away from this. Plus, I didn't want to hurt her feelings so I decided to go ahead. Her BJ was actually decent and she could DT well. After a while, we decided to fuck. She got on top of me and tried to sit on my cock. Unfortunately, her pussy was so tight that I had a hard time sticking my cock in. Mind you, I am average-endowed at best. Finally, I managed to stick it in, but could hardly move at all because her pussy was really tight. I thought maybe I should DATY to make her wet. Big mistake! Her pussy smelled awful. I don't think she even washed it before our date. I was totally turned off at this point so I asked for a BJ to get me to come. She then told me she doesn't do BJ after I have used a cover because she hates the smell of spermicides. At this point, I just wanted to finish asap so I asked for a HJ. She did this for a while, but I was in no mood for this anymore so I couldn't finish. Finally, I just told her I was tired and ended it.
I guess I should have just told her this was not going to work and given her some $ for her time after I saw her body even if it was going to hurt her feelings. Short of asking for a nude pic, there is no way you can find out what her naked body looks like. What would you do?
But asking for a good bikini pic in advance is often all you need in order to decide whether or not to go BCD. I've occasionally had a SB I never met before express her desire to go BCD immediately, without a preliminary m&g. Sometimes this does not work out well. I've also met SBs for a one-off while traveling, as you described, with no opportunity to check them out before meeting in the hotel. It usually works out, but a serious mis-match such as you encountered is always a possibility with "blind dates" like this. This is why I prefer to at least one M&G before going BCD. OK, you can't see her naked at Starbucks, but you can at least find out if her age and body type are what you are expecting. I have one of those planned for the near future and I insisted we meet for coffee first before going BCD. And sometimes, despite all precautions, 2 people are simply not sexually compatible and the encounter is awkward and unsatisfactory. Just chalk it up to experience, it happens!
One girl I saw sometime back btw had both breasts removed but wore a fake bra to hide it - I actually wouldn’t have been upset at all had she been upfront about it - but i only found out when we undressed.
This was a rookie mistake as I had decided to just meet directly at the hotel versus have a m&g first where I could size her up etc. needless to say we didn’t see each other again
And it happens to all of us, even when we're no longer rookies! Just last year I agreed to a bcd date with a local girl who wanted to go that route. She described herself as curvy, which can mean a lot of things, and her photos showed baggy clothing or other deceiving techniques. She turned out to be much fatter than I like. I went through with the date but would def not repeat!
Sorry to hear that, AsianMan. The bowl is better than escorts in many ways, but worse in a few, as you have related.
You asked what would we do? Like a lawyer, I'll say "it depends." If I was experienced, and not too horny at that moment, and there was still time that day to wrangle another SB, I would have sent her on her way with probably no more than Uber fare. If I was super horny with no other likely options that day, I would have done what you did.
One of my worst experiences was also in Chicago (and I was there this week, also). She was super hot, super petite, AA spinner. We didn't have a proper date but she met me at my room. She wanted the money first and I refused (ready to walk away). She was satisfied to "see" the money that I laid out. But then she wouldn't take off any clothes. My spidey senses told me she would grab the money and run for the door, so I simply sent her away and kept the money. I did this mid-blowjob. Kept my money and some of my dignity.
She begged to see me again and I agreed under *my* rules. I kept her clothes after I made her take them off. She only got them back when I was satisfied.
My other bad experience was (in DC) when I handed over the money first. She got peeved when I didn't have wine, and room service wasn't fast enough, and then she said I "scared" her, and she took off. The finishing touch was her shouting "I've got your money" as she walked down the hall of the hotel. Many lessons learned that day.
In your case, you can't ask if she has showered or cleaned her pussy. Of course you can ask for a bikini pic, but I've never done that. With my situation, I can't afford to spend much time asking about body details. (I once met an Asian girl in Manhattan with a glass eye. Hot pics.) I think you did all you could, honestly. You could ask for pics before the meet, but I've always been leery of asking chicks for too many pics.
I guess the best advice is to know when you're ready to end a date in the middle of that date. Know how, and under what conditions, will you just say this isn't working, and send her on her way.
Rockford
...at least that's what I tell myself when a BCD date goes to shit like this. LOL
I've had enough 1st-time BCD's go off the rails to appreciate how frustrating that must have been for you. Stinky pussy is the worst! Especially for those of us (most of us?) who are at a time in our sexual maturity where we really enjoy eating from that sweet, moist Valley of Heaven!
I can say that I believe I have avoided some of these disasters in the past by insisting on a M&G. I recall one a few years ago with a 30-ish Asian Milf type. She was a real estate agent, so very flexible schedule. She liked to work out 6 days a week so the body was tight and toned. She was in the bowl more for fun than cash, so allowance was a reasonable $300.
But... but after we chatted for a while I gently started asking about her likes and dislikes, and eventually expanded that theme to bedroom preferences. And that's when it all went to hell, because she told me she was a survivor of sexual abuse, starting as a pre-teen child (family member) and continuing through her recent ex-BF who would get drunk and rape her. As a result, she was only comfortable with missionary sex, with no participation by her. In addition, the thought of oral sex (giving or getting) made her really uncomfortable to the point of nausea (I could see her getting pale and anxious as we discussed it).
YIKES!!!!!!!
So, I was empathic, of course because I'm not an asshole. But I steered the conversation to resources around town for sexual abuse victims, etc. And along the way, I let her know we were not a good match.
There is no such thing in my life as an SB that doesn't give amazing BJ's - often! I hope she found what she was looking for eventually...
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