A question to the board... With all the ghosting, scamming, flaking, no shows, outrageous demands, etc., has sugaring affected how you see women overall? Or do you think of these traits as being primarily associated with SB's? For my part, although I come across some gems here and there (ladies who are caring, believe in reciprocity. have character, and have integrity) I find my perspective on women in general has shifted to where it's skews to the negative side of the x axis on a x-y curve. My expectations are much lower. Part of that is that women are human... and human nature is what human nature is... no matter the gender. But still, I find that over time my perspective has trended downward, not upward. How do you guys see it? I'm looking to learn as much as I can from you.
Divorce court and civie dating culture have changed how I view women. I was already expecting flakes and frauds in SB world, but most of the ones I've actually met have fulfilled the duties they promised.
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I don't try to make them my girlfriend so their ability to screw up is limited.
On normal dating apps. Here the meeting rate is probably higher since there's a financial incentive.
I feel since I am paying a reasonable gift amount [in keeping with this area's average] that the performance level should be higher than it often is. I bring a lot of caring and quality to the relationship but often the SB's I meet under-deliver both in the bedroom and in the communication between dates. I've lowered my expectations as a result, but I try not to view all women in a general way. One thing is for sure, it's impossible to find everything you need in one person, thus the variety needs to be there. The flaking, ghosting and frequent unreliability is a constant headache but a necessary part of the sugar dating dynamic.
There are two different questions here. The women on these platforms are going to be flaky and scamming and that’s just a function of the platforms rather than the women.
How we see women in general is a completely different question. On one hand, I think we have found that any of these women can be had at the right price. And that’s encouraging to some degree. But building sugar relationships is complicated. I think I’m finding money is a factor but not the only thing that makes these things work.
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