Have an out of town arrangement coming up in top market large city. I'll be there four days so possibility exists for multiple meets. I actually reached out to several POTS re: ongoing SR when visiting every few months. So, even though that is a bit unrealistic the way things change in SugarLand, there is at least an understanding that I'm not looking for hit and run. Here is question: My POT SB lists moderate lifestyle expectation for 4 meets per month ($1250 per) but cautions that she prefers "companionship" to anything else. I'm just wondering if that's a caution for being rinsed. Since we've already "agreed" to multiple meets during the week, how should I approach negotiations? Plan to start with no obligation M&G to discuss. Don't want to come off as Mr. Platonic POT nor do I want to seem like a total monger or overly transactional either. In general, I believe these things should evolve more or less naturally. But then again these aren't exactly natural relationships, either. Also, if we plan 3 meets, should I offer/agree to $3675, which is 75% of her monthly for 4 meets. Way out of my normal budget. Nothing higher than $750 (in top tier market) previously. Advice?
Because unless it's a supermodel or porn star, I can't see how $1250 per meet is remotely reasonable. If you are in top-tier city like LA, NYC, Chicago, you should be looking more in the 6-700 per meet range at the very top end. You better be getting A LOT for your money at 1250 per meet imo.
As to your other question... me personally, I like to define terms of arrangement via messaging or text, and then leave M&G solely for determining chemistry with little to no talk of $$. Some guys prefer the opposite approach and enjoy having those arrangement convos face to face. Whatever approach ur more comfortable with is fine... just be confident and direct with asking for what you want and if she doesn't seem down with it or seems to be playing you then be prepared to walk. You have just as much power as she does in this negotiation so don't be afraid to wield it.
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$1250 per is ridiculous. Also, I always prefer to get some clarity and agreement about money before wasting time meeting a SB. Some are seriously unrealistic or simply beyond my price range. No amount of face to face conversation is going to change their attachment to whatever inflated figure they came up with. Why waste the time?
I have had numerous women who have "substantial" listed as their expectation who are perfectly happy with $300 a meet.
My advice is to simply ask her what she thinks is fair for a "per meet" arrangement. I would also let her know that since you are only going to be in town for a short time there won't be a lot of time for a prolonged "platonic getting to know each other" period.
Oh one other thing just to make sure you know this is actually GaGambler writing this and that my account has not been hacked. In regards to the $3,675 figure you mentioned, ARE YOU OUT OF YOUR FUCKING MIND???!!! I wouldn't give an SB that kind of money if she spent the entire four days sucking my dick.
Also, do yourself a favor, get this whole issue of "companionship" cleared up right away, or do you really feel ok about having blue balls on your trip and having to pay for it to boot? If you have to err, it's much better to come across as "Mr Monger" than it is "Mr Platonic" The worst she can do is cop an attitude and tell you to fuck off if you get too "pushy" which is still MUCH better than meeting her in person only to find out she wants full payment simply for "companionship". My rule of thumb "No intimacy, no allowance" and yes, I am quite firm on that rule. Other guys think that by giving a POT SB money just for a date that it proves they are "serious" I completely disagree and I maintain that refusing to pay for platonic dates proves that I am SERIOUS about getting laid. lol
Don't take the dollar amount for the financial expectations category literally. Some SBs mean it, but some don't. Also, to convert from that per month amount to a per date amount doesn't necessarily mean dividing by 4. I think the range on dates per month is 1-2 dates per week, which translates to 4 to 10 (in long months) per month. Try dividing by 10 instead of 4.
Also, this SB sounds too focused on money. If her interest is companionship, that sounds too much like platonic. If she wants money just to meet, I would drop her immediately.
If you are going to L.A., N.Y.C., or maybe S.F., an amount of $500+ is not out of the question, though $700 should be your absolute max. Even that should be predicated on: her pics are real and current and the looks in person match expectations; the date will include intimacy; the BCD portion of the date will last at least 2-3 hours; the menu is to your liking (it takes finesse to determine the menu beforehand without offending). For $1,250, you should be getting Kate Upton or 2 hot girls or an overnighter.