Is it just me or do some "Johns" assume because we are escorts, because some of our rates are higher than most that We are obliged to provide anything and everything to anyone.... No... That's not how it works, for me at least. If I am uncomfortable with any certain thing and I tell you no... No means NO! It would be in his best interest to shut the hell up after that. No trying to negotiate, ask a few minutes later lol NO
It's sad when I heard a provider tell me she charges low donations so the men's expectations are low. So what if one guys expectations are high and she ends up cornered in a room with an angry client.... It breaks my heart to even think about the number of women who have probably been raped/abused/or assaulted in this field.
But I am still someone's daughter, I am someone's first born,
Someone's sister. I am just like every other girl and expect to get treated equally. On that note, I think I should go to bed.
Just a little tangent....
Good day everyone.
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You're going to run into that situation on occasion. But not every one of us has that mindset. Some of us enjoy certain activities, DATY, for example. Not every provider allows for it, that is always her prerogative. I've been with ladies who might allow one time and the next, politely brush off my attempt if I'm heading that way. I just kind of go with the flow of things. I want you to have as memorable of a time as I do
It breaks my heart to even think about the number of women who have probably been raped/abused/or assaulted in this field.
I charge an hourly rate for time and not any acts. So if we meet a couple times I can almost guarantee the comfort and menu increases. Think about visiting a diner frequently. After awhile a good waittress will remember your face and treat you a lil nicer. I have had some get out their wallets midsession for greek and I do not ever discuss or accept money when the clothes are off. Youre not at a strip club. Side note. If you like GFE try being a little BFE towards us. Chocolate, a card, cute panties, and or any inexpensive thoughtful icebreaker helps things along. Rubbing our feet. Those things will make me purrrrr. Happy Day.
You are ABSOLUTELY right and just because men are hobbyists does not mean they have a license to be immoral slobs. I consider myself a gentleman and hope my behavior reflects that in everything I do, in my hobbyist world or otherwise.
Sadly, people are people in any walk of life and we would have a difficult time convincing some of the necessity of being fair and decent in any quasi-business transaction. The difficulty is, we need (both provider and hobbyist) to find a way to articulate our expectations up front and make sure we fully know what is possible during our appointment. Of course, because we never know if we are dealing with a true provider/hobbyist and not LE, we must be cautions. Herein lies the difficulty of managing expectation. I would never care to partake of ANYTHING a provider does not care to offer. On the other hand, from my perspective, upsell can really put a damper on things. All is good, to me, when we balance these two factors. Maybe you can find an acceptable way of protecting yourself and at the same time letting your prospective clients know what is absolutely not on the menu, beforehand. Your reviews on TER are a good start.