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You bring up a good point ...
Then there's the usual stereotypes about escorts which can come into play: that he likely caught something and brought it home to her, if he's seeing escorts he must be doing drugs too, or that it obviously means he has a desire to demean women.... because all escorts are being degraded, of course. 
Maybe they are just too cheap to hire an escort lol.
Thoughts?
Having spent a significant amount of time in the swinger world, I can tell you that the female half of any couple seeking FMF is going to be just as biased against escorts as any other civvie woman. Some of them are even more prejudiced against providers because they honestly believe we're setting women back; harming other women's efforts to be free of social stigmas regarding sexuality vs morality. Thoughts?
Sure there are a few who have gone the escort route, and probably far more than will admit to it, but many of the ones who have definitely look at it as being something dirty, illicit, and even a little bit shameful.
One little tidbit: I learned that with many/most of the couples seeking FMF, the female is not actually bisexual or even truly bi-curious. She's just going along with it for her SO. Big bummer for me. LOL.
That's just one of the reasons I was never very comfortable seeing couples as a provider, and no longer offer it now. 
even though i do duos with another provider, i do not cater to couples and declines a few requests )
Male or female, if they don't have an "open relationship" then it's adultery, cheating, whatever-you-wanna-call-it, regardless of who their partner is screwing.
Then there's the usual stereotypes about escorts which can come into play: that he likely caught something and brought it home to her, if he's seeing escorts he must be doing drugs too, or that it obviously means he has a desire to demean women.... because all escorts are being degraded, of course.
Having spent a significant amount of time in the swinger world, I can tell you that the female half of any couple seeking FMF is going to be just as biased against escorts as any other civvie woman. Some of them are even more prejudiced against providers because they honestly believe we're setting women back; harming other women's efforts to be free of social stigmas regarding sexuality vs morality.
It usually has nothing to do with spending money, as "lifestyle" couples often spend quite a bit of cash going to parties, Meet N Greets, on website memberships, etc before even getting to play. Some make regular trips to Vegas just to play.
Sure there are a few who have gone the escort route, and probably far more than will admit to it, but many of the ones who have definitely look at it as being something dirty, illicit, and even a little bit shameful.
The women don't want to be with an escort either for the reasons already mentioned, fear of STDs, or simply because they can't believe a pro would be really "into it". They only want to fuck someone who's there solely because she wants it too, no compensation involved.
I cannot fault them for that last reason, though I do take issue with pretty much all of the others lol.
One little tidbit: I learned that with many/most of the couples seeking FMF, the female is not actually bisexual or even truly bi-curious. She's just going along with it for her SO. Big bummer for me. LOL.
That's just one of the reasons I was never very comfortable seeing couples as a provider, and no longer offer it now.
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NOONER: (noun) A sexual encounter during lunch hour, especially one that is illicit.
Then there's the usual stereotypes about escorts which can come into play: that he likely caught something and brought it home to her, if he's seeing escorts he must be doing drugs too, or that it obviously means he has a desire to demean women.... because all escorts are being degraded, of course.
Maybe they are just too cheap to hire an escort lol.
Thoughts?
Thoughts?
Having spent a significant amount of time in the swinger world, I can tell you that the female half of any couple seeking FMF is going to be just as biased against escorts as any other civvie woman. Some of them are even more prejudiced against providers because they honestly believe we're setting women back; harming other women's efforts to be free of social stigmas regarding sexuality vs morality.
It usually has nothing to do with spending money, as "lifestyle" couples often spend quite a bit of cash going to parties, Meet N Greets, on website memberships, etc before even getting to play. Some make regular trips to Vegas just to play.
Sure there are a few who have gone the escort route, and probably far more than will admit to it, but many of the ones who have definitely look at it as being something dirty, illicit, and even a little bit shameful.
The women don't want to be with an escort either for the reasons already mentioned, fear of STDs, or simply because they can't believe a pro would be really "into it". They only want to fuck someone who's there solely because she wants it too, no compensation involved.
I cannot fault them for that last reason, though I do take issue with pretty much all of the others lol.
One little tidbit: I learned that with many/most of the couples seeking FMF, the female is not actually bisexual or even truly bi-curious. She's just going along with it for her SO. Big bummer for me. LOL.
That's just one of the reasons I was never very comfortable seeing couples as a provider, and no longer offer it now.
xoxoxoxoxooxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxxooxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxox
NOONER: (noun) A sexual encounter during lunch hour, especially one that is illicit.
Male or female, if they don't have an "open relationship" then it's adultery, cheating, whatever-you-wanna-call-it, regardless of who their partner is screwing.
Then there's the usual stereotypes about escorts which can come into play: that he likely caught something and brought it home to her, if he's seeing escorts he must be doing drugs too, or that it obviously means he has a desire to demean women.... because all escorts are being degraded, of course.
Having spent a significant amount of time in the swinger world, I can tell you that the female half of any couple seeking FMF is going to be just as biased against escorts as any other civvie woman. Some of them are even more prejudiced against providers because they honestly believe we're setting women back; harming other women's efforts to be free of social stigmas regarding sexuality vs morality.
It usually has nothing to do with spending money, as "lifestyle" couples often spend quite a bit of cash going to parties, Meet N Greets, on website memberships, etc before even getting to play. Some make regular trips to Vegas just to play.
Sure there are a few who have gone the escort route, and probably far more than will admit to it, but many of the ones who have definitely look at it as being something dirty, illicit, and even a little bit shameful.
The women don't want to be with an escort either for the reasons already mentioned, fear of STDs, or simply because they can't believe a pro would be really "into it". They only want to fuck someone who's there solely because she wants it too, no compensation involved.
I cannot fault them for that last reason, though I do take issue with pretty much all of the others lol.
One little tidbit: I learned that with many/most of the couples seeking FMF, the female is not actually bisexual or even truly bi-curious. She's just going along with it for her SO. Big bummer for me. LOL.
That's just one of the reasons I was never very comfortable seeing couples as a provider, and no longer offer it now.
xoxoxoxoxooxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxxooxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxox
NOONER: (noun) A sexual encounter during lunch hour, especially one that is illicit.
Then there's the usual stereotypes about escorts which can come into play: that he likely caught something and brought it home to her, if he's seeing escorts he must be doing drugs too, or that it obviously means he has a desire to demean women.... because all escorts are being degraded, of course.
Maybe they are just too cheap to hire an escort lol.
Thoughts?
Thoughts?
Having spent a significant amount of time in the swinger world, I can tell you that the female half of any couple seeking FMF is going to be just as biased against escorts as any other civvie woman. Some of them are even more prejudiced against providers because they honestly believe we're setting women back; harming other women's efforts to be free of social stigmas regarding sexuality vs morality.
It usually has nothing to do with spending money, as "lifestyle" couples often spend quite a bit of cash going to parties, Meet N Greets, on website memberships, etc before even getting to play. Some make regular trips to Vegas just to play.
Sure there are a few who have gone the escort route, and probably far more than will admit to it, but many of the ones who have definitely look at it as being something dirty, illicit, and even a little bit shameful.
The women don't want to be with an escort either for the reasons already mentioned, fear of STDs, or simply because they can't believe a pro would be really "into it". They only want to fuck someone who's there solely because she wants it too, no compensation involved.
I cannot fault them for that last reason, though I do take issue with pretty much all of the others lol.
One little tidbit: I learned that with many/most of the couples seeking FMF, the female is not actually bisexual or even truly bi-curious. She's just going along with it for her SO. Big bummer for me. LOL.
That's just one of the reasons I was never very comfortable seeing couples as a provider, and no longer offer it now.
xoxoxoxoxooxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxxooxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxox
NOONER: (noun) A sexual encounter during lunch hour, especially one that is illicit.
Her rationale however is completely illogical. She just doesn't like the idea of a "slutty girl" who's been with a million other couples in the last week.
... So I'm like "well, pretty much anyone who is pollyamorous or heavily swinging is probably going to be pretty sexually active, don't you think?" Not like we're going to find many virgins in the polly community. haha
If my man is in need of sex elsewhere I'd be upset naturally, but I'd prefer he was seeing a provider than boning some woman in his office on the side. This is a service, it's business, no feelings are involved, I won't get breathy phone calls in the night from some stalker girl, providers look after their sexual health and use covers so I won't get some STI.
Logically it makes more sense for women to be less upset about it than an affair I think?
Logically it makes more sense for women to be less upset about it than an affair I think?