1) Negotiations!  
I travel 1 hour and 30 minutes to the area that I work in - I do this for discretion as I have a career outside of the hobby and privacy in my actual hometown. I state this when I am speaking with clients upon booking, so asking me "can we do the incall rate instead of the outcall rate" blows my mind. There are two different rates for a reason! I believe that girls take into consideration not only their "skill" level but their travel time & other expenses when determining these rates. PLEASE do not email a provider asking for anything otherwise what is listed! I am sure if it was possible, her rates would be different. I think my rates are fair and reasonable for the area.  

2) Arriving and determining your (the hobbyist) own donation!
I saw a provider touch on this subject on my local board. It is not okay to arrive with whatever donation you think is suitable. Especially when I double confirm the donation at the time of booking AND prior to arrival.
Then to get to my location and try to tell me that my website has something posted that I clearly know is not there.. (i.e. telling me my donation states 300 roses when I am in fact the one who updates and posts things on my own site...) I had a gentleman who stated the encounter was "awkward."  
The situation went as follows:
Donation was confirmed at time of booking.
Donation was confirmed again before arrival. (Just to confirm, we are meeting at X and donation again is Y for the Z hour/hours)
Client arrives and then proceeds to tell me he knows my donation was 300 and was going to leave a 50 tip, but bought something for himself.
I don't even discuss donations once someone arrives, but when he stated that - I said no, that isn't the correct donation babe.
He's adamant I have it posted "somewhere" that my donation is 300. So of course, my webpage, ad sites, everything gets pulled up - and there obviously was no where posted that this was my donation...

 
Please be respectful of a provider's time and rates. I really appreciate the gentlemen who take the time to read through my site before booking and make no mention of donations or negotiations.

 
Sorry for the long rant!  


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- Scenario 2, probably should have just walked him to the door and ended the session. With that kind of negative energy, how could either one of you enjoy the time - plus, it's the principle of the whole thing. FWIW, there's a decent chance he was just confused and not trying to screw you (well, not figuratively speaking anyway)...some folks do not have a good head for details.  

- Would you please drive another 39 hours and do Incall in SoCal?

There will always be hobbyist like this out there.Nothing we can do about it.we business.they customer.Customers love negotiating

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If I go to a restaurant and the filet mignon is listed as 50, can I ask them "how about we just go with the cheeseburger price?"

Lol! It is listed as such for a reason, that is my only point.

Hahahaha, hopefully I tour there soon!

sorry it happened to you

is he blind?350 and even more is a fair rate for young and hot lady such as yourself in new england are

that he probably gets away with this BS over half the time, and so he keeps on trying.

You gals are going to have to really close ranks on this to avoid generating these Bozos

how could he be confused when she confirmed twice before the appt?...maybe he has done this before?...did he have references, that maybe would have stated the same incidence?

I am looking for a wonderful, romantic, erotic time with the ladies I choose to see.
I can not imagine negotiating over the donation.
What a mood Killer!!!!!
Paying anyway so why ruin the atmosphere over $50, $100 or what ever!!
If you can not afford her move on!

Exactly..  
And might I add - it wasn't like I confirmed when he texted for the room number.
I confirmed 1 hour and 15 minutes before the appt. So there was still time to correct the issue (i.e. hit the ATM.....)

He is a TER member with references and whitelists. So I am surprised.  

some guys pull, and then they are surprised and complain when they don't get what they wanted or ddon't have a stellar time.  

Hopefully, they will all eventually find their way to the "Hell of eternal celibacy".... karma should be a bitch.

these are the types that do not respect us as people but only as a service to be used

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Determine the gratuity for a rendezvous with me.  I'm now offering something unique and unprecedented, and have done away with a set rate, as you can read on my website.

So, I no longer have to deal with setting rates, and the hassle of negotiations.

I have no problem with the OP ventilating about what happened but she's doing what my dear ol' dad used to call "pissing in your blue serge suit.  It gives you a nice warm feeling and nobody knows you did it."  In other words, it's futile.  Because the monger in question is clearly a deeply manipulative sociopath.  Such people cannot be convinced to change their behavior by words alone.  A good tasing might help.

Yah, you're probably right - I'm just saying there's a *chance* it was an honest mistake or mixup. For instance, you may have confirmed 1 hour and 15 minutes before but perhaps all the guy did was scan the subject line while he was driving (and ignored the content of the message).  

I had an experience where I set a date with a provider several weeks in advance. A few days before the date, I noticed her rates had gone up on her website. I was stuck - I didn't want to be "that guy" and discuss rates over email or be perceived as negotiating. The point is perhaps the guy had an "old rate" stuck in his head from months ago?  

I'm not trying to make excuses for the guy - you were clearly in the right and he was wrong - just want to show how easily stuff can get mixed up.  

Now, about your trip to SoCal...please make it before July.

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I've had numerous positive inquiries, but because I recently had a death in my family, I'm currently on a brief hiatus while I deal with family matters.

As soon as I'm back providing, I'll update you.

Have a wonderful day, mrfisher!

Love always,
Robbin
xoxo

You might want to take a look at your screening practices and pre-date communication, to figure out if there is a way to avoid accepting dates with people like that.  

IMO, if you feel like you need to repeatedly reiterate rates etc. before the date... you are getting a vibe that is telling you that he will be a problem client.  

I've never before confirmed or even discussed the amount pre-date. Rates are posted on my website. My confirmation emails serve only to make sure that the date is still on, and address any last-minute details (location, etc.).  

If they ask me the amount, I'll direct them to my site for rates. But, my feeling is that, if they ask... they are looking to start a "conversation." I consider it an indicator of flakiness. Or negotiator-ness. As soon as I hear "how much" I assume that the date is off

If you've made me life a misery already on arrival by making me argue over the donation up front then with the best will in the world I'm not going to be feeling kind and loving thoughts towards you during the session. You'll get a mattress actress and nothing more.
The lovely gents who make the whole thing easy with some simple screening, sufficient notice, full donation and nice, polite and courteous demeanour will get all they're paying for and more besides.
Isn't that the same in any business?

but I never discuss rates ever.  Not on the phone or in email.  I guess I have been lucky with no discrepancies.  I do feel that you were wronged,  but please be careful discussing those matters!  

K

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Works like a charm. You then have no obligations to continue the conversation. You can then watch him talk to his lonely self in your email until he gets the hint.  

No need to explain,, not to deaf ears. Just do your thing and leave those guys in the dust.  

I'd make it PC and say his/hers, but I have yet to hear about a female client negotiator.  

 
Xo

...an all-male school.  Their athletic teams play in the Troglodyte League.

I always carry an emergency fund...  and if I scewed up, I'd dip into it.  But frankly, if the "gent" does not have the correct amount, I'd turn him around & point him to the door.  Even if he cough's it up, he's set a poor atmosphere for his experience