So... a john walks into a bar lol

That sucks! I had one eight hours late once, she locked her keys in the car while it was running.

this makes me very sad to read....as a provider i am BIG on mutual respect.  

I had similar, although not quite as involved.

or she simply told you the truth. Either way, a bit of compassion goes a long way.

True. True. And true.  I wish I was this smart then -- but i am now!  

I like that thought.  In fact, i actually I did contact her and told her that whatever happened I'll respect that she had a bad day and not to worry and I'd like to see her sometime when I come back -- and no response whatsoever.  wow, just wow!

If only my meeting was in Phoenix. Next time I'll be smarter and go wherever I'm headed via Sky Harbor and come see you  

You need a red Sharpie to cross her off your list?  

Wow, brilliant theory...alas, i only that were the reason.  That would tie up in a neat and understandable package.  But I'm from thousands of miles away and though her pics don't show her face I don't think that's possible.

I SURE hope so!!  

She strung you out to give herself time to set up the other, more profitable date and to verify him.

It doesn't explain everything from 7:20 to 10:15.
Substance abuse would explain most of that.

During the time she jerked him around she could have seen him, collected his money and still have had plenty of time for the other, phantom date. Look back on his timeline, she could have been done with him, with his money in her pocket long before she even claimed to have gotten to the hotel.

We don't know the locations involved so we don't know the distances between the two.

Do you want mine?

I'm wondering if she was ever in the parking lot of the hotel at all.  

By the time she sent him the text she was on her way to him, she would have already have finished the session with him. The timeline doesn't fit at all.  

After it all settled in my guess is she was never at the hotel.  Thing is if she wanted to blow me off she did not have to keep texting me; ignoring me til I go away would have worked just as well.

At 9 pm she says she is just getting on the road. She said she would get there approx 9:20.  

Sorry that sounds like a mess and someone who does not respect your time.
She reached out to you 10min before appt to say she would be 15min late.
At 9pm which is now an hour and half after your appt should have started she is just now leaving the house?
What!?!How is that possible?At that point I would have just said thanks but no thanks.
I understand everyone has bad days but I mean the conversation you described doesn't make any sense.
And then after all of that waiting you send her a message to say you are still interested?Wow...

and obviously, if she knew me there would ave been no problem whatsoever....

although I think the OP's compassionate/understanding followup should get a response from the woman.

Her very first email to me was a bit strange, not strange enough to make me walk, but I sent a very typical vanilla note and her note back was mostly coherent in a 'written just before last call' sort of way.  But then the communication smoothed out and all was good until the night in question.  

Some providers have boyfriends that don't know what they do and the covering up while trying to maximize business brings out sketchy behaviors.  It's possible she was set to do the appointment and return home with Mr. BF at a reasonable hour but getting lost botched her plans too much to avoid arousing suspicion.

Hey, all that you say makes sense and would have to a man who had not shifted over to being ruled by the small head.  But at that point I was way way out of town with no other options for the night except cable tv and that was not the option I wanted.  It was a little bit desperation and a little bit trying to win one for the gipper as I didn't want to believe I was being fucked over.

Come on dude, keep up.

She might have been been running late for the 7:30 for numerous legit reasons. She could have had the offer for the overnight any time after 9pm.

hmmm, the boyfriend thing  could be where the being nervous part  came into play.  But she's been reviewed since 2009 or so, so that's a lot of hiding to do.  Not that it can't be done I suppose. Or maybe he's a new bf.  I never thought of that option but it does make sense.

No it doesnt prove it, but I think it lessens its possibility.

Although my response would have been a bit different.  

She got a last minute request and decided to squeeze that guy in before you but took some kind of drug that made her feel ill while with him and by the time she got to the hotel felt so lousy, she decided to bail.  

It sounds like she did squeeze another appointment in (or maybe had a hard time getting away from Mr, BF) and just ran out of time.  

Unless you like it, lol. Seriously you don't need to reward bad behavior.

we have to communicate that? I thought it was just a given!

When you get to CR, it is just a given. Actually it's sort of expected behavior. lol

She could have been seeing someone else and trying to stall the OP. Or she could have being all of what you said. either way it was inconsiderate as hell based on the info the OP gave.

with the very first provider i tried to hire.  

9:00 pm – I’m so sorry. I’m leaving the house now. Is it too late?  
 (my response ‘not at all’)  

A date with her in the future. Number of things could have happened. There may have been so one in the hotel she knew and she would not be able to explain her presence there. Her car was repossessed, she was banging her BF and having too good of a time to see you. She won't need money rent for a few mor days so she was taking some time off to relax . Just random shit.

I don't want anyone else to get caught up in one of these but with 100 reviews that show no signs of this degree of flakiness I don't want to hurt her business as she seems perfectly capable of doing it herself.  I don't want to impact her ability to earn a living or buy her meds and this is why I even avoided mentioning the city where this happened.