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Why do any two people get married?
GaGambler
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LasVegan
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14 / 88
GaGambler
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17 / 88
GaGambler
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18 / 88
GaGambler
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24 / 88
LasVegan
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26 / 88
That sucks! You are to sweet and beautiful to deal with that shit.
I'm not sure how I would react over that 
I'd probably tell him to GTFO!
MUCH Love to you!
Love,
TL
-- Modified on 10/28/2016 10:10:13 AM
FatVern
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35 / 88
FatVern
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37 / 88
Let me put it to you this way: there are those of us who believe that kiss indeed could be just a kiss and fuck more often then not indeed is no more then a fuck but a phone call to your former big time flame could be the grounds for divorce. The fact that you know the "naughty" truth about each other, and are ok with the other's weaknesses and feel comfortable with one another not 'because' but 'despite' could prove to be the greatest glue that keeps you together and may even alleviate some of the sexual insecurity that men and women feel about each other when they know that both are trying to put their best foot forward, i.e. neither is real. There are no guarantees in romantic attachments. That's just the way it is. But I think how you met and how you grew to think in intimate terms of one another, despite of how society tells you that you should have viewed each other, actually may prove to be something extra which will help you to withstand a crisis or two which all couples eventually end up going through. The most important thing is the ability to forgive momentary weakness and distinguish between an emotional outburst (often referred to as "temporary insanity" - for example him telling you something bad or calling you something really bad in the heat of an argument) and something which points to his core. If you can handle that then I'm sure knowledge that you're an escort and he's your former (or maybe even a present) client would only strengthen your relationship, because that fact by itself would be the proof that both of you already overcame a certain barrier.
You may even want to consider replaying your past relationship once in a blue moon where, even as your special man, he'd have to pay you in order to get whatever it is that he would be looking for. Sort of like "chasing a boogie man with a mask of a devil" thing.
Also make no mistake the fact that he'd be marrying you wouldn't mean that his sexual fantasies and habits would go away. If you want your relationship to have a chance you'd definitely should be prepared to cater to them somehow. Remember that in the old Japan a lady of the house would pick (or at least approve) a geisha for her SO. The most important thing is not to listen to other providers who already had such relationships and it didn't work. Chances are they also had relationships with men other then their clients and it didn't worked too. Every romantic venture is a risk. Period. But if you don't risk it you don't win. That's just the way it is in life... ...period! Find similar situations that actually worked. They are out there. Maybe not on TER but ask around on blogs I'm sure you'd come across some. Talk to the lady-part of such bargain. Maybe even talk to a guy then too and have him explain how he feels about his wife. In order to be successful in something you have to listen to the success stories and most important of all ignore skeptics because, if there is a possibility of a good thing happening God knows there'd be plenty. One more thing I would suggest though. Don't tie the knot until you live with this man for a bit and then after living with him for a bit go on vacation together. And come up with a list of what you expect to do and expect him not to do. Like what if he's away and calls himself an escort, would it be a problem for you? What if at some point you decide to go back to work because "deep inside you're still such a slut" lol? Would it be a problem for him even if you keep it very discrete? Those hypotheticals are nice to work out at least in theory before going any farther.
You may even want to consider replaying your past relationship once in a blue moon where, even as your special man, he'd have to pay you in order to get whatever it is that he would be looking for. Sort of like "chasing a boogie man with a mask of a devil" thing.
Also make no mistake the fact that he'd be marrying you wouldn't mean that his sexual fantasies and habits would go away. If you want your relationship to have a chance you'd definitely should be prepared to cater to them somehow. Remember that in the old Japan a lady of the house would pick (or at least approve) a geisha for her SO. The most important thing is not to listen to other providers who already had such relationships and it didn't work. Chances are they also had relationships with men other then their clients and it didn't worked too. Every romantic venture is a risk. Period. But if you don't risk it you don't win. That's just the way it is in life... ...period!
Find similar situations that actually worked. They are out there. Maybe not on TER but ask around on blogs I'm sure you'd come across some. Talk to the lady-part of such bargain. Maybe even talk to a guy then too and have him explain how he feels about his wife. In order to be successful in something you have to listen to the success stories and most important of all ignore skeptics because, if there is a possibility of a good thing happening God knows there'd be plenty. One more thing I would suggest though. Don't tie the knot until you live with this man for a bit and then after living with him for a bit go on vacation together. And come up with a list of what you expect to do and expect him not to do. Like what if he's away and calls himself an escort, would it be a problem for you? What if at some point you decide to go back to work because "deep inside you're still such a slut" lol? Would it be a problem for him even if you keep it very discrete? Those hypotheticals are nice to work out at least in theory before going any farther.
LasVegan
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53 / 88
JakeFromStateFarm
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54 / 88
...them then to be unpleasantly surprised with something that you didn't expect later.
Let me put it to you this way: there are those of us who believe that kiss indeed could be just a kiss and fuck more often then not indeed is no more then a fuck but a phone call to your former big time flame could be the grounds for divorce.
The fact that you know the "naughty" truth about each other, and are ok with the other's weaknesses and feel comfortable with one another not 'because' but 'despite' could prove to be the greatest glue that keeps you together and may even alleviate some of the sexual insecurity that men and women feel about each other when they know that both are trying to put their best foot forward, i.e. neither is real. There are no guarantees in romantic attachments. That's just the way it is.
But I think how you met and how you grew to think in intimate terms of one another, despite of how society tells you that you should have viewed each other, actually may prove to be something extra which will help you to withstand a crisis or two which all couples eventually end up going through. The most important thing is the ability to forgive momentary weakness and distinguish between an emotional outburst (often referred to as "temporary insanity" - for example him telling you something bad or calling you something really bad in the heat of an argument) and something which points to his core. If you can handle that then I'm sure knowledge that you're an escort and he's your former (or maybe even a present) client would only strengthen your relationship, because that fact by itself would be the proof that both of you already overcame a certain barrier.
You may even want to consider replaying your past relationship once in a blue moon where, even as your special man, he'd have to pay you in order to get whatever it is that he would be looking for. Sort of like "chasing a boogie man with a mask of a devil" thing.
Also make no mistake the fact that he'd be marrying you wouldn't mean that his sexual fantasies and habits would go away. If you want your relationship to have a chance you'd definitely should be prepared to cater to them somehow. Remember that in the old Japan a lady of the house would pick (or at least approve) a geisha for her SO.
The most important thing is not to listen to other providers who already had such relationships and it didn't work. Chances are they also had relationships with men other then their clients and it didn't worked too. Every romantic venture is a risk. Period. But if you don't risk it you don't win. That's just the way it is in life... ...period!
Find similar situations that actually worked. They are out there. Maybe not on TER but ask around on blogs I'm sure you'd come across some. Talk to the lady-part of such bargain. Maybe even talk to a guy then too and have him explain how he feels about his wife. In order to be successful in something you have to listen to the success stories and most important of all ignore skeptics because, if there is a possibility of a good thing happening God knows there'd be plenty.
One more thing I would suggest though. Don't tie the knot until you live with this man for a bit and then after living with him for a bit go on vacation together.
And come up with a list of what you expect to do and expect him not to do. Like what if he's away and calls himself an escort, would it be a problem for you? What if at some point you decide to go back to work because "deep inside you're still such a slut" lol? Would it be a problem for him even if you keep it very discrete? Those hypotheticals are nice to work out at least in theory before going any farther.
Let me put it to you this way: there are those of us who believe that kiss indeed could be just a kiss and fuck more often then not indeed is no more then a fuck but a phone call to your former big time flame could be the grounds for divorce.
The fact that you know the "naughty" truth about each other, and are ok with the other's weaknesses and feel comfortable with one another not 'because' but 'despite' could prove to be the greatest glue that keeps you together and may even alleviate some of the sexual insecurity that men and women feel about each other when they know that both are trying to put their best foot forward, i.e. neither is real. There are no guarantees in romantic attachments. That's just the way it is.
But I think how you met and how you grew to think in intimate terms of one another, despite of how society tells you that you should have viewed each other, actually may prove to be something extra which will help you to withstand a crisis or two which all couples eventually end up going through. The most important thing is the ability to forgive momentary weakness and distinguish between an emotional outburst (often referred to as "temporary insanity" - for example him telling you something bad or calling you something really bad in the heat of an argument) and something which points to his core. If you can handle that then I'm sure knowledge that you're an escort and he's your former (or maybe even a present) client would only strengthen your relationship, because that fact by itself would be the proof that both of you already overcame a certain barrier.
You may even want to consider replaying your past relationship once in a blue moon where, even as your special man, he'd have to pay you in order to get whatever it is that he would be looking for. Sort of like "chasing a boogie man with a mask of a devil" thing.
Also make no mistake the fact that he'd be marrying you wouldn't mean that his sexual fantasies and habits would go away. If you want your relationship to have a chance you'd definitely should be prepared to cater to them somehow. Remember that in the old Japan a lady of the house would pick (or at least approve) a geisha for her SO.
The most important thing is not to listen to other providers who already had such relationships and it didn't work. Chances are they also had relationships with men other then their clients and it didn't worked too. Every romantic venture is a risk. Period. But if you don't risk it you don't win. That's just the way it is in life... ...period!
Find similar situations that actually worked. They are out there. Maybe not on TER but ask around on blogs I'm sure you'd come across some. Talk to the lady-part of such bargain. Maybe even talk to a guy then too and have him explain how he feels about his wife. In order to be successful in something you have to listen to the success stories and most important of all ignore skeptics because, if there is a possibility of a good thing happening God knows there'd be plenty.
One more thing I would suggest though. Don't tie the knot until you live with this man for a bit and then after living with him for a bit go on vacation together.
And come up with a list of what you expect to do and expect him not to do. Like what if he's away and calls himself an escort, would it be a problem for you? What if at some point you decide to go back to work because "deep inside you're still such a slut" lol? Would it be a problem for him even if you keep it very discrete? Those hypotheticals are nice to work out at least in theory before going any farther.
I know of one provider who married a client, and as far as I know, she retired, they are happily married, and now have two children. Good for them! There have been twists and turns in this game that could never have been anticipated, but I am not a conventional hobbyist, as you know. I play the game as I see fit, and adapt to conditions as they occur. Whether it's a meeting in my NYC home area or on the road with old friends, or first time experiences, all has been cool for the most part. My approach has served me well, but my journey is...mine. It has been a fun ride, and I can't wait for the net chapter! The beat goes on! That includes you, babe! ;
There have been twists and turns in this game that could never have been anticipated, but I am not a conventional hobbyist, as you know. I play the game as I see fit, and adapt to conditions as they occur. Whether it's a meeting in my NYC home area or on the road with old friends, or first time experiences, all has been cool for the most part. My approach has served me well, but my journey is...mine. It has been a fun ride, and I can't wait for the net chapter! The beat goes on! That includes you, babe! ;
LasVegan
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67 / 88
LasVegan
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LasVegan
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70 / 88
happy.merchant
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ValuedCustomer
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82 / 88
JakeFromStateFarm
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84 / 88
GaGambler
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86 / 88
GaGambler
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87 / 88
Lets leave CPA back in Chicago though
GaGambler
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88 / 88