I've dabbled in the swinger and more recently hobby world for past five years.  Was aware of this board but only recently joined after friend of a friend gave me scoop on a lady I met yrs ago but had not seen for long time.   Anyway,  although she's a escort, I new her when she was getting started sort of.   All I have is some personal info on her, no email.  She recently posted and I sent a PM over a week ago but have not heard back.  Is it a major fuck up if I contact her personally through the personal nonescort means I have/can?

F she did not reply to your pm then she does not want to see you. No means No. Move on.

...if she has the limited free provider VIP she can read PM's written to her but many providers don't come on the boards often so there's a chance she doesn't know your PM is there. I'd give it some time.

There is a chance she can't read her PM's because she doesn't have a VIP membership of either kind.

The previous poster gave good advice about let it go if she does not reply.

You might get some jollies from it, but she's likely to be rather upset about it.

Here's what I'd do if it's driving you bonkers.  Have this friend who told you about her contact her and let her know that you are interested.  If she is interested, she can then give this go-between a way to contact her.

If he isn't up for the assignment, then you know it's not meant to be.

Do not contact her directly from your old sources.

then you can see her profile and email her. But if she doesn't reply then leave her alone. I have had a couple of ex boyfriends contact me and want to catch up. NO WAY! I don't respond. If you are contacting me it better be for a paid date. Otherwise there is a reason we have lost touch.

Honestly, dude, if she hasn't answered your PM it's probably because she's freaked out by you connecting her personal life to her escort persona. Just let it go. Contacting her through other means is incredibly creepy and demonstrates a complete disregard for boundaries. Don't be that guy.

Chill guys/heather.  5 people confirmed she's not checking pms.  So silence is nit a no.  Going in my own direction with her or through friends of hubby

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I rarely read this board, but today I did and I cannot believe this!

What if she has a child playing angry birds or her grandmother is using her phone for a selfie and the exact moment that you text, "hey girl.. Remember me? I saw your hooker profile on TER and shot you a pm, but you didn't reply! What's up?"

Is called boundaries and you need to learn them.

I live in the same complex as two providers, that I know of. We never comment to each other about it. We say hi in passing like any other neighbor would, but we don't go up and say, "hey girl... Have you ever met client John? He was so much fun!"

If she lets her child or grandmother use a phone she books dates then that's her prob. Plus he said he PM'd her. Nothing to do with a phone number or text.  

What does your interaction with other hookers have to do with the OP?

If you contact her by personal means she's going to flip out on you, as she rightfully should. She's either late on responding to PMs, or it's a no. Too many other ladies out there that will respond.

It's called DISCRETION.

He actually said he would like to try to contact her through her civvie contact info he has. Everyone's advised him not to. The post above was in reference to him texting her civvie phone. Not cool.

Good luck with that. Let us know how it works out.

Mr bjn above apparently lacks reading comprehension.

Mr bjn, as for your other question about my interaction with other hookers outside of the hooker world.. It's just that. You don't do it! Inside hooker world, sure. At a m&g, sure. A PM on TER, sure. Running in to someone anywhere besides a hooker event, no. Using a contact method not hooker related about something hooker related, no.

Comprende?

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I live in a bettors city and I would put money on it.  

He didn't mention the lady yet people PMed him to let him know she isn't checking her PMs? Last I knew TER didn't work like AOL where we had "read" confirmations.  

No one is saying she ignored you, relax.  

All people are saying is do not contact someone with their personal day to day info with anything hooker related.  

How would you feel if you went to a m&g and you got a message after, "hey man.. This is your homeboy. I saw you at the m&g! So funny! Never in my wildest dreams would I ever think that a husband of my wife's best friend in bible study would be fucking on the low! Haha! I'll high five you next time I see you in church!! Be on the lookout. Don't worry, it will be our secret!"

Always put yourself in the other persons shoes and realize the best and worst outcome and be wiling to accept either before you do something.

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... assumptions.

you automatically every guy in here is a stalker.  

geez, tobi... grow up and act like an adult for once!

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Tough growd.  Would it change your view if we dated lol for long time

You are missing the whole point!
Seriously... You can't be that dumb!

We are all "alter egos" when we come here.  

Just. Don't. Do. It.

If she feels like mentioning it to you, high five!
If you find yourself at dinner with her and feel like saying, "hey I fucked a hooker!" to see if any of your friends want to chime in, high ten!

The point is...  

YOU DO NOT MENTION HOOKER THINGS VIA A NON HOOKING CONTACT!

Don't be upset because the answers aren't what you were hoping for. There is a reason that people aren't telling you to send a dancing clown telegram to her front door. Just listen and move on

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That image had me in stitches!! Thanks for the laugh!!

I get it people!   Thanks

You say in your OP that you PM'd her after she made a post. If you want to be sure that she received it, why don't you respond to her post with "You have PM, did you receive it?" If she ignores you, take the hint. If she responds that she did not receive your PM, feel free to reach out to her.

I will agree with the rest of the "tough crowd" here, that simply reaching out to her utilizing the personal info you have on her just screams STALKER!!! If she want to talk to you, she will,  If not, then you will simply have to respect those wishes.

you mean to tell us that you have no brains that enables you to speak for yourself?

just as we suspected...