If a provider is not all over me already as soon as I walk through the door, then there's going to be some chit chat that I sometimes find unsexy, e.g. "Did you have any trouble getting here?"
It's forced small talk which makes my dick stay limp.
You and your dick need to sit down and have a chit chat about what to expect behind the door.
Unless you are visiting someone you know from prior visits (you don't sound like a repeater) or an agency girl whose agency has provided her with background info about you ("he's OK but he doesn't like chit chat") or someone who provides special services (BDSM, kink; something in a special setting) then you are meeting someone for the first time in an unknown situation. She needs to get comfortable with you and, I would have thought, vice-versa. There are Providers who will jump your bones the second the door is closed (READ THE REVIEWS) but others want to give their guests a moment to put their stuff down, catch their breath, find a place to put the envelope, etc. Chit chat is a customary and effective way to do all that. (In AMPs, there is a different SOP but there is still a gradual build-up.) Are you worried about losing clock time? A couple of minutes of chit chat should not detract from the (and can lead to an enhanced) experience. In some sessions, a few minutes of chit chat can even "wind the spring" and as soon as everything is in order, BOING!, she's on me like white on rice. I think your best bet is to become a regular. Once she knows you from the first meeting, you tell her what you'd like to experience at the beginning of the second meeting. Depending on how #2 goes, you can ask her to fine tune her procedure for #3. And so on.It's forced small talk which makes my dick stay limp.
What's your way of setting the mood in the beginning of an appointment?
I guess you could enter the room with your dick in your hand-that would probably move her off the "Chit Chat" that seems to concern you !
and followed with immediate pull down of the bikini bra and sucking of the melons and then pull down of the undies and tongue up the pussy. apparently this way no talk is invovled and mood has been initiated!!!
But if it goes on to long, ill take her by the hand lead her into the bedroom and start getting undressed. Or lean in for an lfk.
If you read reviews you can usually figure out if she's a "talker" or if she likes balls to the wall action. I can't remember the last time I had to initate the action.It's forced small talk which makes my dick stay limp.
What's your way of setting the mood in the beginning of an appointment?
That don't speak English. Problem solved!
Then we talk about the first thing that pops up.
First of all, When you walk into the provider's place or a place that she says to meet her. You should beat her to the punch line and state your thoughts about the place the location. If you do not like or care for the location then suggest a more convienant location that you both can get to. It seems that she was fusterated, because you were possibly late. And one of the things that a HOBBYIST has to realize is that time is money. And just like the hobbyist.........The provider needs time to rest, eat, shower, make more money & Etc. Providers are just as human as anyone else. Respect goes both ways.
And I book enough time so we can take the time to talk a bit first. I find people as a rule fascinating. People who live outside social norms like sex workers more so than most.
I barely know where to begin. Who suggested any negativity?
I had to read the original post again - as I thought perhaps the reply was in response to the wrong post. That was some really creative extrapolation.
... I know I am about to have sex with, that is all the mood I need. ALL attention, chit chat, eye contact, body movements, light touching, get me primed and ready. The only date I ever had where things didn't begin to happen as I'd want, was when a lady was very nervous that the hotel walls were thin so she insisted in trying to get a seemingly broken TV to work for 15 minutes or so in order to turn the volume up loud. 20 minutes into a date, I thought I'd be playing with something other than a remote! Other than that, vive la difference! - fun and exciting lying next to someone you've never met and seeing how things unfold. Sometimes it's a little quicker to the main event then others, but it's all good, as it would get old to me if each date unfolded in the exact same manner. None of us - I imagine - reveal our true full selves on these dates, but it is fun getting even just the little glimpse into the ladies I've spent time with, different personalities, quirks, humor, etc. And if the lady is a little slow in getting to the action part for you, then just move closer and gently take the lead. Sometimes, if I had a challenging time getting to the hotel, it might take ME a few minutes to wind down. In those cases the chit chat is a natural little bridge to get me relaxed and focused back on fun.
we jumped each other's bones and for the next 30 minutes or so we tore it up pretty good. Then after a little cleanup we introduced ourselves and shared a bottle of wine and some chit chat, until we tore it up again.
This sort of 'chit chat sandwich' worked perfect - and for a 90 minute visit I would look forward to every visit being just like it....Maybe you should change your handle to: "Ivan A. Cumdumpster."
I have to agree...
...with a little chit-chat. If you can have a little laugh or two, it could be a good ice-breaker to ease tension or nervousness.
If it's my first time meeting you, I will not jump on you as soon as you walk in the door. Little awkward if you ask me.. we Literly don't know nothing about each other.. not my way of starting a session.. I like to do the small talk., basically get to know you a little.. I don't know Maybe I am more interested in knowing you haha.
But if we did meet before , it's more like seeing your boyfriend after a week of not seeing each other
And then once I've delicately ushered the fellow into the doorway and shut the door, I begin a series of cheers from my HS days, with everything bouncing and jiggling, while I ask him about his day.
FIRECRACKER FIRECRACKERSHIS BOOM BAAAA
Sophia St John is here to
rock your world RA RA RA How was your day?
Was is full of stress and anxiety?
This is going to be a sexual Cirque du Soleil
And I'm going to ride you like a boat in a rough sea
RA RA RA SHIS BOOM BAAAA I then do a triple back flip over to where I pour him a scotch/bourbon/glass of wine and offer it to him.
Once he has had a BIG GULP to prepare him my sexual onslaught, I then rip his clothes off and give him the most bodacious sex of his life. How is that for setting the mood? OK so I don't really do this for any clients for a first date as they might run for their lives and I'm being silly to illustrate that it is usually customary to start with some convo to get a sense of the man and work up the foreplay. Most clients enjoy being mentally and erotically teased (teased and pleased) with some touching while talking and nuzzling between putting their things to the side, hanging up their suit jacket/coat. As women it is just in our nature to chat and flirt and of course we are wearing something usually requested for the man's taste to visually take it all in (if I'm wearing a short skirt or dress I will def make use of that) and keep you paying attention to me and not really the chatter about the drive in. Once you have met a woman a few times then the action very often starts literally at the door if there is genuine chemistry between you both. Also, I'm not sure how long you are booking but you might consider 1-1/2 hours (or longer) if you are booking an hour for a first appointment so you can get acquainted. Many companions request at least 1-1/2 hours on first appointments for that very reason and to not be rushed.
Unless you are visiting someone you know from prior visits (you don't sound like a repeater) or an agency girl whose agency has provided her with background info about you ("he's OK but he doesn't like chit chat") or someone who provides special services (BDSM, kink; something in a special setting) then you are meeting someone for the first time in an unknown situation. She needs to get comfortable with you and, I would have thought, vice-versa.
There are Providers who will jump your bones the second the door is closed (READ THE REVIEWS) but others want to give their guests a moment to put their stuff down, catch their breath, find a place to put the envelope, etc. Chit chat is a customary and effective way to do all that. (In AMPs, there is a different SOP but there is still a gradual build-up.)
Are you worried about losing clock time? A couple of minutes of chit chat should not detract from the (and can lead to an enhanced) experience. In some sessions, a few minutes of chit chat can even "wind the spring" and as soon as everything is in order, BOING!, she's on me like white on rice.
I think your best bet is to become a regular. Once she knows you from the first meeting, you tell her what you'd like to experience at the beginning of the second meeting. Depending on how #2 goes, you can ask her to fine tune her procedure for #3. And so on.
It's forced small talk which makes my dick stay limp.
What's your way of setting the mood in the beginning of an appointment?
I guess one of my ways to set the mood (to "comfortable") is to chit chat!
who drove down from elsewhere in Louisiana to visit with me in New Orleans if he had a safe trip down. He had no problem getting hard just minutes after engaging in chit chat. As an ultra-introvert, I much prefer holding space for deep conversation over mundane chit chat. But at the same time, I don't want to create a sense of pressure to have the *perfect* conversation. Being present and mutable, and accessing whether someone wants to talk for a while or get straight to sexy shenanigans works well for me.
If it's been more than 24 hours since I have been laid, I walk into the room with an erection caused simply by the anticipation of getting laid, I most definitely do NOT need even the slightest bit of chit chat to get "my motor running" My favorite greeting is a long passionate DFK right at the door the very moment the door shuts behind me. Or even while the door is closing. lol
If the woman is hot I am hard well before the clothes start coming off.
If the woman is hot I am hard well before the clothes start coming off.