...when you see a provider you like has pages and pages of reviews? Just thinking about all the clients she has been with can be a little deflating.

JW...

The more valid information I find available, the more comfortable I am with my decision.  To be turned off by a large number of reviews (assuming they're good reviews) is really not realistic; these ladies are, after all, providers.  It's only normal to expect to see a number of reviews under their names.  It also follows that the more popular providers will have the most reviews.

WHAT! Your expecting a virgin? nt

No.  Quite the opposite in fact.  I get turned on that she can attract so many guys and at the sexual energy it takes to have sex with them.  I've never heard another guy say this, but I do get a charge from that kind of power in a woman.  My attraction for her is especially intensified if she's getting consistently sterling reviews.

/Zin

Yeah...for me its weird...i never been able to read or hear about my ATF's "dates"  "sesions" or " experiences"

For me the less info...the better i sleep

Sham

The more I like them the more it bothers me.

it is completely insane to become so involved with our
low self esteem that we deny that she is making a living.

I would want my brain doctor and mechanic to have lots
of glowing reviews.

She, too, is a professional.

Just like TF1944 has mentioned, we providers are professionals. Some providers choose not to be reviewed. Some of us do. Please take in to account, just because a provider has pages of reviews, does not mean that she is high volume. I have been a provider for some years, I have 7 pages of reviews, but yet-I am very low volume! I limit myself to two clients per that day, and I am not providing every day.  The reviews that I have have accumalated during the years, which leads me to 7 pages of reviews. Also, the majority of my clients do not write reviews. As with any type of job, the company needs good reviews to attract clientle. Personally, for myself, I am proud of my 7 pages of reviews, for that tells you, that I am not "wet behind the ears", so to speak. My reviews reflect  the type of session you may have with me (ymmv). Also, by you writing reviews for TER (which I have noticed you have), you are also contributing to a provider accumalating her reviews Every provider may have a similiar or a different point of view, so I am only telling you how I feel

Mel


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You go an see providers, and have misgivings about them providing for others?

You're in the wrong hobby then.

TET

"when you see a provider you like..."   If I like her, it's because of the whole person she is, not because she's a provider or because of what she does for me in the sack.  I respect what she does and who she is.  I admire the fact that she's able to give pleasure to others and that she does it well.  When she gets a good review, I cheer her on and support her.  I encourage other hobbyists to see her.  I'd be delusional if it were any other way.

You have mirrored my feelings.
I want all my girls to be happy and successful.

I have no problem with the concept that this is a business for the providers. But in some ways I can't make that similarity to a brain doctor or mechanic like someone mentioned. Its completely different. Emotions are involved.

I just noticed this one lady that I wanted to visit has gotten more and more reviews lately. I have seen her before, twice matter of fact, she is great, but lately she has gotten more reviews from clients. She is on the verge of possibly being an ATF for me and so maybe this is why this is bothering me. Call me selfish for not liking that she has gotten tons of reviews.

Gus,

I understand if you get close to a provider and start having feelings for her. That makes you a normal and sweet man. It is sometimes unfortunate that some men want us, critique us, then make us feel sort of like a whore when that's partly what they want anyway. You have to ignore certain things in this business.

I know that I've developed close friendships with a few gentlemen in this business but I still try to keep things in perspective. If it bothers you to read reviews about someone, then don't look at her reviews. Perhaps it's time you took a break and then come back to us fresh and unassuming.

Hugs (always),
Ciara

with realizing she is just that damn good.

I think I just have to come to grips that this is a BUSINESS. Its kind of hard to do that after having a GFE. Its hard to walk away from a lady that has given you a wonderful time. Not just sexually but emotionally and intellectually

between her being a provider for you and an S.O. for you.  Providing is a business.  The brain surgeon and mechanic analogy is right on.  The more data that's out there, the better it is for everyone, as expectations on each side of the equation will tend to be better informed.  Lot's of positive reviews means she's mastered her craft, and I for one would celebrate for her.

If you're having a problem with this, I suspect it's because, at some level, you're starting to view her as a potential S.O., not as a professional business contact.  Danger, Will Robinson!  This board is full of plaints from clients who have tried to mix the two realms together.  It seldom has a happy ending.

Cheers!

To those with an elevated sense of self esteem, and believe that seeing a provider with voluminous reviews is plebeian, is it not the more challenging to be able to establish that special connection with someone who's truly been around?  The faint of heart may be inclined towards the relative virginal crowd for he fears comparison.

A confident person doesn't need to be made to feel so.

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It's ok to be selfish. After all orgasms are the ultimate in selfish behaviour.

You may want to examine why exactly you want to visit providrs if the issue is within your own mind and heart.

TET

It bothers me if all the reviews are really close in date. i.e. if she has 20 reviews in February I may pass, because probably only about 20% of guys post a review. If the girl has five or so reviews per month over two years and the reviews are consistant over time, I am much more likely to see her, because i consider her a professional.

Been there... tried to make it more than it was.... doesn't work! Just have fun with it or forget it. If you want an S.O. there's plenty of women looking for the same thing.

Most guys who have this problem just need to recognise it for what it is ENVY.   There is an old saying that women have the real power in this world because they control half the money and all the Pussy.  Learn to make the best of it.

Also, keep in mind that the more the reviews (above average) the better AND SAFER for you!!! It always pays to be safe!

I want a whore in the bedroom, a confidante and friend in the living room and a great cook in the kitchen! - Is that so much to ask???
I've been fortunate enough to meet some of you and you fill the bill and all these aspects!!!

...I want it to be just right.  I want to know what I'm getting into, but I don't want to feel like I'm in line or something... Come-on it's a fantasy - when I want the GFE experience I want the GIRL FRIEND fantasy - girl friends don't sleep with a bunch of strangers each week.  Reviews help set the scene, great providors deliver.

In many cases the reviews shown are not all that are written. Many get rejected for various reasons. But that is not even a drop in the bucket compared to the reviews that are not written.

If you are looking for a temporary friend and lover, then TER has the best on the internet.If you are looking for a relationship with a woman that has seen relativly few men prior to you, try converting a nun or perhaps a lesbian that is uncertain of her current status with her partner.

I have noticed that those, who have wrote reviews, but yet-are turned off by noticing reviews accumalated, then why write them? Aren't you helping the provider, to accumalate reviews, by writing them? If so, then why write them, if you are not fond of seeing a list of reviews (just playing part chocolate Easter Bunny here, and part Devil's Advocate lol)

Mel

a whore in the bedroom, let me watch my program on TV, and a great cook. Wink!

Hugs,
Ciara