I recieved an inquiry the other day from a potential client wanting to schedule a meeting, during our phone conversation I mentioned the small screening process that was included, & He opted for the latter ( providers reference) as he started to roll off the the second providers name and contact(incase the 1st did not answer in a timely fashion) info I asked him how will she recall who you are? By name? Are you her regular? Possibly via email addy? Phone Number? Which was a good question coming from even a provider. His reply was "most providers I've seen dont keep my info so how is she gonna remember me? My question to providers, is unless the hobbiest makes a really funny comment, or brings flowers how do most providers recall some of their previous visitor and Hobbyists do you make a special jester during your visit for this reason or how would you like to be remembered?
somewhat off topic, for providers when you do remember us guys how do you discribe us when giving a reference? Do you just state payed in full, doesn't stink and not Le. Or is their more to it, do you discribe size, abilities/inabilities, ect?
Some ladies, especially those that know one another, will share intimate details. I had a lady I was meeting for the first time know specific details about me that only my referenced provider could have known. I was aware beforehand that the two of them had worked doubles together and was not surprised that they might have chatted a little more.
... and I am not naive enough to believe for one second that certain ladies and especially agencies do not retain my personal info. I am quite positive that a well known agency has me on file (as I could hear the typing on the keyboard as soon as I gave my phone #). Then she immediately knew exactly who I was, and I had no further problems scheduling the appointment, since I was an established client with them.
Thanks for asking this question. I was going to ask it as a follow up to my last one. I recently contacted a very sellective, low volume provider that I've never seen before and she required such info. I gave her the requested info for a few women that I had seen before, the most recent was roughly 3 month's ago. Out of all the one's that I gave her there was only one that I could imagine still remembering me and this was only because of a conversation we had. This one provider did remember me and said it was perfectly okay for me to use her as a reference which was good. However, if she wouldn't have, as the other's pobably didn't, I'm dead in the water with this new provider, she require's referal's. Some of the women see quite a few different guy's over the course of a few month's. How many can you actually remember by name? By the way, thank you to all the people who had input to my last post.
When this provider mentioned the things that make a client memorable, she did not even think of saying his sexual performance. So now, you can stop writing those exaggerated reviews! They make TER seem dumb.
I am, for some reason or other, memorable to most providers that I see - though the reasons are much harder to quantify. Dontcha think, Cheri? (BTW, you have mail)
I won't use a provider as a reference unless I ask her first. I always thought that this was a common courtesy? I am usually the one that brings up any topics that she can remember me by or not.
To be honest, I will give references if they are absolutely necessary for a lady I really want to see. However, I would prefer to provide work or personal information that she can verify by other means. It's not that I can't get references but I would prefer to be more discrete and keep a meeting between myself and the lady I plan to meet.
...is very much an issue with me regarding provider references. I hold much the same view as Mike on this matter. I have yet to use a reference, and would only do so after asking permission first.
I too would only give a reference if absolutely necessary and much prefer to provide work/personal information that can be easily verified. I'm of the viewpoint that such information is actually more useful/reliable than provider references alone. Of course the quality of provider references probably varies considerably depending on several factors, but I suspect the providers who make use of references take at least some of them with a grain of salt depending on how familiar they are with the provider who supplies the reference.
This topic has come up before and I recall mentioning that one of the reasons I felt uncomfortable with providing references was because it seemed like something of an imposition on the provider who was being requested to supply the reference.Some,perhaps many of these ladies lead quite busy lives including activities/interests quite outside this community.
I know a couple of provider's in San Diego assured me that they were more than willing to give references but I've also heard it mentioned that such references are actually less useful in many cases than work/personal information that can be independently verified.
The whole screening issue has been debated here and on other boards almost ad nauseum at times. I place myself in the camp that is willing to provide the information that assures her I am who I say I am, that's for her safety. If she feels safe then it is likely to show in her performance when we meet
Of course there are differing viewpoints but I have yet to see a provider based on references, and generally choose to pass on those who make references an absolute requirement.
I suspect that I am too plain vanilla to have enough of a lasting impact to make references even a viable option in my case
I keep nothing more than a name and phone number of the people that I've seen... and ONLY those that I've seen. This way when you call back I know that I've seen you before. I do tend to remember those clients that tell me something about themselves like I have a big malamute at home or I work at Microsoft...etc. I will never give out or even write info down, it just helps me remember who you are so that when another provider calls to ask for a reference, I'll know who she's talking about. It also helps if you let the new provider know when you last saw me...or how many times we met.
Usually when a provider calls to ask me about a reference, I will just say yes, I've seen him and he was sweet to me or No, I don't remember him please ask him for more info... or something along the lines of, Yes, I saw him but he was a jerk to me....or he stiffed me on the donation... but never anything personal like what we did together.
my guess, it would depend upon the amount of time that has gone by since she last seen him and Unless he has some distinguishing characteristics, chances are good she will vaguely remember him if she remembers him at all.
How would I like to be remembered?? he's a dazzling urbanite with incredible sense of style and taste. Sophisticated beyond your wildest imagination and well schooled in the art of pleasure. I could go on but humility prevents it. lol
I've floored guys by remembering them from years back and even knowing little things about them (likes, dislikes). Most can't figure out how I can remember that with all the people I meet and talk to but I have a very good memory. It's not always perfect but if I don't remember them right off it usually just takes a few questions before I know who I'm talking to or giving a referral for. ~
I talk to alot of guys via email or Instant Messanger so screen names and email addresses are how I remember most people. I've had both good and bad times with people but I m always happy to give glowing recommendations to those I've had a terrific time with.
Its funny what causes a provider to remember a hobbyist, and it is usually totally unrelated to sexual performance.
The last provider I contacted for a reference commented "You have no idea what you started!" In her case, I had chosen a wine that rekindled her interest in fine wine, and she shared with me some wines she had tried since I saw her.
In the case of another provider, we "got started" on the elevator on the way up to the room, only to be surprised and embarrassed when the elevator stopped at the second floor for a very proper and distinguished couple to get on.
I always bring flowers and always send a thank you note the next morning, but I don't do that to be remembered - it's just a common courtesy.
Beaujolais usually works when you're unsure about someone's taste in wine. It has some of the characteristics of more serious wines, but at the same time is light and drinkable for those who don't drink a lot of wine.
Since there is almost always a talk / get acquainted session at the first meeting, I like to find something mutual to discuss, and then possibly a humorous story related to that. Somewhat of an icebreaker, but usually also a little bit memorable since its something of myself. On that note, I will mention that one lady I called about being a reference for me did not remember me at first (3 visits but over a fairly long period). After describing myself etc., still no go. Then I started to describe her apt and some of the things she had around on shelves. The light finally went on when I mentioned a poster of a lady bodybuilder; she remembered me asking about it and we had a little laugh comparing her arms to the poster.
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