This is a situation in my personal life rather than with a client.  

I've been with this guy for a while.  Sex was amazing at one point but now it's turned into the dreaded married sex routine.

It goes something like this:

He goes down on me (to completion)
Missionary (to completion)

THATS IT!

Sometimes he'll let me go down on him a little, but won't let me finish (a huge turn on to me), and he doesn't like me on top at all.  He is also a control freak and likes to dominate me.  Frankly I'm bored.  Any ideas of how to get out of the same ol routine?

Sometimes you can't make "the best of a bad situation" and you simply have to "make a new situation"  

I was all full of helpful ideas until your last paragraph where you mention him being a "control freak" Sorry Shiksa, but I think you are fighting a losing battle and need to trade him in on a newer model.

until I found out he saw escorts, and me as payback became one and now I'm single and having fun and he's broke and single! LOL

...to rev up your motor

... but how about suggesting a threesome with a provider?  Preferably one who's really bi (if you're open to that) and can be a dom.  Most guys would jump at the chance of a threesome, and it could really spice up your sex life.  Try to find a provider who loves working with couples and if possible is experienced in just this sort of thing (i.e. enlivening stale marriages).  I know some providers like that and have seen that mentioned on provider web sites. You could try an ISO post on your local board.

There is of course the sex therapist route, which is worth a try if you haven't already explored it.

Yes he's controlling but he must be bored too if I am, and I think there's some hope as we did once have a way hotter sex life.  I'm so bored with him going down on me.  I could almost fall asleep bc he's really doing it for himself, no for me...

Nice idea in theory but I would never have a threesome, just not my thang.  But thank you for the idea!  And you are my (free) sex therapist!  

... white sand, umbrella drinks, long orange sunsets, not a care in the world, a bottle of wine... trust me, it can go a long way in the direction you want it to go.  And if it doesn't then unfortunately for you, Gambler is probably right.  

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Kinda like alimony! And, he did her a favor and got her into this biz!

Whattaya think Turbay?!

LOL

Make an ultimatum if you have to.

Sometimes leaving is the right thing to do. I got tired of my sex life when I was married, oh so many years ago. Our sex life became VERY boring, in large part because I no longer found her attractive. Long story short as this is about you, not me, but my ex had gained weight and had aged mentally by twenty years in the space of just a couple. Rather than suffer in silence and end up like the majority of the guys here, sneaking around on their wives just to steal a few minutes or hours of joy. I sucked it up and ended things.

If he really is a control freak, forcing him to address your issues might be an effort in futility as those kind of guys rarely hear anything that other people have to say, but I suppose it's worth a shot. Assuming he knows what you do for a living, have him read this thread as a "wake up call"

good advice in song.
I know the video has Chevy in it

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Working on it!

tying him up and then pleasuring him, and yourself, in ways that excite you. May completely backfire given the comment about him being a control freak but then it might help break him out of his shell.  

Of course a talk about levels of satisfaction might also be a good starting place.

Good luck... it worked for me.  Of course I got a son out of it so be careful lol.

I have no idea how I could tie him up when he usually sleeps with one eye open, but I really like this idea a lot.

Not sure how far away the galaxy was.

If you can figure out the answer from this song, do us a favor and let us all know.

In the meantime, get your bong and lava lamp out - I've been listening to too much '60s music today.

a threesome, and bring in another girl.   Most guys will consider that a hall pass of sorts and will relive the experience in their minds for months after when its just you and him.  You can partially replicate some of the other positions when he had two girls pleasuring him at once, getting him out of his "routine."    

Maybe you should drop a full envelope on your date.

As a sex therapist anyway.

But seriously, if you haven't tried seeing a counselor who specializes in sex therapy, you might try that. At the least it would give you an idea how much your husband is interested in trying to improve things between you. If he says No... there's always GaG's idea.  

No offense to A.A.  I'm sure he is great.

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...talk to your now ex about her weight gain and "mental aging?"

I took my own earlier advice and got the fuck out of the relationship and I am quite happy with the results.  

"Some" people want to save the relationship "at all costs" I am admittedly a shallow pig and mainly interested in my own happiness, and guess what? I am a very happy pig. oink oink.

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didn't work for me. Control freaks are rough. Example ... after a failed romantic vacation, my ex suggested counseling and I agreed. Because I agreed, she lost control... so we only went once. She quit and felt back
in control.  

I do hope it turns out to be a good thing for both of you.

...we need to meet!!!...

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I am having the same problem. He is someone in my personal life. Sex was mindblowing at first and things would heat up when we play tag and meet up in a different city for vacay. Things are a drab now. He likes dominating me and doesn't like pleasuring me at all. It all comes down to us having completely different sexual taste I guess. He is not someone I am interested in having a relationship with so its okay for me to call it quits and move on. You seem like you might be trying to stick with this person because they are or might be becoming your significant other. Otherwise, just let it go. You can't fix bad sexual chemistry.

Take responsibility for Your pleasure.
Then,
Learn to SPEAK UP for what You want.

He doesn't like the new You,
Find someone that does.

Just saw your pics. What moron would see escorts if they had a woman like you at home!!!!! I would leave this hobby in the blink of an eye if you were mine.