I see so many people waste time talking while the clock ticks away.
I'm the kind of guy who, 3 minutes in, is like "why the fuck aren't you naked already?"  
Recently, I had one provider who was kind of hesitant and slow in the beginning. I was buckass naked on the bed, and she was still fully clothed in multiple layers of lingerie, slowly crawling up to me on the bed. She was no fatass either, so that's not the reason she was slow.

Look lady. We can talk later. Touch my dick, and let's sucky fucky already. Those last 10 minutes cost me $100.

If it is with someone I have been with before then I am all about let's get naked and start having fun. With someone new I like to spend a little bit of time, 10 minutes at least trying to get comfortable with them. That is why I like a longer appointment the first time with a provider, but if I have seen you before I love those half hour fuck sessions.

Maybe you need a SW...and a car?

sound like a real cheap-ass?  With this approach, good luck getting a connection with anybody.  Romantic fantasy is definitely not your thing.

I have hug some providers and made small talk for a while before and after that part on them. Once I pay she take her undies off I will get grappy if she tell to get conforable on bed she must nude first and beg to see me nude.

to Fancy or her sister?

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...the jumping jacks, but those six-count burpees are a bitch!

The thing is, as Jack said, why bother with TER? He can find what he wants elsewhere for a lot cheaper.

And for a lot less than 600/hr.

Why eat steak with a knife and fork when you can have it intravenously injected as a slurry.

I mean why f*ck a corpse.  I prefer to f*ck a willing brain.  I know it is illusion due to the money exchange, but friendly banter is still friendly.  So it isn't completely false.

$300/hr hookers and stop whining about the $100 for a little bit of get-to-know-you time.  Its part of the fantasy that he doesn't seem to appreciate, so maybe he's spending more than he should. Besides, even though he uses an alias, I'm pretty sure he's an LA Kgirl guy, so he's not spending $600/hr in the first place.

pushups with his tongue.

If she is taking things too slow, you can always take the lead in moving things forward.

O....K, so basically you are not into the GFE, ok and perhaps if you are seeing minutes as $$ signs. Eh....maybe you should try something a bit low scale but that's just me.

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there's 2 consecutive people that can post in public what I just finished reading.

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One day, I had a bad car crash, and had both legs and arms in a cast.

Still, I needed to get me some you know what, so hobbled out of the hospital to the nearest MP.

When the gal opened the door she said:  "What the hell do you intend to do here with all those casts on you?"

I said:  Well, I rang the doorbell, didn't I

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Last I checked, emails are free. Correspondence is free. Getting to know you is free. This is P4P. The OP doesn't sound cheap, he actually sounds like a client who gets the run around that a lot of providers are guilty of.  $300/$400/$600, is a shit load of money. Maybe y'all have been jaded by the profession from being in it for some amount of time, but money doesn't grow on trees. Some may look at it as chump change, but for the majority of the working class, that's a weeks worth of salary. If I want to sit and chat for 30 mins of an hour session then I'd go see a therapist, it's much cheaper and in most cases you won't be disappointed.  

Some, not all take advantage of this a lot. Talk your ear off, get to know you, a little sucky sucky and sex and offer a shower to give you the hint that it's time to go. Rinse, cycle and repeat with the next client. Meanwhile, you just dropped $500 for one pop and a bunch of a provider acting like she is slightly interested in your life story. The bottom line is money, providers want to make it and clients want to feel like they haven't been ripped off once they spend it. Whether you feel you've made a connection or not, the reality is said provider could give two shits about you before or after you leave that session.  I hear a lot of "it's my body" understandable. But it's the clients money. Their are a lot of manipulators who do this to clients, so don't jump on the client for voicing what he has seen probably more than once or twice.

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Amen to Dfuse. Totally nailed it.

...more so to help acclimate the provider in case she gets nervous, especially if she isn't used to seeing female clients. It helps to set the mood and establish the pace. I don't worry about the clock since once we do get going it will all be over too soon anyway.

I like to jump right in and get to good naked fun too!  Hell, I always greet my friends with a very friendly kiss.   That usually gets the ball rolling quite nicely.  The tongue-tango is my version of getting to know you chit-chat.  

Now, that being said..... once in awhile, someone will immediately strip to his birthday suit and lay down on the bed, awaiting my attentions.  To me, this just screams, "Service me!".... and will make me pause.  

It throws me off.  I don't like it.  So yeah, I might then be a little hesitant.  

Maybe treat this like a civvie hookup and actually kiss & makeout with the lady?  Both of your clothes will probably fall off rather quickly if you do that!  And then you're off to the races!  

 
Actually, the stripping-down, lying on the bed, waiting for the fun to begin thing used to happen a lot a decade or more ago.  I didn't like it then, and I like it even less now.  So I'm very happy this is no longer the norm.  

Thankfully, I encounter this sort of thing very infrequently.  

Because the first part of what he says I can absolutely agree with. I don't need a lot of "warm up" time. My favorite type of sessions start with a DFK before I am halfway through the door, but I most certainly don't expect to be inside of her three minutes after having walked in the door. That's where he loses me and starts sliding into troll territory.

Women in this business love to get the "business part" out of the way so they can relax and focus on the actual session without worrying about getting "stiffed" in the not so good way. As a guy, I like to get the "is she going to be passionate?" part out of the way, so I don't have to still be worrying 15 minutes into the session if she is going to be a "cold fish" A passionate DFK at the door, followed by me getting undressed for a quick shower, during which I leave the donation somewhere in plain sight for her peace of mind, seems to work to put both parties at ease.

OTOH, if a girl "attacks me" at the door and it's 45 minutes before we even come up for air, yeah that's more than okay with me too. lol

So, I have been anticipating the session for at least 3 days (typically much longer), I don't spank my monkey for at least 3 days prior, so by the time I knock on the door I ready to get a nut. This is not to say that I expect action as soon as the door closes, I like a little hello kiss and hug, then I hit the shower and give her a moment to ensure my math is correct, but yeah once I'm out of the shower it's game on. We can "get to know" each other during the down time after my first pop. I feel that it's nice and preferable to establish a good vibe, but ultimately I'm there to get off and she's there for the Bennys, so why not get at it.  

One of the alluring things about the hobby, is that I don't have to romance the lady. Romancing is too much like work for me.

I do not appreciate stallers, I feel it's disrespectful. It's indicative of someone who is trying to do the absolute minimum for their rate. I could understand if I tried to negotiate a lower rate than she states, so that would make me a cheap bastard and in that case her doing the absolute minimum would make sense. But I never negotiate, and my math is always correct to her website posted rate for time.

This totally proves my point. I guess everyone is conditioned to skim through, not read or critically think about what my post said. There is nothing wrong with getting to know someone. But In my opinion there is everything wrong with purposely talking to a client for 30 to 45 mins, and only leaving time for physical acts to take place within 15 minutes only to be rushed during sex with "hey Hun your time is almost up" then immediately putting on clothes or offering a shower to usher the client out of the door. That's not a service, that is taking advantage of the system and the client. If the shoe fits, try it on and buy a couple of pair. Sorry if I offend anyone, but if this is your tactic or you know any providers who do this, then you should look in the mirror.  

If it doesn't apply to you, then click out of the post and pay it no never mind. I am very kind and polite as I do understand that this is P4P and not some cheap porno set where said provider is being directed to do certain acts on command. It is 50/50. Provider gets paid, client pays, sex happens. Idk when it became a time wasting interview tactic. It's pretty cut and dry, client likes providers picture/profile he reads her reviews so he obviously knows sex is going to occur. Provider posts ads stating time/donation parameters fields call and takes appointments. And I'm not saying both shouldn't be comfortable with one another. But clients are pretty much at the mercy of any manipulative provider once he hands over the donation envelope.

his is why I don't offer 30 min anything and prefer clients who don't clock watch  
 and like to take their time. I absolutely hate it when I have no idea of the time and  
 the gentleman is checking his damn watch every 5 mins. Makes it hard to meet  
 their needs. This is an industry or whatever where desires and stuff can be catered to and explored

Totally agree with you sweetheart  

...I have never run into the situation you describe.

...Isn't that what the business is all about? Passion...Sex...Excitement and  Fantasy....
So why wait...

Kisses

Frederica

I agree with you too but unfortunately, at least in my experience, your attitude is not very common with most of the providers I have experienced. A majority like to get you in and get you out the door so they can see the next guy and run him through the line. I have done as much research as I can beforehand but where I live a lot of the reviewed providers don't pass through much so I am left taking my chances with BP girls. So be it I guess.  To those it is just a way to make money and they don't really enjoy it. Those with your attitude get a lot of my repeat business for sure!

Every woman I have hooked up with via TER has always gone over the hour that I book.  I get plenty of chitchat and plenty of sexy time, and they get gifts and tips for going above and beyond.  Dfuse obviously is not doing his homework.

Back in late December I was with a provider who was a former porn star.  We had an hour appointment and her rates were a bit higher than I was used to paying. (it was not Becca Blossom BTW....she is great).  

She/we talked for 40 min.  I kept waiting for her to give a signal or something.  I do not engage unless the provider seems willing.

Finally she says something like hey, we better get going unless you want to buy another 30 min.  I felt like I was in a strip club.  I got a BBBJ, barely touched her nipple, came on my chest.  Not very fun.  Importantly, that has only happened once in 5 years in the hobby.

If I am with someone new, I usually book 90 min and spend the first 15 talking.  Often I bring massage oil and massage my partner while we chit chat.  Helps to get the party going.  

It's all about the journey and I dislike a fast journey.

Because in life, the same things happen to the same people right. Oh and everyone has the same experiences. And the world is just lolly pops and daisies. You're so right.

when a girl is aggressive and kind of GFE/PSE from the outset, but you have to wait to see if she takes the lead on that.  If she's a little shy at first because you're a new customer, then I think a little get-to-know-you time making out, etc., is going to make the rest of the session much better.

I think the OP just did a VERY bad job of articulating his point.

and I do consider "making out" part of the action, a very enjoyable part I might add. There is a huge difference between a rather shy girl spending ten minutes or so making out before the clothes come off and a "staller" who wants to sit three feet away from you on the couch making chit chat for the first 30 minutes of an hour appointment. The former is kind of a turn on, while the latter is a most definite turn off.

Use your alias just to say you agree with another poster. You must be some kind of extraordinary wimp!

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I generally let the lady take the lead and this has gone everywhere from chatting for almost an hour while drinking wine to having the lady sitting on my face in less than 10 minutes.  

The latter was pretty cool but it's whatever floats her boat. The one that talked for an hour was my ATF, BTW - and not just for the talk - the talking part was well worth the wait when we got started.

(From your quick apparel change in the phone booth) I bet you're quite the Captain Save-A-Hooker.  Or maybe you're the rat who leaks Reviewers Only material to providers.

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I'm only going to get off once anyway. Ten minutes chatting matters little. I don't prefer it, but will tolerate it.  Only a few times did I feel slow rolled and it still didn't matter....

Foreplay is usually as much or more fun anyway. (until the end

If I wanted to hurry I'd try to get a 30 min date.

mom know you're on this adult board?

among providers that are not that busy and are lower volume by circumstance and not by design.  They can take their time and don't need to watch the clock.  Its why some hobbyists seek them out, arguing that they get more for their money, even though there may be valid reasons for the lack of customers.  

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fulfilling his obligation to defend his serf.  

If you do your research before making an accusation, you would know that the kinds of girls I see could care less what is on the RO board.  Most don't even read their own reviews.  When you slander someone without doing your homework, it makes you look like an idiot.

To tell anyone else what they should or shouldn't prefer?

Really, 3 minutes? I do not like time wasters either, but there should still be some time to get to know a lady a little. I can't just jump into sex and I dont see ladies who just want to jump right into it either.  

 Part of this  fantasy is mutual foreplay and seduction which actually makes for a very pleasurable time in the end.  You can't get to many quality ladies of substance in this business with this attitude Bro.

Who says out loud what other People are thinking but don't say because it might cause blowback.  

Who are YOU to tell others what they can post? See how that works? Post smart and I won't make you look stupid.