So I'm fairly new to the hobby, as in less than a year, and I've seen a few different providers but for the most part there is one that I see regularly about once every two weeks. The sex has always been great and the more I've seen her the more personal and passionate the sex has become. Typically I pay for a full hour, she never really rushed me and I would use up the full hour. Well on our latest encounter, things got particularly steamy. To put it short, we fucked twice, no cover. She had one, saw it on the dresser, but in the heat of the moment she told me she wanted me to fuck her raw and the little head took over. Now I'm not too worried about STDs, checked and I'm fine. But on top of that, I stayed waaayyyy over my time, talking almost three hours. She's also been offering for me to stay the night no up charge either.
Like I said I'm fairly new to the hobby, I'm just curious if this is something that is common with providers you see regularly, or if I may be getting in a little too deep with a provider? I like her, we have good conversations too, but I'm not lovey dovey for her either. Thoughts?
I see two possibilities here:
1) She genuinely enjoys fucking you and/or has developed romantic feelings for you (unlikely)
OR
2) There is some ulterior motive in play here on her part (much more likely). I can't tell what it is from the information given, but it's there.
FS??? That fucking reeks of desperation, IMO, at least. To be fair, I freaking love and prefer a BBBJ but BBFS is completely out of the question. No excuses. I'm not weak enough to have someone else coerce me into doing anything I don't do or want.
But oh well. You'll probably end up getting a "pink physical slip" at one time or another -if you keep it up.to be totally honest. If you are not "lovey dovey" with her.........and some how she is getting mixed signals, she may not know how you really feel........and could be setting herself up for a let down.
IMHO we..........both hobbyists and providers..........protect each other when we respect certain boundaries..........that way nobody gets hurt. AFTER you come clean with her.........if she does not like it, you can always find another provider. If she knows but for some reason enjoys your company in spite of that..........then at least you were honest with her. Just because the common ground between we hobbyists and providers is sex, does not mean we should avoid being honest and ethical. If you do decide to see her again........no matter the circumstances..........suit up.........it is the only intelligent way to proceed.Is it common, probably not. Does it happen, yes and this is subject that most won't admit to. It happens more then we know. Each situation and person is different and no one knows what goes on BCD. So something "click" and a comfort level was achieved. But I wouldn't assume that this is par for the course.
How do you know this provider in question did not do the same thing with another client?
Also std's can show up later on too.
I don't understand why you would fuck her with no condom but it's your life.
It's crazy how the both of you would play that dangerous game and care so little about yourselves!
Like I said I'm fairly new to the hobby, I'm just curious if this is something that is common with providers you see regularly, or if I may be getting in a little too deep with a provider? I like her, we have good conversations too, but I'm not lovey dovey for her either. Thoughts?
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If everything was good and you didn't catch anything, just enjoy it. I go BBFSCIP with my ATF. I've been seeing her for almost three years. No problems or issues.
Never was offered it in 2 years of hobbying. Then 4 times in the past year. Wonder if ladies are getting complacent.I hope not.
She sees you as an easy mark to get out of the biz and support her real BF and their, I mean your, soon to be born child. Google,"Stripper Retirement Plan" and see if your name comes up because you're about to find out just how "special" you really are.
http://nypost.com/2016/01/20/family-says-stripper-danced-way-into-late-hbo-execs-inheritance/
"A struggling Scores stripper used her sexual prowess to coerce an obese, alcoholic HBO executive into leaving her most of his savings, new court papers allege.IMO, she likes him and is most likely, almost certainly wanting "something more" something like a "real relationship"
I agree that it's not "par for the course" it doesn't happen all that often, but it happens a LOT more than a lot of the prudes here would like to think it does. For the record, YES this has happened to me and yes in my case/s it has led to more than a simple hooker/john relationship and no, my dick didn't fall off just because I started dating a hooker and fucking her sans condom.My thoughts exactly. STI/STD are not the only life altering consequence of unprotected encounters.
was after a previous ATF who had retired and we met for lunch several times when she was without a car. But I still never accept an offer for BBFS. Even if I did fathering a child wouldn't stop me. A vasectomy many years ago!
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After 20 years of mongering, I have had BBFS with 4 different providers and actually more often in the SB world. Each time with a provider it was spontaneous and never got an STD. With the SB's, I only go BB with them after a recent test for both of us. I could tell a few of my ATF providers at the time wanted something more and I didn't which ended with silence when I tried to re-connect (they have feelings as well and I hurt them, sorry). As for the SB scene, I only see older ones and it’s more of a FWB, uncovered and tested. Recently I broke up with an amazing SB (think tall Czech model type) who wanted a baby (single women in her 30's - must be the biological clock ticking) and told her I don't want or need more children to support.
We're all big boys and girls here and make our own decisions. If he wanted advice about that choice he would have asked. Doesn't seem like preaching from some soapbox really fits with this particular community.
My much younger self never used condoms in my civie relationships. It may be more common in civie or maybe SB relationships. I did not begin the hobby until much later. I think you need to decide where this is going & take control.
I guess some people don't mind getting a long term std.
This is where they are heading doing unprotected sex.
The issue is not with my comment but his actions in the long run.
We're all big boys and girls here and make our own decisions. If he wanted advice about that choice he would have asked. Doesn't seem like preaching from some soapbox really fits with this particular community.
Are we seeing the same girl? This has also happened to me and my atf had papers showing she was tested. She also said that I'm the only one who she is doing this with as she knows I have So's in my personal life.