This question is for providers but also fellas. I have experienced that when a provider takes a liking to me, there are certain benefits that come with it such as reduced donation, longer sessions, or her doing things that she doesn't normally do, etc... however this only happens after I visit a provider on a frequent basis. Do u providers do this or is just me and fellas have u experienced this?

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more accommodating within reason; usually not watching the clock to the minute.  I have been grandfathered as rates have risen.  Yes, there are times when a provider has done things with me that are not listed in her profile.

I add more time(hang out time) and OTC stuff( a breakfast or lunch). I don't discount the fee and I do  not add extras. If I don't do them out of the gate, I don't do them at all. A good business move to keep a good client.

I would say "normal" but only for providers who are clever and savvy enough to know how to keep "nice" customers who click well to come back again and again with special incentives.

My regulars are rewarded with my repeat business exactly because of that. They manage to STAND OUT from the rest of the competition by offering me "special incentives". In return they get good reviews and a safe and secure client who they already knew what to expect

No discounts from me (except for grandfathering) or off-the-menu items, but yeah OTC is essential I think.

Be proud, you're probably a really likable guy, wildhorse if she's going above and beyond to keep you coming back.

as an inducement for repeat business - to make you think you're 'special' :p

I want all the services I am interested in up front without games - else I go elsewhere....

now if you happen to hit it off with a provider - a genuine enjoyment of one another's company,  a bit of hanging out OTC is not unusual at all -   maybe extended time to visit and catch up after a session,   or lunch or dinner....     sometimes you actually become friends and share some personal time and space -    

but the game of giving more services for repeat business is just that -  make sure that what you want is on the table at the outset.....

I had a 1 hr appointment and she stayed for 2.  I chalked it up to her being "tired" and wanted to wait a while before we started.I had seen her twice before that.

The provider I've seen recently has never given me extra time or discounts.

 

"now if you happen to hit it off with a provider - a genuine enjoyment of one another's company,  a bit of hanging out OTC is not unusual at all -   maybe extended time to visit and catch up after a session,   or lunch or dinner....     sometimes you actually become friends and share some personal time and space - "

why in the world would you want to do that?

In fact I often screen for it when I am doing my research. I like to see hookers with tight snatches but loose clocks.  

You can get this info from reading reviews sometimes but it is more forthcoming by pm. Hookers here wont talk about this stuff publicly but it happens often bcd.

My kinda hooker and thanks for the honesty.  

Keep up the good work. Nice to see you GF too.  

Now, if you only allowed guys to negotiate your rate, you would jump to the head of my class.

You mean... when she said she was happy to see me, she says that to other guys??? NOOOOOOOOOO!!!

OTOH, social OTC is something different than playtime OTC. Aside from grandfathering, rates don't really come down. Maybe they sense who needs a discount and play some of them differently.

Extra playtime, going back to the hotel for a second bout, for instance, doesn't happen too often, and when it does it's a big deal for me.

One exception to rates, and this is rare, if she contacts me and offers a session at partial rate if I take her to a particular event or screening beforehand. There are some places a woman might want to not go alone, but they don't want a "date" either. The most extreme incident of this I've experienced was taking her to an opera (which I had no driving passion to attend), and I suppose the most mundane was seminar-type of gathering which was indeed of interest to both of us, but again, nothing I would've gone out of way for on my own. But this is a far cry from an invitation for additional time in the sack.

Oh, and there's the thing of turning a multi-hour session into an overnight for an additional amount that would have worked out to be a little less than advertised, but that was on a first visit and not because I was in one of her regulars. More an offer to stay with her at the hotel till morning and having breakfasy instead of each of us going home in the wee hours.

There's also the dark side of OTC, like being asked to move furniture from one incall plant to a new one, driver her to the airport, and such. But maybe in that case, the lady wanted to LOSE me as a regular but was just too kindhearted to tell me on so many words.

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The ones repeating were the ones that clicked well, (duh). Therefore, since we got along well, it was easy to click and it was fun. Since we clicked, it was easy to get along well especially she felt at ease around me. So she was worth repeating.  

Hmm, am I going in circles? I tend to do this when I'm really hungry. I need food. Maybe I'll have some roast beef sandwich to rejuvenate my depleted energy. lo

Not at all I just wanted to know if this a frequent thing so I can be on the lookout for this.

Like BBFS? If so u should go get tested... What's wrong with someone being nice & showing appreciation to someone who comes & visits many times? I don't do discounts nor do my favs expect it... But I don't watch the clock, some OTC outings, some other stuff that I may not with someone who's a one timer or a once in awhile.. It's all about chemistry... If you're having a great time with someone why NOT!!!  I know most of u assume us "Hookers" have no heart but we probably are some of the NICEST women you will EVER meet!!!

Be patient. Some of these guys are learning how to do business. It's their passion. It's getting the deal that gives them a hard on. And wheeler-dealers are always going to flock to P4P in inordinate droves. That sounds like a mixed metaphor, but it's not really. I digress.

The rest of us, tend to DEAL less effectively with each other, but instead excell in how we RELATE to one another. That's an insurmountable difference. You know the two types, and you experience both. It's true of men and women, but in men, the slick dealers are a little more obnoxious generally.

And, as time wears on, many of them will come to view it as only a phase they had to go through. Merchant, warrior, athlete, sage, parent, caregiver, student, teacher...wheeler-dealer? Why not? No big deal.

I would hope not. But in my experience there are things that are not normal per say that may be in her private world but are not normally in the hobby. I think it comes from chemistry and trust.

WTF?

Either that or she somehow got the idea you were into slave training.

Gosh, not me!  I just want to fuck 'em and leave so I can hang out with manly men, fart and belch.
Here's a hint for you, bunkie.  If you actually tried to imagine for a moment that, at a certain point, hookers are just people you'd know the answer to your question.
Have you ever actually been on a date?

Of the relatively few (relative to some members of this forum) providers I've seen, there's two whom I've seen frequently. Both are mid-20's. I don't expect either to want to go out to lunch or dinner with a man nearly 40 years her senior, and neither has asked or offered.  

Neither has ever offered a reduced donation, and I've never asked. I just pay full price.

I suspect that one or both have favorite customers they've gone to dinner with, or have given reduced or grandfathered rates.

One has given me photos of herself showing her fantastic body, as well as her face. Given her efforts to keep her identity secret and keep images of her face completely out of public view, I would guess that she doesn't do this for many guys. She also let me keep copies of a couple of videos we did together, which I would suspect is something she's done with few or maybe even no other guys. I think both of these are signs that she trusts me, and probably that she knows that any time I look at these, I'll be calling for another date

Hahaha what's there to negotiate? My multihours are low enough as it is.  In fact, I'd feel insulted if one implied they should be lower.

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I agree, some guys are just great to chat with over a meal and I do it quite frequently with my favorites.

and a few of the more enjoyable friendships I've been privileged with over the years have been with providers....

I have never in 5 years of hobbying been offered a reduced rate....  just grandfathered.  And I wouldn't expect it..... this is her profession and she deserves to get what she feels she is worth.   However, there are a few that offered "off-menu" services after repeat visits, which keep me coming back.

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I have a good friend with whom, somewhat to my surprise, I am almost totally interactive.  That is, she almost always offers a new wrinkle or two, and almost everything is on the table.  We rarely ask each other, but just swing into it and if it doesn't work we do something else.  I know her limits and respect them, but they are few and sometimes I have to work hard to keep up with her.  In my experience, I find this rare and very special, because it encourages improvising beyond the norm, which in any case is pretty liberal.  I tip generously, not always the same amount, but I think my generosity communicates to her -- without saying anything -- this sentiment:  "you are very special and I want your "A" game every time I see you."  Whether she likes me or not is not for me to measure, but she's always totally cheerful and very affectionate right up to final good-byes.  A rare treasure!

Less to do with frequency and more to do with how we get on. Which is why he comes back to begin with. Haven't we all been bored/horny and called a reg and threw em a freebie? NO??? Just me? FUCK.

Only with someone I naturally rock well with and someone who never ever never never tries to take advantage of me, or overstay his time. Something about feeling not only respected but valued makes me melt. As a matter of fact I have a sweetheart reg who was late as hell once (after already being the perfect client for like a year) and asked if he could still swing by to drop off the donation for the time… ASKED if it was ok… I'll toss him some punnanie free of charge whenever I feel like it because he never expects, pressures, demands or irks.
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Some do.  Regulars are valued.

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why look for a date in this world? doesnt make sense to me.

try match.com

you dont know what the hell youre talking about.

good answer.  

thanks for the reply.

about me.  

 I like to keep hobby and non hobby worlds seperate. but you seem to think everyone should hold YOUR opinion. Not so.

I never suggested everyone should do it my way.  Most people can't.  I simply suggested your way was narrow-minded.  I still think so.

I agree with you not only are some of u the nicest but u r also some of the honest women.

Thank you for being honest and treating decent men, well, decently!  I think there are quite a few guys here who act as your gentleman friend does, and respects you as a business person AND uses common courtesy in his dealings.  Bravo to him and bravo to you for treating him well.  And the more guys recognize that, and are rewarded for that, the better off we all will be.  And yes, there are dicks who will take advantage, but you have the right "get the fuck out of my face" attitude to give THEM!  

Sy

Thank you sybok1701 (about a year late) for just getting it. You keep getting it and being a good fella and I'll keep secretly being a sweetheart. Positivity works in ripples.