I just came back from the grocery store where I once again checked out a Cosmopolitan cover that advertised a story about how to know what turns a guy on; what the secret place is to touch, blah, blah, blah.

Do providers read these articles?  Do you learn anything from them?  Do you write them?  Do they work?

I actually dated a woman once who wrote articles like this.  She was a freelancer who could write on any topic.  The stories were not from first hand experience.  She was a good writer & just did a lot of research.

things that the Cosmo experts have no clue about. Good providers are the most sexually advanced of the human species.

I like the way you think and I agree. LOL

Smiles,
Anneke

I was told to ignore those magazines. I used to wear layers of makeup at age 22 and lots of hairspray and perfume and one guy who was in porn told me to stop that and that cotton bikinis were a turn on and to leave a little to the imagination and I followed is advice. I get more compliments from men now.  

I still wear makeup (eyes or mouth not both, nice clothes (tight fitting jeans instead of trailer trash shorts, and perfume (walk into instead of bath) and I get better quality men.

As for those articles, I have noticed from massage school that men love being touch EVERYWHERE. Going straight for that groin and prostate gland does little for them.  Listening to them, making eye contact, adding humor and a genuine smile goes a long way. Men may be more physical than women but they still want someone to understand them.

I do pick up Cosmo once in a while. I am tempted by those very stories you mention -- the definitive secret for turning a man on, etc. etc.

I keep thinking "no one knows everything" and "there's always more to learn" and so I buy the damned thing... and it always ends up with me sitting there, reading, going "yes, yes, yes, I knew that! yes, yes, DUH! etc."

I swear I'll never buy Cosmo again, and then, a few months later, there it is at the checkstand, with some new titillating topic... sheesh. I'm such a sucker.

Moral of the story: even smart girls can do stupid things.

xxxooo
Beverly ;-*

...and buy clueless articles on how to emerge from their sexual dark age.  It's like putting out your eyes so that your illusions of the world can never be challenged by real vision, while claiming to see more.

But I digress....

wow dude

you're taking it so serious

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Please don't attack me. I will become awkwardly defensive.

I dated a sex therepist for six years.  She had a Ph.D., published 7 or 8 books, and was often contacted by Cosmo and other magazines for quotes.

Here's why she quit talking to Cosmo.  Cosmo would frequently call her with story ideas.  Sometimes they were basically OK, but other times she'd tell them that their premise was flawed and they shouldn't wirte the article.  Typically, they'd ignore her and write whatever they pleased- even with the knowledge that it wasn't based on fact.

But it gets worse.  Sometimes, to legitimze their bogus story, they'd attribute a quote to her that she never even gave them!   Or they'd change a quote she did give them in order to suit their purpose.  She got so tired of being misquoted that she finally cut them off completely- and you should too.

Cosmo editors are in the business of selling magazines and they do so with titilating stories.  The better the eye appeal at the check-out line, the more they sell.  They couldn't care less about factual correctness, so don't use them as a source for any serious information.

Can't run your bulb on just 25 IQ points, er, watts, can you?

...in this society, comedy is cheap and freely available, much more than sex, really.  I admire Mark Twain, who was both funny and serious.

Yes, I do think there are some bad implications to having a sexually starved, horny population who the media can then tease into buying products.  In some moods I laugh, in others, I get pissed.  

why don't they quote the thread on G-spot that at least get some men and lesbians excited

Cosmo is for amateurs.