I have to admit I can get turned on more by watching porn than a real women. I gone on "dates" with real hot women and honestly couldn't finish a load since I started to lose interest.

Note, I don't think I have ever visit a full blown PSE provider and it might be bit too much of chit-chating than real action causing loss of interest.  

Anyone else had similar issues?

Think of all the money you save. I personally p4p for the companionship with no strings attached and that its cheaper than a therapist. For a quick orgasm i just turn to a free porn vid. Its a more and more common "problem" these days as porn is free and easy to access. The problem shouldnt be porn itself but jacking off with a grip that is too tight.

...you can have "dual thoughts" - one about the provider you're with and the other about the porn you're watching.  That should get you off.

Are you talking a bad experience with a woman? Or most of your experiences with providers? Or what. Porn does nothing for me anymore. It did for awhile when I was younger but not any more. Not 90% Thats out there at least. For porn to do something for me, it usually has to be damn damn innovative, real voyeurism of some kind or real sex not scripted sorta speak. And for the most part real sex not scripted is often times not good bc damn most people suck at the shit and look awful doing it. Lol. Damn. I'm sure I do to but I'm not looking at myself! Ha. So just sayin!  Can't do the porn as a substitute for good sex. Anything and everything is better than bad sex though!!!! Fuck bad times in the sack! Idc if it's with a p4p lady or a p4p Civvie or a Civvie. Lol. Oh yes. Why don't people talk about the p4p civvies out there more here on this board. Lol. Anyhoo. That will be a one time deal. No second chances allowed for bad sex. I'll take some porn then I suppose or just hurry to find some good sex! Lol.

Btw. Shit sucks for you. Full blown PSE providers have never been my slice of the pie and I've had good experiences galore in this hobby. Hmmmm. You might just be cut differently though with different tastes in sex. So I can understand then your issue. Well, go get you some PSE providers bro. Shake it up!!!!! Satisfy the urges and interests you have!!!

Real is better than fantasy...

Looks like everyone is trying to perform psychoanalysis on you....But did you tell us whether you could suffer from porn addiction? What type of porn ("run of the mill" a guy and a girl porn, gang bang, bisexual, BDSM, etc).

I get turned on by BDSM porn that is more severe than anything I would or could do in real life. In general a real life female remains the most exciting thing for me.

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"If you took all the girls I knew when I was single,
And brought them all together for one night.
I know they'd never match my sweet little imagination,
And everything looks worse in black and white."*

 
*It's thought that people dream in black & white.  Despite that, Simon says (ha) that dreams/imagination are still better than real life.  IOW, fantasy is better than real.

...on my phone. As this porn star, who she resembled which is why we were watching it, was moaning away she started sucking my dick. Nice.  But to answer your question, no, I don't have that problem.

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But it sure is less problematic as well as infinitely more cost effective.

Porn has the ability to set up  circumstances that if I could replicate them in my life, would be more of a turn on than the sex I have with escorts, but I know that is not going to happen.

So, I resign myself to enjoy the sex I have, as real life sex beats the one dimensional sex of a video screen by a mile by combining all the senses and then some.

If I was given a choice between viewing any porn I want versus having real life sex with escorts, the latter would win in a heartbeat

Here, here!

.....but a real lady has to be the main event.

I watch porn almost every day, the only time I don't is the 4-5 days prior to a date (an excruciating 4-5 days for me, lol).

But I'm way more turned on by a sexy woman in the flesh than porn. I'll admit this though, the level of beauty and sexiness that turns me on has been raised since my hobby started.

There are many times where I have met guys and wanted them to just be what I wanted them to be and perform the way I wanted them to, for my pleasure and use, and often they screw it up and I am no longer interested. Then I found the hobby. A little different outlet, but I can have minimal interaction and to get to the good carnal pleasure stuff with less of the human emotional get to know each other stuff.  

Kinda backwards for a lady to say but I am all for objectifying men as much as I can get into them objectifying me. But as all things in life, there is a time and a place. No you cannot expect real girls you "date" to be your ever ready three hole wonder fuck toy. But thankfully you can rent one! Lol!

Unless you see a DDG (drop dead gorgeous) model or elite escort most real women in real life have FLAWS. And I mean both physically and personality-wise.

OTH what we see in porns usually are the PERFECT women. Physically they are chosen to have the most attractive and desirable bodies. Any physical flaws can be masked or hidden with makeup and/or camera tricks. Personality-wise they submissively do EVERYTHING we men can possibly dream of. And without a hint of attitude or negativity. Of course they are being paid to ACT that way.

But still the effect is the same

I totally do! There are so many reasons why: I can control so much about the movie; the women are amazing to look at (lighting, make-up, angles, looks - sometimes); and I don't have to do anything but pleasure myself in the way I want. I have been with very accommodating and beautiful women who know how to please - yet its still challenging for me to finish. So, I can agree with you. That said, I do like variety so seeing someone for real is still often very enjoyable

and most of the professional porn actresses do nothing for me.