Loarthan mentioned he didn't like Kerry's stance on Gay Marriages.
I get emails that are for petitioning against same sex marriages to sign and pass on, but I delete them. I mean, I don't CARE whether gays are allowed to marry or not.
To PRESERVE marriage?! What marriage is? What is it? What has it become? It's so defiled and bastardized already, what's the difference?
I know it's just me, and I'm sure I'll be flamed, but to me, marriage is a farce and a joke anyway. I haven't believed in it for years, just watching married couples! In all the years I've been on this planet, I can only think of TWO marriages I even saw some worthiness, and admired. EVERY other time has left me feeling sorry for him, or sorry for her, and ALWAYS: glad I'm single.
I know MY idea of marriage, and those standards are the only way I'd ever even entertain the thought of marriage. If it doesn't exist, then I'm fine without. Same with a relationship.
If two people, who happen to be the same sex, think they can do it, and do it 'right' by each other, who am I to say no in the face of a 60% divorce rate of the 'correct' heterosexual pairings?
And this comes from a small town girl raised in staunch Christianity...
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Personally I feel that if two people love each other and want to make a public commitment that they are going to share their lives, then good for them. I don't care if they are the same sex or not. If anything I think many of these same sex marriages will be stronger unions than the normal straight sex marriages tend to be. Part of this is that I think very few straight people have ever really though about what marriage is beyond the Fairy Tale happily ever after kind of thing. I find that most engaged couples have never talked to each other about what exactly marriage and being married means to each of them. When they do, they often find that their ideas are wildly different from each others. Some of these couples work out compromises and stay together all their lives. (Very Rare) Most just cite irreconcilable differences and divorce. They should have spent more time getting to know each other before the wedding, rather than just fucking.
Year ago ...
I offered 100% health care coverage to my employees and 75% coverage for spouses and family members.
A gay man that worked for me pointed out that it was unfair that I wouldn't extend coverage to his SO just because he was gay ... so I extended the coverage to his SO.
A single man with live-in girlfriend came to me after that and said it was unfair that I would extend benefits to the gay man's SO and not to his girlfriend, so I extended coverage to her, too.
Then a single man with NO girlfriend came to see me. It seems that he felt it was unfair that I extended health care only to him while I spent more money for everyone else and shouldn't I give him the difference in cash?
I discontinued paying for health care coverage for spouses and families. I figured that if there was absolutely no depth to the unfairness I'd be accused of, I might as well be unfair and richer.
Legalize gay marriage. Tell the gay man and everyone else that all they have to do to get coverage for their SO is get married.
Only 42% of households in the U.S. are "traditional heterosexual married couples". That sound you hear is our institutions trying to catch up with the rest of us.
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