and it got me to thinking, and I apologize if this has been brought up before, but, what if you ran into one of your favorite providers in an unexpected public setting. I live in the OC, so this is a very realistic possibility. Lots of people, but, geographically, a pretty tight area, at least when you consider the malls and hot spots like Newport Beach. It does happen, I run into casual acquaintances and good friends all the time at these places, especially sporting events.
So, I'm wondering how you would handle it if you see ****** over there, alone shopping or hanging out. If I'm with the SO, who has some serious Bi tendencies, but would never get with this hobby of mine, would I strike up the conversation, praying it stayed discreet, and lead to the bedroom, or maybe just a hello and a nod. This scenario must have played out for some of you guys. What's the call here?
As an aside, now that I've been involved in this hobby, when I'm out and about and see some hot girl, I can't help wondering if she escorts. If she's really hot, I almost feel like telling her she could be printing money if she crossed over to the dark side....
NSF
If you can handle things the way cooch did, great. I'm sure he is savvy enough to have sensed any negative indications.Don't know if you are 18 or 55 yr old, and it DOES make a difference as to how you handle yourself.
So all that being said, I would say NO MORE THAN EYE CONTACT. If she chooses to ignore you, IT'S FOR A GOOD REASON.
And remember....before you go hanky spanky...we ladies are not necessarily in that mall alone.
Then of course you might not care if you run into her boyfriend, get the cold glare or have security called on you...
then, that's me. I'm so busy with stuff that I go to the mall to do a job, not to pick up guys. Because for sure, a vice or maybe a loony would be on my tail. That's just my luck. Or the way I see it.
Good Luck.
Recognizing a provider when she is out and about is probably not as easy as you might think since you're completely out of context. It's like seeing a coworker every day and then not recognizing her at the grocery store on a Saturday afternoon.
It would be in extremely poor taste to approach your provider with your significant other. I know that I would be horrified and never see the client again. I can't even imagine it, really.
Best,
Kate
Point taken, I was just thinking of the hypothetical situation, obviously much discretion would be taken if it were to unfold anyway, which it probably would not.
Truth be told, I'm sure I would walk away giving myself a high five in my head going, 'yeah, been there, done that', but without ever saying anything. And yeah the SO would definately be kept away unless we are at a club or cocktailing somewhere and all systems were a go for all parties involved.
That being said, I'm sure it has happened to some of the guys and gals out there and dealt with appropriatly based on thier relationship.
If you're a regular with someone and see them in passing somewhere (you make eye contact or whatever), it would seem to me that it would almost more awkward not to acknowledge in some way. I'm not envisioning running up and and saying "boy, I really love fucking you last week", just a hello. Just wondering how this weird situation has been dealt with.
NSF
acknowledge each other.
When you think about it, nothing really good can come of it. Her SO may be just around the corner, or she may be with friends. His friends or SO may be as well. What does either party gain by an immediate conversation? Very little. What does either party lose by an embarrasing moment - possibly lots.
The client and hobbiest can laugh about it later.
In the case of exploring a SO's attraction to women, NSF, you may just point the provider out and let out a comment of "whow, she's hot! - don't you think?" If she agrees, well, pull a "cooch" and go over SOLO to "introduce" yourself.
For me, if two disjoint groups start to mingle (say at a club or something), I (hope I) would pre-emptively introduce myself to the provider the same way I would anybody else I met. Never letting on to others that she and I knew each other...
Now, w.r.t. seeing a hot girl and wondering if she provides, I recall a post from a provider doing the same thing with guys. "I wonder if he sees escorts? I'd love him to call me...."
FWIW.
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I have invited my regular provider to public events,(I'm an artist) where my SO was on hand, she of course came knowing that, so there was no surprise. She assumes a new identity, and we do a lot of wink and smile.
The eye contact tells you if it is appropriate to speak. A brief friendly smile may be indicated. The eye contact will reveal what you should do.
...saw and thought beautiful. More accurately, she wasn't a provider AS FAR AS I KNOW. LOL