A few providers I have been with have referred to their boyfriends, and it got me curious about something...

Remember the episode of Seinfeld where he was dating a masseusse and couldn't get a massage from her?

You know where I am going with this, right?

So, this question is for providers, and their boyfriends...  Do you find your personal sex life suffers as a result of it being your work?

Some providers have commented that their husbands or SO don't give out.  They started in the biz cause they couldn't get it from them.

In reality, providers do not have traditional boyfriends; at least not to the same degree as 98%+ of the population do. But it is possible and happens often for a provider to see or date at a casual basis one or more people. I just got off that boat myself.

A couple of years back, when I was living in a different city that I do now, I became the boyfriend of a provider.  It was her choice, she pursued me.  

As far as her "personal" sex life (and mine), it didn't work out too well.  It turns out that in "real" life she didn't like sex.  As a matter of fact, she didn't even like to be touched.  We were doing it "for free" for a while, but once it was established that we were in a "relationship" it stopped.  Needless to say the relationship didn't last long.

I hear you ther Inspector Morse, been there threefold, done that.

I can honestly say that when I was seriously dating(which I am not now) and working at the same time, because my partner was oblivious to my job, it actually became a real turn.  The thrill of my partner not knowing what I had been doing all day, the imagery of a previous encounter from work and then coming home and having him there as a follow up, brought our really intense, organisms.  It was as if work was sort of foreplay which lead up the grand finaleeeeeeeee

I am presently single, but can tell you that there is a distinct difference between sex for hire & sex for love. And as stated in an earlier post, "Most providers do not have 'traditional' relationships". Their SO's are usually "part-time".

Are you kidding?? Our sex life is awesome, and even better since becoming a provider.

He LOVES it when I've just finished an appointment (for some reason, JUST HAVING an appt. makes us even hornier!) and I call him up to come over and we re-enact the whole appointment or do our own thing.

No, he's very spoiled..and pampered..and loves it.

Not me, I have had a provider for a girlfriend and had the best sex life. We usually had great sex a couple times a day. She spoiled me rotten and it makes it kind of hard to find a good girlfriend now!

Many years ago, I went to one of the semi-reputable massage places in Boston, and got a great massage from one of the women.  As we were talking, she told me her boyfriend knew she gave massages, but had never been to this place to learn that they offered some "extras".  

After she got home from a long day, and of course her hands were totally tired of giving massages, to the point of numbness, her boyfriend could not understand why she did not give him a massage..

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…Although I probably wouldn’t go as far as to say our personal sex life has been heightened by her business, I would agree our sex life is like no other I have ever experienced.  I think that this has more to do with whom we are, as opposed to what either one of us does in the world.
Of course after one or more rounds of clients not being able to satisfy her certain needs, I am happy to take on the task of scratching those itches

As far as massages goes, all I need is to feel her touch. I swear there is electricity flowing between us when we meet, that is absolutely f*cking incredible!

Signed,
One very lucky, spoiled and pampered man….

aka SM

but the topic is curious to me
i have no experience with having a boyfriend and being a sex providor, i wonder how it would turn out

I had a wonderful boyfriend for two years of my Providing career.  Although he wasn't the jealous type, me not being able to be sexually committed to him eventually became one of the biggest reasons we're no longer together.  I hate to be cynical here, but in my experience, there are only a few types of guy that can be involved in a relationship with a Provider: a)the pimp or wannabe pimp ('cause they sometimes brainwash the Provider into thinking she's their girl, or one of them...), b) the guy who's looking for a sugar mama (there are lots of those!), c) they guy who is aroused by the fact that his partner is sleeping with other people, d) the guys who think that Providers are "easy," e)the guys who don't understand that there's a difference between Providing and casual sex, so unless they're Providing the same way we are, there's always a cheating factor.  I don't think that I'll attempt to have another serious romantic relationship until I move on to another profession.  I'm sure there are a few, and I said a FEW men that can deal with their partner being a Provider and still manage to have a healthy relationship, but I've never seen it happen.  Even if there's honesty from the beginning, there's usually problems later on.  

Being a Provider does tend to slow down my libido in my personal life, however it's still pretty healthy!!!  As far as not wanting to be touched... Well, you'll only find me that way when Aunt Flo comes to visit.  LOL!

Jaclyn

you are so beautiful and I looooove your pictures

no matter what certain men say (when they pay to see me)about wanting me as a girlfriend, when it comes right down to it, they finally admit they wouldn't like it. I don't think too many men would understand it. So, fortunately, I don't have to worry about it right now because I'm single.

Meant to say orgasm, The Big O, yada yada yada

Thank you, Sweetie!!!  

xoxo
Jaclyn

I have a "boyfriend" and he knows what I do. In fact, he probably wouldn't be interested in me as much if I wasn't a provider.
Some guys have the "hooker/stripper" fetish. I know you may think its unreasonable to think that. But, I know for a fact that the guy that I am with has only dated strippers, escorts and possible street walkers since his divorce.
Sex is awesome and it helps to have a guy who is confident and knows his way around a woman. I think some men are a lil' reluctant to perform based on the fact that sex is our business and they think you are some kind of "sex professor". Not true, of course. Its important that you are naturally sensual, enjoy sex and affection and love men.